I’m 20 years old and I had only been dating my boyfriend for less than two months when I found out I was pregnant.
Coming from a Christian family, I didn’t want to tell my parents so I did think about aborting it but after finding this site and reading other gurls’ stories, I changed my mind. It also turned out my boyfriend wanted to keep it all along. And my parents handled the news better than I thought.
I am currently 8 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend and his family have been amazingly supportive.
Tonight for me was once again reliving my daughter’s pain that her biological father is not here.
As a mom, there is nothing worse than your child crying and you look into their eyes and you just see they are in pain and there is nothing you can do about it. You can give those words of encouragement and hug them as only a mom can do, but it still isn’t good enough. I would take her pain times a million if given the chance. The pain that she feels is rejection and she has a hard time trusting and loving because she feels everyone is going to do what her dad has done to her. Somehow this man, her father, has done nothing for her and lives thousands of miles away but still he is hurting my baby. Because he is not here.
Now I in no shape or form want for him to be here, it has been two and a half years. We were together for 8 years and I thought like most teens that we would be together forever. I am happier today then I have ever been, I am engaged and with a man that is a wonderful role model for my daughter. However, for her to wrap her mind around that is very difficult. If she loves my fiancé, she feels she is betraying her father and if she opens herself up, she fears he too will leave. My five and a half year old knows what rejection feels like and tells me she is afraid my fiancé will leave too. As a mom, I wish my daughter would know only what love is. At five, you are not supposed to have to swallow and accept rejection and trust issues.
The reason I am writing this tonight is I want for every girl thinking of planning to get pregnant and is not married to please reconsider. Not having a mom and dad together does hurt children. Not for a day or a month, but for years, maybe even their whole life. Having a child (planning it) is selfish. I know most girls swear they will be with their boyfriend forever but you don’t know that. In fact, the chance that you will be is very slim. Who you love now, you may not love 5 years from now because you will not be the same person. As an adult, you could get over your partner, but children do not.
SO I FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART, I’M TELLING YOU WAIT UNTIL YOU’RE MARRIED AND ARE WITH MR. RIGHT FOR THE CHILD’S SAKE.
It was the beginning of our matric year and we were excited and carefree. Both deeply in love with the men of our dreams. Nothing could touch us. Or so we thought.
I was lying in bed with my boyfriend and decided to onto Mxit (a cellphone instant messaging service). When I saw my friend was unhappy, I asked her what was wrong.
“I think I’m pregnant” came the reply.
>My heart went out to her and the minute we got back to school, I was by her side. Her being too scared to go to the doctor and me being the one who did Biology, I explain as best I could the options and their pros and cons. Until it came time to make the decision.
Her boyfriend wanted her to keep it. He said he’d marry her and they could be happy. But she felt too young to be mother and more then that she felt too ashamed to go home and tell her parents that their little girl was pregnant. So she did what she thought best, she went against her boyfriend’s wishes and terminated the pregnancy.
That’s when both our lives came to a halt, well almost. When she woke up, all she could do was cry…for days and day and days. Eventually, she seemed to feel a bit better but the spirit of the girl she was before didn’t gleam in her eyes anymore. But I didn’t expect it to, she’d just suffered two great losses. Her child and her boyfriend.
What did surprise me however was the way I felt. It was weird, I just couldn’t wrap my head around the fact that the tiny life that was inside her was no longer there. It was then that decided I was pro-life no matter what. And not long after, she said the same.
She still mentions the child sometimes, comments on how old they would be. I don’t think she’ll ever forget it.
Dear little babies,
I decided to start letters to you. I will probably never give them to you but who knows. I am 5 months pregnant right now. I feel you both moving. I have started an internet school so I can stay home. I am living with a nice guy and he tells me that you guys are blessings. I don’t know yet what I will do after you are born. Will I give you up or keep you? I don’t think I would be able to love you without somehow hurting you. Not physically of course. I mean how will I tell you that you were conceived out of rape. My parents who are your grandparents wanted me to get an abortion but I wouldn’t. They kicked me out. You have an uncle on the way and have 2 aunts and 1 uncle already. Well, I am done for today.
I love you
Your mom
I have a one-year-old baby already called Ellie-May and I’ve recently just found out that I’m pregnant again.
I don’t want an abortion, but I’m not quite sure if bringing the baby into this world is the right thing either., I don’t know if I could give it the best life it could have. I’m away at college and work a lot and I already have one child. I don’t know if having another one is the right thing to do. And to be honest, I’m actually quite scared of going through childbirth again.
Please could someone sort of help me out here?
Chelseaa -ox .
Wondering if anyone has ever been there,
a place for pregnant teens and they help you out and stuff.
I’m scared to go there.
