Hi,
My girlfriend and I are both 16. We both attend high school and I am in football. I have a 3.9 GPA and was planning on attending college and becoming a pharmacist. Today, July 31st, she had a positive result on a pregnancy test. I’ve gone through and told my mom. I couldn’t hold back the tears, knowing that I have let down so many of my family members that have been so supportive of my success and achievements. My mom asked what I was going to do with my options, being abortion, adoption, or parenthood, and I told her that abortion was out of the question. As for adoption, I could live with that, but I don’t know if my girlfriend could after 9 months of pregnancy and having to let it go. I couldn’t live with myself if I hurt her that way. I will talk with her more about what SHE wants to do and than plan from there. I just wanted to get some advice and some feedback. Realistic advice is necessary. I can’t be in denial or anything.
Some questions:
– If we chose Parenthood, could I still finish school and move on to college?
– Is there anyone with success story after being a teen parent?
– What do I do if I don’t have that nice of a father and he would flip if I told him?
– My girlfriend wanted to know if it’s selfish to hope that its a boy? Because my mother just gave birth to my little brother and if our child was a boy, we would have baby equipment already for him. I told her that its not selfish or wrong to hope for a certain gender, but whatever you do get you have to love and treat like it should be treated.
– How should I cope with my family being disappointed?
– Should I quit this football season (its just starting but my girlfriend might only be a month pregnant.) and just get a job or should I play it out and than get a job in late November?
– And if anyone has any other advice, tips, information, or anything, will you please tell it to me?
Thanks,
Well, I’m 13 and people say something needs to come into my life to make me grow up. Is it bad to have a baby?
My 17-year-old daughter has just informed me and her father that she is pregnant and keeping the baby. WOW – what a slap upside the head – what a wake-up call. We’ve had our troubles with her in the past but basically, she is a good kid – never saw this one coming. I supplied her with birth control since she was 15 and assumed that she was taking them (as she always told me she was) – Boy was I wrong.
I didn’t know what to think at first – my first reaction was to throw her out of the house – but where would that put her? Poverty? Homeless and pregnant? She needs us now more than ever!! Once her father and I had calmed down, we actually sat down with her and her boyfriend and discussed all options – Abortion was not one of them for her and I’m glad she is choosing to keep the baby. I hate that she is so young and I feel she is losing a lot of her youth – giving up a lot to be a mommy – but, I believe that she will be a good mother. I’m glad her boyfriend is being a man about this and not leaving her – He actually got off his a** and finally got a job.
I hope that this will make them both grow up and take on the responsibility of being good parents.
God bless all of you young girls going through this hard and trying time and I hope that your parents are understanding – If not, find support here or somewhere. You will need it.
I stumbled upon this site and it has a lot of good advice and I have read a lot of your blogs – I am definitely referring my daughter to sign up here. She will get a lot of support and information through this site.
Thanks for helping open my eyes !!
Well, I have a little girl who will be 2 soon. I had my 1st abortion last year coz my baby was still small and we felt it was too soon for another. So this year around the same time, I found out I was pregnant again. I fell in love with this baby. I really wanted it but of course, he didn’t…
He begged me to do it and made all promises and now I’m back where I started, still not married and trying to make things work for us…
I should have never done it. I should have kept my baby. Now he’s still up to his same old tricks, please help me… I don’t know what to do anymore and I’m depressed and it’s not fair on my baby girl.
I am 24 years old and just recently found out that I am pregnant. I have a 14-month-old son and absolutely love being a mother, but right now with my life, it is not the right time to have another baby.
My boyfriend and I met when I was 2 months pregnant with my son and he stuck by my side the whole pregnancy, and since my son was born and in March, I decided to uproute my son and I and move 1500 miles away from my home in PA to start our lives with my boyfriend. My boyfriend treats my son like his own and his actual father is not in his life or has ever been in his life. Just recently, we found out that my boyfriend is getting deployed and my son and I are moving back home for support and family, while he is gone. I am not ready to go through another pregnancy alone and raise another child on my own. I just can’t do it. I had the strength to raise my son, but my life was so much different at that time. I recently lost my job of 2 years and making amazing money and now I am collecting unemployment and no child support to help raise my son. As much as there are so many other options out there, the only option we have is…..Abortion……
Everyday I ask him, if this is what he wants and everyday I constantly question myself if this is what I want and at the end of the day, it is. Against everything I believe, this is the decision we have come to, but it is killing me slowly inside. I loved being pregnant with my son and since I found out I was pregnant, I have been avoiding all of those happy feelings inside and distancing myself from feeling my belly and being happy that there is a baby inside of me. I made the appointment for 2 weeks from now and since I made the appointment, I have felt a huge relief lifted off my chest…. But in my heart, I think about the day I walked into that clinic and lay on that table and see my baby on that screen and walked out of that building with a complete new handle on my life. I feel like such a horrible person for even thinking like this and making the decision I have made, but physically, emotionally and financially, it is just impossible for me to bring a new baby into this world. My relationship doesn’t seem to me as the healthiest of relationships, but I love our life together and we may have our ups and downs, but at the end of the day, we make each other happy and he is absolutely great with my son. My biggest fears are about to be answered once this procedure is performed. Will I ever be able to have kids again or even want to have kids again? Will my relationship work or will be always hold this against each other? Will I be able to still be a good mother to my son? Will I be able to forgive myself for doing this? Will I turn to alcohol to relieve my pain? What will my life be like after this?
Everything I do circles around this decision I am making and the only person I can look to is God and hope that He will forgive me and help me through my life, like He has anytime I have ever needed His guidance. I don’t expect anyone to agree with my decision, but I know people can relate to it and putting it out there is better than leaving it all piled up to weigh me down and turn into someone I am not. I am doing it to be a better mother to my son and to be able to give him what he needs and being able to support him is my goal. I don’t want to not be able to give him things because of another baby and not having the money and right now, that is what will happen.
I’m 17 years old and my boyfriend is 21.
We only found out last week that I’m pregnant, we think I am about 6 weeks. My mum thinks I should get an abortion and has booked me in for the scan.
I know that my boyfriend really wants to keep it but he will support me whatever.
I don’t feel it would be right to keep the baby due to finances and having nowhere to live but on the other hand, I don’t want to get rid of my own child. I also do not know if I could cope due to my age and whether I could support it and give it everything it needs.
Any ideas or advice on what I can do, please!
And whether you think I would regret it if I got rid of the baby or even if I kept it?
