Here I was, a 19-year-old with an amazing boyfriend that I have been with for over a year. We were both having a hard time paying bills and even eating sometimes. The only thing I could save money for was birth control. I have been on birth control for 6 years!!!! And in August, I find out I’m pregnant.
We decided we could not afford a baby. That there would be no way we could afford diapers, an apartment, food for us, and everything else. We decided we needed to get an abortion. I was so scared, mainly cause I wasn’t sure I could do it. But I decided it was best for all of us. So I did it. And I never looked back. Some people say it changes your life. But for me, I never really thought about it. I never cried I never wondered if I had done the right thing. I was just glad it was over. It was like it never happened. Now in November, I find out I’m pregnant AGAIN!!!!!! I used birth control and condoms. How does that happen? It means I got pregnant the first week I had sex again! How does that work? I guess abstinence really is the only way. But this time I cried and I’M freaking out and I don’t think I can do that again. But I’m not any better off. I’m more financially in the hole from paying for the first abortion. I don’t know what to do.
Part of me thinks I’m just meant to have a child now. But I don’t think I will be a good mother now. I have not told my boyfriend this time because the first one took a lot out of him. More than it did me. And Im afraid he cant handle it. He was so wonderful the first time, I feel bad. So here I am debating if I can even afford to have another abortion?!?!?!?! Or if I even want one?!?!?!
I am only 16 years old and pregnant. It would of never happened if I stayed home and didn’t go to the party, but it did and now I have to face the consequences.
Lets start at the beginning. I was hanging out with one of my guy friends and he asked if I’d like to go to a party with him. The party was in Mountain Home and it was at one of his friend’s house. I said sure, I’d go with him. I knew I should have stayed home, but I didn’t want to look like a nerd to my friend, so I went. Mind you, I was still a virgin at the time.
We got there and he went to get us a couple of drinks. I asked if it was none alcoholic and he said yes it was. Turns out it wasn’t. So I got drunk, but not on purpose. His friend’s cousin that was visiting from out of state started to talk to me. Then it progressed into flirting. Then all of a sudden, we were making out. Next thing I knew, he took my hand and led me to the bedroom he was staying in. I knew what was going to happen next. My head was telling me no, but my body was telling me to go for it. So we had sex.
Next day, I thought nothing of it. Then a few days later, I noticed my period was late. Six weeks later, I take a pregnancy test and low and behold, I turn out to be pregnant. I thought to myself how could this happen when we only did it one time?
I didn’t know the name of the father. So I asked my friend , who asked his friend and learned it. I don’t know his last name. My friend explained the situation to his friend. He in turn told his cousin. So his cousin called me to confirm if the story of me being pregnant was true. I told him it was.
The next thing I knew, he was saying he didn’t want anything to do with me or the baby. I told his cousin this and all his cousin had to say was that it was best for me to get an abortion and to never tell any one about it.
So I’m pregnant and still in high school. I’m scared because I don’t want to raise this baby on my own without the father. I know I have my friends and family behind me, but its still not the same as having the baby’s father there for me and the child.
I don’t know what to do. I’m thinking abortion is my only option to my situation. I don’t know if I’m ready. If there is any one out there that can give me advice or at least a helpful suggestion or another solution instead of abortion, I would really be grateful. Please help me.
The fear in me is far too great.
Wishing that it’s not true of what it shall not be
Knowing if I am
Just has me think what’s going to happen to me.
What will she think of me after I tell her?
I could really use help!!! I just found out I’m pregnant. I’m 19.
It’s not very young but I am in college and have plans of going to med school. I want to keep the baby so much but the father wants me to have an abortion immediately and if I don’t, he will have nothing to do with me… I don’t even want money from him. I just want him to be around. I have hit depression. I made an appointment to have an abortion but really don’t want to do it… My friends are begging me to keep it… My mother doesn’t know yet and I don’t want to tell her until I know what I’m going to do…
I know lots of girls who have had babies young but I know none that have been completely alone… I’m a very strong person but I don’t think I’m strong enough to have a baby all alone… What if the baby hates me for having it in such a terrible situation?? Single mom with a father that wanted him/her killed?
If anyone has any advice, please help talk me out of going through with it. It sounds dumb, but I feel so helpless with no way of standing up for myself… I want to keep the baby so bad but I keep hearing the father’s words he said to me… Telling me that I should be killed along with the baby…….
OK, I feel so empty inside.
I have been kicked out my house because my mother hates me. I think I’m pregnant. I have not had a regular period since August. I had a short period Oct 8-11. I’m not with the guy and when I told him I might be pregnant, he said I used a condom. Wow, that really made me feel better. My heart is broken into a million pieces. In some way, I really want this baby because it will be the one person in the world who will love me unconditionally. Is that wrong?
God, I am 19 years old. I work two jobs and I’m a sophomore in college. Why do I deserve the things that I go through!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sincerely,
Mizz Undastood
Feb. – Finding out you’re pregnant is a real shock. I was with my partner for 3 and a half years so I thought it would be OK, considering we were both 20 in work and had a great relationship… I was so wrong. The guy that I knew and loved had turned into a monster. He told me I would ruin his life if I went through with the pregnancy. Me personally don’t really believe in abortion. However, he had managed to manipulate and use reverse psychology on me until my beliefs didn’t exist anymore.
A few weeks later, I went to book a day for termination. Had to have a consultation as to reasons why I didn’t want to go through with it… they had to do a scan. I was 8 weeks at the time and saw my little tiny baby inside of me. Was determined that I wasn’t going to let that change my mind. The date was booked. I was given leaflets on the types of procedures to read up on b4 I was to come back. They were all scary to me but fortunately, I’m strong and brave!
March – The day was here. My partner came with me and said its for the best. Checked in at the place and had to sit in the waiting room. My God, it was so depressing. They was women just sitting there, looking worried and scared as if it was the end of the world. I had that feeling that I wasn’t supposed to be here. Something was telling I’m in the wrong place. I told my partner and he was like “why you telling me this now for? It nearly time 4 you to go in”.
I sat there with tears trickling down my face… A voice said, “Come, let’s go”
My partner took me by the hand, grabbed my bag, and once again, said we’re going. We told the reception that we’d changed our mind and headed back to the car where we both broke down.
About a week later – My partner was a monster again, back to square 1 of not wanting me to go through with the pregnancy. At that point, I had the support of good friends and family that would be there for me. I had made my mind up…. I was keeping this baby.
There even was a point where my partner was begging me not to but I remained strong and stuck to my decision.
One day, I had enough of him going on and on and upsetting me, So I called up the same clinic and re-booked an appointment. I would’ve been alone this time but didn’t care. I told him I had a new appointment and doing it because of him.
It was left at that until a day b4 the appointment when he told me that he wants to try and have a go at this family thing. I felt so relieved coz i knew I would’ve regretted an abortion and probably end up hating my partner.
