So…I found out I was pregnant in April. At the time, I was very unsettled. I was one of those girls who you would find at a party acting like a fool, one of those girls whose only concern was her looks, parties, and of course, boys. I didn’t really think about my future or about where my life was going.
I was living with my ex-boyfriend at the time who was also the father of my baby. Me and him had moved in together when my mother kicked me out of her house, because I had been throwing parties and she could no longer trust me. Before the baby, everything between us was good. He had told me he wanted to marry me and had even come up with the plans of how he wanted to do it. He also told me that he wanted to have kids with me, so we began trying. Even though I was only eighteen, had dropped out of skewl, and had no future, I was dumb enough to believe he was the one and that he would be able to take care of me and a kid.
When I came home from the doctor with my news of my pregnancy, all of my friends could not be happier for me, but the father, on the other hand, was furious. He offered me $3,000 to get an abortion, and when I told him that there was no way I was going to do that, he kicked me out of the house. From then on, I bounced from house to house, trying to find a good home for me to bring a baby into. I finally got a hand out when my ex’s sister opened up her house to me and I gratefully accepted. Since moving in, the father has been in and out of my life, but when the day came to go to the hospital to have his son, he left for good.
Today, I am living my life day to day, no longer worrying about the little things in life, but instead the big things. I love my life with my son more and more as I watch him grow up in front of my eyes, and I know that one day, he will grow up to teach me more things than I could ever teach him. I love him through and through and even though the circumstances of his life and of his family are not the greatest, I do not love him any less and I will work as hard as I can to make up for all that he can not have.
It may be cliche but he is my world now, not myself.
Goodbye, my beautiful baby.
I only knew you for a very short time, but already I loved you. I’m sorry I was not good enough for you. I’m sorry You had to die. I’m sorry God took you from me so soon. When I die. please forgive me and walk with me in heaven. I am so sorry, my unborn child. I don’t know how but I miscarried you. I guess God had other plans for us.
I love you so much, please forgive me.
your mommy.
I’m pregnant and my ex and most of his family want me to have an abortion. I agreed to it for him… But now I’m not sure if I am making the choice… I love him and he said if I keep the baby, he won’t talk to me ever again and I don’t want that…
Hi, I have a problem.
I am pregnant, 8.5 weeks, and my husband wants to have an abortion because it would be our 4th child and he doesn’t want another kid. He will leave me with 3 kids and a baby if I don’t do it. I am so confused I don’t know what to do.
Help please
It seems like just yesterday when I found out I was pregnant.
Now I’m going into my 6th month. I’m getting more and more excited as the days go by, but I’m also getting worried about some things. I’m away at school, 2 1/2 hours away from my family and my boyfriend. I am so worried that I’m going to go into early labor, my last day of school is May 8th and I am due on May 23rd. I’m so worried that I’m gonna have to deliver by myself without my mother and boyfriend by my side. I’m just hoping for the best in that situation. On another note, me and my boyfriend are nowhere near being financially stable enough to raise my baby girl. We are trying to get it together but I feel like I’m trying harder than he is. Of course, naturally, I wanna be able to provide any and everything that my baby needs. My boyfriend feels the same way but he is being oblivious to the fact that she will be here in no time. He keeps saying we’ve got time…but time is slowly running out. At times, I get really frustrated with him for not understanding but I can’t stress myself out.
Any way…I’m am just really excited about motherhood and just holding my little girl in my arms.
I’m 18, and around two weeks ago, I discovered that I’m pregnant. After taking a first test which showed negative, around two weeks before.
After going to the doctor and talking with him, I was told that I am 8 weeks pregnant, it’ll be 9 now.
I knew that I was pregnant, before taking the tests. Two years ago, I ended up pregnant after a condom split with my ex,(same symptoms) we always use protection. I was scared and didn’t know what to do, so me being me, reached out for alcohol and drugs, and ended up having a miscarriage. It was the most difficult time of my life, I was in turmoil about everything, why did this happen to me? And knowing that it was possibly my fault tore me apart. I separated myself away from everyone, becoming in a sense a very empty shell. To make matters worse, shortly after the miscarriage, my ex ended up in hospital after a suicide attempt. Everything drove a wedge between us, we hated each other but couldn’t leave, after a few months i hated him so much i didn’t care if i never saw him again, i need him out of my life, so I walked away. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and that this was a message to me, something to learn from, my baby left, but for a reason.
Even though this is my second pregnancy, in my heart it is my first. I didn’t love my first baby, although I mourned it, and losing it affected me greatly, but I think that’s natural.
I need some help. I’ve made an appointment to have an abortion. My boyfriend is 22 and we’ve been together for just over 6 months. At first he was great, he told me he’d support me no matter what I decide to do, but he had made up his mind that abortion would be the best option for us. Neither of us have jobs, although I’m in my last year of 6th form, and we are too young. The thing is that I don’t agree with abortion. Yes, I think its a woman’s right to chose but I’ve never considered it an option that I would chose. Yes, I have given it a thought, I would be silly not to, but I came to my decision, and that was to keep my baby, or put it up for adoption, anything. I just want to keep it alive. I told my boyfriend this, and so much for being supportive. He said that he hadn’t put pressure on me thinking that I’d come to the ‘right’ decision, his. Trying not to lose it, and not feeling able to argue or to stick up for myself, I agreed with him that ‘I cant keep it and I have no choice’. That night, my parents wanted to know my choice. All I managed to say through floods of tears is I’ll get rid of it. Two day later, my mum booked me an appointment at the clinic to see a nurse and when I’m there, I’ll find out when I’ll have the surgery.
I need advice on what to do. Every time I think about the fact that I’m having an abortion, I cry, which makes me think that I don’t want one. I know I don’t want one. I’m so scared to tell my parents that I’ve changed my mind. I want to keep my baby, but I don’t want to ruin my life, but on the other hand, not many women regret having a child. Maybe the timing is wrong, they miss out on things, but they don’t wish their child dead. Also the lesson I learned from the miscarriage was that every life is precious. No matter how long it lasts, it has an impact on people, after going through that I don’t think I can live with myself knowing that its happened again but by my choice, and this time, I love my baby.
Maybe the miscarriage happened to let me know that I should care for my baby, and it happened to let me know that abortion most definitely not for me.
I need some advice.
Thanks x
