Hello everyone, well, I’m 16 and about 12 months ago, I fell pregnant by a boy I was seeing. When I found out, I was so happy but so scared of what to do, what to tell my parents… But I knew I had to and they were OK with it but disappointed in me. But 9 months ago was also the worst time ever for me because I did something that I know I will never do again. I had an abortion.
At the time, I was feelin really weird felt like it wasn’t really happening and everyone was telling me it was the best thing to do at my age. The boy said he would never be able to be there except for giving me money because he was too young. He was 19, a lot older than I was, and I was still in school. He hurt me a lot to be saying that. It was not what I wanted to hear.
So I became to think that it was the best thing to do and when the day came, I was so scared it was horrible. When I came out, I sat on the bed and cried into my arms. I couldn’t believe what I had just done but it was too late to do anything. The whole time, I could of said something but I felt like I couldn’t, like no one would listen to what I wanted or what I thought. I tried to talk to him after but he didn’t wanna listen. He just said shhh, it will be OK and that’s it. He neva even came round to see how I was!! The whole of my summer holiday, I had to put on a brave face because I didn’t want to tell no one bout what I had been through so I couldn’t show how I felt which was hard and painful coz I wanted to sit and cry.
Its been 12 months and I’m still finding it really hard most of the time, I just sit and cry or I’m just walking round really annoyed and angry, specially when I see other girls the same age doing OK for themselves. Hope that didn’t sound bad the way I said that because I think you girls are brilliant and I wish everyone the best of luck with their pregnancies. I could of done the same if I had only done what I wanted and listened to myself, not everyone else and my mom’s mate who had done the same at my age and said it would be the best thing to do. But what can I do now…. nothing. Just help other people who are thinking about abortion and there is one thing I will say and that’s please, don’t do it because its really hard and upsetting unless it is what you really want to do. Please never let anyone tell you what’s best because only you can do what you want, no one can make you. There is always a way round, no mater what.
It’s taken the boy 12 months to talk about it and that was only once and its too late now. I needed to speak to him before. He now wishes he hadn’t made me go through it. Well, it’s too late too
If there is anyone who would like to chat, it would be lovely because I’ve never spoken out to anyone about what I went though because I’ve not had anyone who knows what its like and understands. That’s what makes it a lot harder, not talking about it to anyone because you keep it all trapped up and it will bubble away at you and I know that well.
Thank you for reading my story
My story is not complete, nor will it ever be. I am currently twenty weeks pregnant, and my story isn’t unlike many others, just different because my life was never the best one.
My dad had counted on me to not be a screw up like others in his familia. Some of my cousins have gotten pregnant and I told myself I would never be like them. There was a big difference between them and me: I love my partner, and he loves me back.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half (off and on once) when we first had sex. The first time, I was on the pill, and the second time, I had just gotten off my period, so we were safe. However, the third time was unprotected, because I thought I just had my period, but as we found out two months later, we should’ve used a contraceptive. I had missed my period for the second time, and I had some money, but no time in town to buy a pregnancy test, so I asked my boyfriend. He’s always agreed to do anything for me, so he picked one up for me. After school, he made his way to the weight room to work out, and I took the test from his locker to take the test in the bathroom. I had my friends stay in the hall so I could have their support. One of my good girl friends ran down to the bathroom with me and I took the test. I waited thirty seconds, and looked, and looked, and stared. I was in shock. We ran back to the rest of my friends and I showed them the test. I couldn’t take it. I cried my eyes out in their arms. I wanted this to be a dream. I wanted my period back. I couldn’t do this now. Not now. But it was true. That little test told me that everything has changed now. My life as a child was done.
I told my friends first, and counselors, and other people other than my mother, step-dad, and my father because I was afraid of what would happen. My boyfriend was told by my best friend, who happens to be one of his also, but he loves me, so he supported me no matter what. Eventually, we told his parents first, and they helped in telling my parents. I was at my best friend’s house when I asked my parents to come over. My mom wasn’t in a good mood because of arguing with my step-dad earlier. I took her outside and told her. She was in complete shock. She kept telling me that I was going to abort it. That I am not going to have this baby. I told her no. I was going to have it, no matter what she said. Eventually she told my father, and we still haven’t talked since then.
Long story short; she got over it and learned to deal. All my friends are really supportive. My boyfriend is very loving and he helps me whenever I need him. We’re making plans now and I’m seeing a doctor for prenatal stuff. We went in two days ago for the 20-week ultrasound and found out we’re having a baby girl. He was there and he cried, as expected. We’re having a lot of money problems, and housing is difficult for us now and in the near future. Even though I know we’d have a really difficult life, I want to keep her and watch her grow up and offer her as much love and care as I can. I know Daddy wants to be with her and be over-protective when she’s a teenager, and I’m great with that.
My life is not the same as it use to be but it has changed for the better after I had my abortion at 14 years old.
I tried committing suicide in my room. Ever since then, my life has changed in some good ways and some bad. After my abortion, I fell into a depression mood and started doing drugs drinking, happened to get raped, and I finally hit rock bottom and had to get help.
Hey girls! Just to let you know that I have not deserted you all.
My computer’s broken down so I can’t get online as often as I used to, but please, please, PLEASE keep in touch! Love you all!! Xx
Oh and congrats to my girl who just got pregnant after trying for a while…PROOF that my baby dust works!!! Mwah!!!
I started dating my boyfriend 2 months before I decided to have sex. I was 14 and I found out I was pregnant two days before my 15th birthday.
I was so scared to tell my mom about it and I didn’t know what to do. After I had the baby, my boyfriend and I started to fight off and on all the time and we never did that before. I’m scared that we are falling apart. He is also leaving on the 8th of Jan for 6 months to basic training. I don’t know if I’m going to be able to take care of my daughter while he is gone. My mom doesn’t really have the money to help. She barely has enough money to support her, my sister, her son, and me, never the less another child. She won’t let me get a job. She tells me that I need to focus on my school work.
I don’t know how I’m going to be able to do it or even if I can.
Hey reader, I am 17 y/o. I am 13 weeks pregnant. I am lost about my situation and I am very scared.
I love my baby’s father despite his desire to want to leave me. I feel betrayed by him. His mom helps a lot. She is ready to be a grandmother for now. I don’t know how to tell my parents that I am pregnant, but my mommy has asked once or twice before.
My aunt knows though. She had her first when she was 18. She is part of the reason that I am scared because she keeps telling me that it is tough.
