Hmm… Where to start…
Well, I’m not pregnant! 🙂 I took a test and it’s official. I feel like I have a big weight lifted off of my shoulders. I didn’t tell my mom about this scare, but I’ll tell her someday when the time is right. Although I got strange looks from people at Target, it was well worth it and I made a friend who works there. She’s a single mom, maybe about 18? She was super nice. She said just to ignore the people who are giving you the weird looks. I stuck around for a while so that when she got off break, she could talk to me a little bit about my decision if I was indeed pregnant. She said that keeping the baby is a tough job, but well worth it. But after telling her how old I was, she said adoption would be my best option if I was pregnant. She was like the big sister I never had. She truly saved my life that day.
And then there’s one other thing. Me and boyfriend aren’t seeing each other anymore. We actually broke up before I took the test, which wasn’t a smart move because I would need him by my side if I was pregnant. I actually did the breaking up part. He was getting so serious, talking about settling down with me someday and having kids, and I’m not ready to be done looking for guys. I’m still only 14 and for all I know he might not be the right one for me. And plus, our relationship was getting too sexual too fast. He wanted to do sexual activity whenever I came over and all I wanted to do was hang out with him and have a good time. Now, I didn’t break up with him just because of those two things, I also didn’t have any feelings left for him. Before we started seeing each other, I worked so hard to get him and then when I finally got him, it was like ‘Oh.. well, I finally have you and I don’t have any feelings left for you now, wtf?’ And he said well we can just take a break and I said, “I’m sorry, but I can’t keep coming back to you. I need to move on and get rid of this security thing I have with you. I need to live life as a teenager and be thinking about settling down with you.” And also, me and him have been off and on for a year and a half, and this year, I’m going to a new school with new people, and if I meet someone I don’t want to cheat.
Well, I’m glad I have that weight lifted off my shoulders and can live life like a teenager now 🙂
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After reading many women’s stories, I thought writing everything down may help.
There’s a chance I could be pregnant. I think it’s more likely yes than no, and that thought scares me. I don’t really know what to do. I’ve had scares before as I am extremely paranoid. I’m a 16-year-old and I love my boyfriend more than anything. I know he thinks getting rid of a baby would be easy as when I’ve been scared before he’s always not really listened. But now I feel weird. I’ve had plans, looked up procedures, and I know everything I need to. But the reality is quite different from the facts. I am lost, as I don’t want to feel the hurt that some women have. However, I know I have to have an abortion as I have no financial support and my mum wouldn’t allow me to keep it. Neither would my boyfriend. It’s stupid of me to keep it. It would ruin my life and I know it’s impossible. Therefore, I have to sit and wait around, hoping I get my period.
I’ve been having cramps since at least a week ago, and I’m due at some point this week. I am praying I get it as I don’t want to hurt a baby, but I know that if I have to, then I have no other alternative. This makes me sad, and as much as I want this to all go away, its my own fault, and I shouldn’t have been so stupid.
I’m on the pill, so we haven’t always used condoms, not at all recently. Which I knew was a bad idea, but it didn’t stop me. But I always felt quite confident as he always pulled out, making it slightly safer as there would be less there.
But anyway, I now fear that this will change me, as it has so many others. I always thought I would be able to do this, but I just know it will hurt me emotionally and be quite unbearable.
I just joined this site for this purpose as I thought that someone on here would be more experienced and knowledge- filled than me.
So basically, I was wondering if you could tell me how likely it is that I’m pregnant, and if I am, has anyone had the up to 13 week surgical abortion? Because I think that would be my preference.
A final worry is that I will be too late to have the abortion done. I’ll test next week if nothing happens. And I’ll be around 5 weeks then, so I don’t want to run out of time.
Any advice is welcome, and sorry for writing so much, I always thought it was impossible to write as much as some people do, but then I guess I’ve found I have a lot to say.
Thank you for reading.
