I turned 17 at the beginning of this month (April 4th) as I had missed a period. I took 2 pregnancy tests last Friday which were both positive.
I was extremely shocked and felt stupid for getting myself into this situation. I have only been with my boyfriend for 7 months and he has said he will stand by me through whatever decision I make. I told my mother and she has been really supportive. After seeing a doctor to confirm my pregnancy, I have been to an emergency pregnancy clinic and spoke to a counselor, who has talked to me about my options. I don’t know what to do as I have always been against abortions, but understand why people would have them and would never condemn anyone for having an abortion. However, being adopted myself, I just think I couldn’t abort my baby as I could have been aborted myself. But I have only been with my boyfriend for 7 months and I love him very much, but I’m scared if we were to keep the baby that it would put pressure on our relationship and split us up, this is the last thing I want. I have spoken to him and he said his feelings would never change towards me and he would put me and our baby first. But I still worry as I have only been with him so little time and a baby is for the rest of our lives.
I have not told my father yet and I don’t think I will unless I decide to keep the baby as I know he will be extremely angry at first, but I know both my parents would support me 100% if I was too keep the baby.
But I just have so many things going on in my head and I really don’t know what to do. I know I have to make this decision myself, which makes it harder.
I had just got back from a trip from Vegas. I went for my birthday, to see my Godmother. I turned 17.
The trip was long and hot, and more, so I was nauseated the whole while. Which was new for me because I never get sick in the stomach. When I went to school that Monday, very one began to notice changes, besides the nausea. I was sleeping and wasn’t my full energetic self. And one of my teachers had asked if everything was OK. I told him what I was feeling and asked if I might be pregnant. Then it was like o crap.. I called one of my cousins and she took me to the doctor’s. The results were in but because I was a minor, they wanted me to come in and get the results and for that, I needed an appt. It was set for November 18. In the whole weekend that I was waiting for the test results, my emotions were up and down. What if I was? What am I going to do? Or I am not? I am just making myself feel this way?
Nov 18 came around and I sat in the chair alone, thinking he is just going to tell me its negative and it will all be ok. I’ll take some std test and it will all be fine. Everything seemed worse because I was alone. Turned out I was pregnant… I cried almost instantly, the feeling is unexplainable. I talked to a social worker about the different options that were available to me. I remember walking out and thinkin o shit, this is really happening, this is for real!! I called my aunt and of course the baby’s father. Of course, he didn’t answer. When I got to my aunt’s house, she gave me a piece of her mind. I was still in shock about the situation. I knew I had to tell my dad and the sooner the better. But first, I had to talk to the baby’s dad.
I finally got him to answer, and the first thing that came out of his mouth when I told him the test came out positive was well, let’s get an abortion. I was so mad. I told him I couldn’t do that, I couldn’t live with that forever. He told me was going to be there for me and the baby. My dad finally got there, and we took a walk and that’s were I told him I was pregnant. He told me it was time for me to get ready to be a parent and step up and do the things I am going to do. He would support me but not do anything for me. I knew that but regardless I was still in so much shock. I didn’t know what to think.
All I knew was I am 17 and pregnant…Damn……
Last night, I started bleeding. It happened again today and there has been a lot of tissue in the blood. I’ve been getting random pains and cramping these past few days… Is this all normal?? I’m really worried. The blood is a dark red and other times, it’s a pretty bright red.
What should I do?
Hi to all the young moms out there who have a two year that just drives you totally insane and you feel as if you can pull all your hair out
I know what you are going through. My son is at this stage and I sometimes feel as if I can shout at him and just force him to listen. But after one of our fights, I realized that shouting at him will just make it worse, so now I am trying reverse psychology. It’s hard but it looks like it works.
Hold thumbs girls, I am giving myself a week before a note down all the changes in his behavior
I’ll keep you all posted.
Hey everyone, I’m 18 years old and will be graduating soon. I’m so glad I found this website because I need advice badly. I want to tell you all my story.
I met a guy at a club in January. It was the 1st club I had ever been to and we were just dancing for a long time. During that time, I was kind of tipsy and I wanted to get to know him more because I felt a strong connection with him. Anyway, I lost contact with him and then I found him on myspace. We started talking and one day, I told my mother I was going to a game but I went with him. We were in his car and I thought we were just going to talk, but he started feeling on me and kissing me so then we ended up having sex. That was my 2nd time having sex so afterwards, I felt weird but I was okay. We started dating on February 17th and when we went out, I noticed he always wanted to have sex. Then he stopped calling often and it just went down from there.
One night, he called me and wanted to come over. It was 11:30 p.m. and I was in the bed so I was like I don’t know if you should come over. Lately, everytime he asked me to come over, I would say I don’t know, I don’t care, or I’m tired so this time I said it don’t matter. He told me he was on his way. I couldn’t have him over that late so I said that he would have to come through the window, but I really didn’t want him to because of my mother. Also, I didn’t want to have sex with him. So he arrived and I thought about not answering the window and pretending to sleep but then I let my optimistic side come over me and let him in. We sat and cuddled for like a second before he started kissing on me and trying to pull down my panties. I tried to stop him but he didn’t let me. I tried pulling up my panties, putting my foot on his thigh, and getting from under him. I shook my head no even though I didn’t scream it. He did what he wanted to me anyway.
When he was done, he asked me what was wrong and I looked away and he left. I knew he didn’t care about me! I was shocked. He raped me. I didn’t know if it was rape at first, but then I asked my friends and they said yea. Just because I didn’t fight him and scream did not mean he didn’t rape me. I didn’t want to do it. I felt so bad afterwards, ashamed, regretful, and even disappointed in myself. That was on April 9th. I have not told my sisters or my mother. After that, I’ve been feeling weird. I feel sometimes nauseous, light cramping in my stomach sometimes, mild pain in my vagina sometimes. My breast are not sore and my period is supposed to come on this week. I don’t know what to do. It hurts me to think about how this can affect my life and my family’s life. I’m disappointed in myself, but I will not let it get me down and no matter what, as long as I have hope and faith in God and myself, I know I will make it.
Please help me and be there for me, because I have no one else to turn to. I guess I will just have to wait and see if I am pregnant. My situation is really troubling me so I just need some support.
I found out I was pregnant with my best friend/boyfriend’s baby in March. I was too excited to be a mommy. But at the time, I didn’t want to tell him. I was really scared. So I was stupid, and selfish enough not to quit my habits … drinking, drugs, & smoking.
I was about 6 weeks pregnant when I had the miscarriage. I cried for hours, and since my boyfriend didn’t know I was pregnant, I had to tell him. It was the worst experience of my life. Now I think I’m pregnant again, but I’m actually changing my life around.
I stopped using drugs, cut way back on the drinking, and quit smoking. I`m just looking forward to the doctor’s appointment which is going to tell me some good news.
