Ok, I have a little vent to get out here, please bear with me! I have seen and heard many people give arguments in regards to teen pregnancy….Some have been AGAINST people like us at Standupgirl.com….They ask and question WHY we encourage young girls to follow through in their pregnancy. Maybe because they write in saying THEY WANT TO HAVE THEIR BABY, THEY DO NOT WANT TO BE FORCED INTO ABORTION….Is not this battle between life and death based on CHOICE? Forgive me for encouraging a girl to FOLLOW HER CHOICE…..They say things like, ‘She doesn’t have a diploma’, ‘Working at a fast food restaurant with a baby is hard’, ‘Why bring a child to this earth to suffer’, ‘Will your relationship last’, ‘Get on Birth Control’, Oh and my FAVORITE, ‘You should be enjoying your youth’….Well, ladies…Is that NOT how we found ourselves PREGNANT…ENJOYING OUR YOUTH?
Dave Thomas, Founder of Wendy’s, Quentin Tarantino, World Famous actor and Director, Peter Jennings, World Known News Broadcaster. How about Julie Andrews, Mrs. Mary Poppins herself, Princess Diana, The list goes on and on and on. NONE OF THEM GRADUATED HIGH SCHOOL!!! Are you going to let someone treat you like you are the worst thing to ever happen to a baby? “Don’t bring a child to this earth to suffer”…Like YOU being their mom is the worst thing ever….Oh, that makes me angry….Lasting relationships…Umm, back to Celebrities…How about Celebrities WITH babies….Brangelina? Tom Cruise, Nicole Kidman?…. It is not age or children that give us the ability to have a lasting relationship. It is commitment and we are ALL capable of it…..Birth Control… Hmmm, OK. So pump yourself full of artificial hormones that can potentially cause you harm, even though it does NOT guarantee 100% effectiveness to prevent pregnancy? Yep, that sounds like the solution there….(that is my sarcastic font)…Enjoying your youth…….Clearly, we have all “enjoyed” our youth a little too much when we find ourselves pregnant….Can you all at least agree to that? You know what I say? I say it with conviction and I say it from MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE…..I say LEARN A LESSON….Don’t make your baby pay with his/her life, You take the consequence, better yourself….They do NOT have grants and scholarships specifically for post-abortive women…They DO however have college opportunities SPECIFICALLY for young women with children…..I was that girl. I DID have to get on government assistance. I did work a crummy job. I had two senior years BEFORE I got pregnant. My relationships DIDN’T last, THANK GOD, I am not stuck with those loser jerks… I deserved and got SO much better. Oh, and I got pregnant with my second kid from a second father BEFORE I was able to start taking my birth control…..See….It gives you a false sense of security. It’s not worth it…
I didn’t have the crummy job forever. As a matter of fact, I have worked as a dental assistant and as a well-rounded funeral home assistant, both WELL paying jobs. During my years as a single mom, I learned many skills through odd jobs as well. I chose to stop having sex until my wedding night. I had no idea if I would ever have one, but I LEARNED…I was NOT going to put my trust in birth control. It is NOT 100% effective. I finally accepted that I DESERVE a REAL man. One who would wait for me, prove his love, and take me as his wife BEFORE he got me in bed….I am now married, going on 6 years (and yes we waited till our wedding night). I am now a stay-at-home mom. We own the home I PURCHASED WHILE BEING A SINGLE PARENT. We are DEBT FREE. I am NOT on government assistance. I am a business owner and entrepreneur. I help plan weddings and arrange wedding flowers and bouquets, I home-school my kids, and YES, I DO help single moms, I follow through….If I encourage a girl to keep her baby, You BET I will be there to help. I have helped MANY young moms learn to shop wisely and cook nutritious cost-effective meals. I am known to babysit here and there and bend over backward to help single moms…..And there are MANY MANY more people out there who want to help YOU.
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Don’t believe the lies….You CAN do it. You CAN succeed. You CAN better yourself. And You WILL be a WONDERFUL Mommy if you have enough love for your child to keep you pressing on….I did…Put on your blinders to the naysayers. Prove them wrong. Never be afraid to ask for or receive help. You WILL need it. Don’t feel guilty for it…You just hold your head high and take this journey one step at a time….Just learn from this, let it drive you on a more positive path….I am STILL enjoying my youth. My kids keep me young. They give me purpose, reason, and excitement for each new day…..I have just learned to enjoy it with a few less consequences…You will too.
<3 Much Love to all of you Stand Up Girls. Be Brave, Stand Your Ground, and Keep Your Eyes Fixed at the End of the Tunnel Where the Light is Waiting to Shine on You!
<3 Meg
To start off, I’m 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. My last period was June 14th. We have had unprotected sex a lot and I’m not on the pill anymore. I’ve been getting nauseous, my boobs are swollen, and I can’t touch them! I’ve been peeing a lot, am super tired, and am now 4 days late for my period. Exactly a week before it was due, I noticed a tiny amount of dark brown blood which only lasted two days. I took 2 tests last week, both negative.
Any advice on what I should do?
I’m so excited! I’ll be 37 weeks pregnant tomorrow. I can’t believe of how the time has passed. I have been considering lots of things to provoke my labor. I’ve considered castor oil or just going out for a long walk.
My family is visiting Mexico this August. I’d say around the fourth or fifth day of the month. I would love to have my boy now, so that my mom could be here with me the first 3 weeks of my baby’s days.
So, I suggested to her that maybe I can induce my labor. And she didn’t like the idea. She told me how I need to be careful, and it’s always best to let the baby come when he is ready. And I knew that she was right. I should just be thankful that the baby will be here, before she leaves. Because my baby’s due date is August 3rd. And I really don’t think my baby will even make it to the month of August.