My issues are sort of different. I’ve been in a relationship with the same man off and on for 10 years. We have a 7 year old child. And we’ve lived together for the last three years. Everything is in our names together. We are what you consider “common law” married. I am not very young, and not in school. I am a working full time.
My home life hasn’t been very happy lately. I guess it comes with being with someone for so long. We had been fighting a lot, and decided to separate. During one of our moments of making up, I ended up getting pregnant. We were careful-using condoms. But I still got pregnant. When I first suspected being pregnant, I took a pregnancy test. It was negative. But my cycle never came, so I took another-in fact 3 tests-all positive. I just sat there and cried. Here I am preparing to move out on my own, and this happens. I didn’t know what to do and I was afraid to tell him.
I talked to my family who was very happy for me, and would support me in my decision. But when I finally told him, things went horrible. It was like I had stolen from him, or raped him. He didn’t understand how it could happen. If it was even his. How he didn’t want more children. How I was just trying to force him to stay with me-that he just wanted me out of his life! He didn’t care at all about me. My son didn’t understand all the fighting, or crying. All he wanted was an abortion and me gone.
Then, a couple of days later, he approached me, telling me about the abortion pill. At that point, I was tired of fighting and just agreed. I looked into it, and thought it would be the right choice. My family was even encouraging me to do it so that I could be free of him and have a fresh start. I made my appointment then went to the clinic ALONE. I was in such a rush to have it done, otherwise I wouldn’t have been able to go through with it. Turns out I was 6 weeks pregnant. The other women there looked scared or nervous. Everyone basically watched the floor, like they were ashamed. Including me. Some women didn’t even know about the pill option. But the surgery was not for me. I took the pill, got the rest of the meds to take at home, then left.
Everything happened so fast after that. I came home to have my miscarriage. When I was really giving away a child. The next day, I took the other pills-then the bleeding and cramping started. My very first trip to the restroom, and there was the baby. All I could do was cry. And where was the father? Out celebrating! I never complained about the pain, nausea, or anything else. I didn’t have the right to.
I haven’t been the same since. I chose to end my baby’s life because I was scared to do things alone. Because people encouraged it because I thought I didn’t have any other options. When that wasn’t the case, and I see that now. But it’s too late. I want my child back. And that will never happen. I have nightmares all the time. Even about losing my son. I did something I don’t believe in, and justified it. I guess that is my punishment. Every day, I hate myself more. Maybe one day I will be blessed to become a parent again. And I will be just that!
I’m Really Confused right now! I need help figuring it out…
I’m thinking about taking Skyler’s Daddy to court to get child support from him. He hasn’t paid for her ever. It’s been 3 1/2 years now. I don’t know how to get him to pay it. I’m scared he will fight and not have to pay for his daughter who he calls a mistake that should have not been born. He told me that I shouldn’t have kept my baby and killed it. I have never seen this side of him before.
How can I get him to pay for his kid, even though he doesn’t want her alive? I need HELP!!
It’s funny how life turns out. One day, you are mommy’s & daddy’s little gal, and the next, you all just don’t agree on anything and everything.
It’s amazing how one can have two hearts and when the weight of the world is on their shoulders manage to keep them beating as one. I just wonder how life would have turned out if I hadn’t given in to pressure, but hey, life has a design and it’s either you follow the pattern or you lose out. I chose not to lose out anymore coz my design was spread out wide and I came across everyone here.
This site is like a home away from home, a pillar of strength, a mother. You can be sure that if you come here with a question, it will be answered. And even when you feel lost, you will surely find your way. I can remember the 1st time I came across this site. I was drowning in misery and sorrow. I got more than what I came here for. I got friends, people who can relate to what i was feeling.
Today, I can say I’m healed from all the heartache and sorrow I feel. I’m a new person who embraces life and its gifts.
A sudden gift, how could it be? One that comes from two times twenty-three
Could it be a heart that beats for me?
My life?
Was it given to me, just only me?
How could I have sent it away?
But I guess it just wasn’t meant for me……….
