So I went from being in a situation with 2 possible dads, now to knowing the real father…
I had an amniocentesis done a while back now, and it was a big relief to finally know who the dad was, and it turned out to be my ex-boyfriend of 3 years. At first, he seemed okay, a bit… It wasn’t like he hated the thought, and then all of a sudden, he turned on me. I remained friends with the other guy and now he’s my go-to guy that I can talk to.
He said even having the scare that he was going to be a father changed his life. He’s been skydiving, taking pilot lessons, and doing all kinds of crazy intense things to get it all out of his system, but at the same time, he’s doing things he loves so that when he does have a baby, he won’t react the same way and abandon whoever it is he’s with… Now my ex-boyfriend of 3 years says ” I don’t care what you do, whatever, I don’t care, f off, f u.” But the minute he found out I was hanging out with the other guy, he just seems to think he can say hurtful things that will bring me down… He doesn’t understand that the other guy was my friend for years. Just the other day, he told me not to speak to him till the baby was born (in February). I also needed some info from him to get unemployment for my parental benefits and he refused to give that to me, also threatened to call the unemployment place where my maternity was already approved and tell them to not give me it, for such and such reasons (such as I’M NOT THE FATHER )…
I can see why he would be a little pissed off at me and all. I can’t get the proof from the dr’s office and he’s not allowed to review the papers cause his name isn’t on them, but why would I lie when it comes to something this major? Specially when the other guy is financially fit and would make a great dad. Just because he’s my ex? All I really wanted to say when he pretty much accused me of doing so was, right… Can you pull your head outta your butt now? The world doesn’t revolve around you… I’m 23 weeks & 5 days as of today and I know I shouldn’t be feeling stressed and upset all the time. I did eliminate him from my life for now, and my dad’s girlfriend gave me some pretty encouraging words and my family has been more supportive now. (for now )… I just wish I knew what was going through his head. He told me a few days prior… “It’s hard to love you, because of the stuff you pulled.” ( Which was nothing at all? ) ” I love you sometimes.”…
But any memories, we had or done all fade away a little at a time when I feel that baby kick… It’s the most amazing feeling in the world and he’s missing it… I just hope he comes to realize he walked away on 2 of the most important people in his life, regardless if he says he hates me, deep down… He’s only saying them as words… Which is why he doesn’t wanna talk to me & be around me, because I’m not the person he makes me out to be to people and he knows it…
I just hope he comes to realize he has to step up and be a man now… and if he doesn’t, he’s gonna be sorry… specially when that baby is old enough to realize…