My husband thinks that the baby will be born on the 16th. That is because his first daughter was born on November 16th and his son September 16th. So, he hopes that the baby be born on the 16th of July. My guess is that the baby will be born between the 19th and the 23rd. My mother thinks the last days of July and so does the rest of my family.
I know that my son will be with me very soon. My pains are worse than ever. I can’t sleep on my hips anymore. I feel this instant pain that I can’t handle. I have to sleep on my back, which everyone thinks is crazy, because they don’t see how that is possible. My eating habits have changed completely. I can only eat small meals now. I have so much pressure. I feel like at any moment my son is just going to flop on the floor. The pressure is very bad.
But I really don’t mind. I know that my baby’s arrival is almost near and everything would of been worth it. I can’t wait till that day comes. I’m very excited. I’ve been waiting for this day to come for a very long time. I can’t believe that the day is very near. At any moment, I will have my baby boy in my arms.
I feel so foolish, even though I already know what I feel, I shouldn’t be OK. He gave me up. As a matter of fact, he gave “us” up because he couldn’t handle my choice of keeping her, our child. I love him again and again. I can’t explain why. I spend so many days and nights praying to God to rid me of my love for him and it won’t stop. I know love takes time to die, but this is ridiculous! I know it’s wrong but nothing that I do will stop this heartache, Won’t stop the dreams, won’t stop me from wanting him…
Hi all!
Well, I am new to this site, with postings. I found SUG about 2 and a half years ago. I was still in school and thought I might be pregnant. Well, I would have loved it, but I was not, and now I am trying for it. So to get to what I really want to say… Lately, with me trying to conceive, I have done a lot of research! It started with the whole process of pregnancy on Google then went to YouTube… It’s just so much better watching it than just reading don’t you think? So if you watch all these and take into consideration how some people take getting pregnant for granted, I get sad. I am not here to judge or anything but I think any woman, pregnant or not, should watch those videos. It gives a whole other side to pregnancy. Then I watched some on abortion as well, one where they took a scan while performing it, and the baby actually got agro and went into survival mode when the abortionist did not even break through the placenta yet! The baby actually screamed! And all this at a 12 week pregnancy. All of you Lady’s out there, most of the time life is hard, but the choices you make, can make it better or worse. I think you won’t be reading this if you did not need the advice and encouragement on what to do. I want to help, and be a shoulder. Feel free to add me or talk to me. I just felt I had to share what I saw.
Wishing you all a wonderful day.
So today is a whole month since we brought our son home (8th July today), and it’s coming up onto the 13th of July, which means he will be 3 months old. And a few people have asked me about my story, so I think it’s coming up about the right time to explain.
I found out I was pregnant when I was coming up on 14 weeks along. I had to figure out how I got pregnant and who by. Turns out it was my last ‘serious’ boyfriend. We were only together for a few months, but I lost my virginity to him. We only slept together a few times before we split up. I fell pregnant just before my 15th birthday, in late November. I tried explaining to the father that I needed help, and if he wasn’t going to help, I was considering adoption. He convinced me to keep the baby. At my 16 week ultrasound, we found out our baby was a boy. Not long after that ultrasound, me and the father got back together. We sorted our issues out and became really close. We had a 3d ultrasound booked just before i reached 18 weeks. The pictures where great quality taking into consideration how far a long I was.
I was rushed into hospital for the second time, but this time was serious. I was just reaching 20 weeks into my pregnant. Half way! I was diagnosed with major placenta previa. That is when the placenta is lower than the baby. My son was on top of the placenta. And as he was growing bigger, as my pregnancy progressed, he was putting more pressure on the placenta, causing me to bleed and have sharp pains. As it was major, I was estimated another month or two before I delivered. A cervical stitch was put in place to make sure my baby would stay in for as long as possible. I was in hospital for a week, and ordered bed rest, no school or sexual contact. By this stage, I was already the size of a full term woman. I had so much amniotic fluid and a big baby for my stage. So much pressure was being put on my placenta.
At 23 weeks & 4 days, my waters broke whilst I was at home. An ambulance was called and I was rushed into the labour ward. My cervical stitch was removed and i was monitored over night. There was no sign of contractions or dilation. I was sent home the next morning to collect some clothes and get some rest, I was ordered to go back in if I felt the slightest pain. Within the next few hours, I was back at the hospital. Within 2 hours at being in hospital, I was already 9cm’s dilatated. My son was delivered shortly after.
He weighed 2 pounds, 1/2 ounce. Measuring 11cm’s long. He was tiny. He was admitted straight to the NICU and was put on CPAP. He was critical. His survival was 50/50. Not much happened after he was born.
He was in NICU for just over 8 weeks. He had his bad days and his good days. He made me proud though. He gained weight so quickly, and learnt to breath so quickly. He was off CPAP after 8 days, but went downhill at 12 days and went back on CPAP. He went back on canola at 17 days. And stayed like that. He had longs of ‘kangaroo therapy’. The nurses also done a lot of bonding therapy with us. To make sure he knew who we where.
The father proposed in the NICU too, on the 5th of May. He made my son’s heart rate increase. His heart rate always seemed to increase when there was love in the room. He was so clever. On the 8th of June, we got the all clear and our 4 pound baby boy was ready to come home.
He had daily checkups with the home nurse to check he was still making progress, and he was. He also has follow up scans next week to double check he is still doing well. He now weighs 4 pounds 10 ounces. He’s so big!
So yea, that’s basically my story. Don’t think i missed anything.
