March 1 in the morning, I was at home alone. My husband was at work, my older brother was at work, my father was at work, and my little brother was at school.
I started having horrible pains in my stomach, I didn’t know what it was. I was also having the worst back pain I have ever had in my life. I didn’t think much about it cause on February 26, my doctor had decided to have me start getting induced March 1 at 6:00 p.m. because it didn’t seem like labor was going to start anytime soon. After about an hour of having the pain, it started getting more painful, and more regular. I decided to call my husband at work and ask him what he thought I should do. He told me to call the hospital and ask them what I needed to do. They weren’t much of a help. All they did was tell me to call my doctor.
While on the phone with my doctor, one of the horrible pains hit and I screamed and sat down in the floor, where I had to sit for quiet a while because the pain was horrible. The doctor then told me I needed to go to the hospital because she was pretty sure I was in labor. I called my husband back in a hurry and told him what my doctor had said. He quickly let his boss know and hurried home to get me and take me to the hospital. Finally around 11:00 a.m. , we arrived at the hospital. I was then quickly taken in a wheel chair back to Labor & Delivery. I was put in one of the rooms where they monitored me for an hour. I was hurting so bad I kept screaming.
After an hour, the nurse came in and checked me. I was still only dilated to one. But they didn’t let me go home till my midwife saw me. When she came and saw me, I told her I have been leaking this pinkish clear fluid for over a week now and she asked me if anyone in the doctor’s office checked me. I told her “Yes, but not like you did the last time.” She checked me, and told me to cough. Sure enough, a bunch of water went everywhere. My water had been ruptured. My baby boy had even had a bowel movement inside of me. When they told me that, I began to cry because I knew that could cause my sweet baby boy some major problems.
After that, I dilated to three, I laid there in pain for so long. I didn’t want an epidural and my mind was set on not having one. My husband kept telling me I could do it and it would make me feel so great. He supported me so much. My mother, brother, grandmother, aunt, and step-mom all arrived around 2:30 p.m. to support my husband and I and meet our son when he arrived. Around 7:50 p.m. , I was dilated to eight and my baby boy’s heart rate began to drop from where I could not relax because of the pain. The doctor told me the best thing I could do as get an epidural and see if that helps the baby boy. I cried for a few minutes, but decided around 8:40 p.m. it was probably best for my baby boy. Everyone except my husband had to leave the room so they could do my epidural. My husband stood in front of me and held me to comfort me. It made me feel completely great that my husband as being there for me like no one before. The epidural wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be. It made me feel really good and after I got it, I didn’t scream from the pain anymore. About ten minutes after my epidural, my family was able to come back into my room. Around 10:15 p.m. , I started feeling a lot of pressure. The doctor came in and told me it was time to push, so I pushed till about 11:40 p.m. . Still no baby boy. The doctor came in and he told me that my body was too small to push him out, plus he was face up. At that point I just had to cry before they took me back for a c-section. It didn’t take long after my husband and I got into the c-section room. March 2 at 12:09 a.m. , my husband and I heard the most beautiful cry ever.
Our son had arrived healthy and safely. He was 8 lbs. , 11 oz, and 20 in long. I couldn’t believe that our beautiful baby had just arrived, and came out of me. It was the most amazing moment of my life. Although I had to have a c-section, and now can barely do anything for myself, I am so happy to have our beautiful baby here with us. I also suffered from an infection inside of me because my water had been ruptured for over a week. But it was all worth it for our son is completely healthy and doing fantastic.
I had a baby 3 days before my 18th birthday. In November, I found out I was pregnant again and the circumstances weren’t right so I had an abortion. I have struggled with this ever since.
I look at other pregnant people and want my baby back all the time. I love my little boy to pieces, but having an abortion was the worst thing I have ever done and every single day of my life, I regret it. I would have had help and support with the baby, but I didn’t want to bring up 2 young children by myself. If anyone is thinking about having an abortion, think really hard first and think of the outcome because it’s not as easy as just taking the tablets or having the operation.
The feelings after are hard. And you have to live with it for the rest of your life.
So I am 18 years old and I am now 13 weeks pregnant. My mom, dad, and sister are being supportive, but all my other relatives still see my decision to keep the baby as a mistake. But after I saw my little baby up on the ultrasound screen; I knew.
I love this baby already with all of my heart. I especially knew that I wanted to keep this blessing because I had already been through an abortion when I was 15. It’s something I will never do again. But now I am feeling extremely depressed. The baby’s father recently was living with me, but he got kicked out a week ago. We both really wanted to be a part of this pregnancy and the baby’s life. Now it’s more difficult because he lives further away. Although he is planning on getting a place closer, it’s still tough. And I almost feel as if my parents are purposely trying to push us apart. We both love each other and this baby… and I feel more comforted when he is here for me throughout all the emotional ups and downs I am experiencing.
I am glad I found this website because none of my friends understand what I am going through…
Being a young mum is one of the hardest jobs in the world, especially if you’re a single mum. Like the newspapers say, we’re babies having more babies. Which is kinda true in a way? We aren’t financially secure, which is a big thing and we all have to drop out of school at some point to look after our children.
But being a mum comes as a blessing, and a lot of teens are happy to be a mum even if it’s unplanned. As long as you’re happy and you know, you have made the right decision. Then I don’t see what the problem is.
Family and other people judge and predict what are futures will be like. But they don’t think that it will only be like that if they keep saying it over and put it in our minds. But if we are supported like we’re supposed to be, I know for a fact young mums can make it into the world.
If we push ourselves to do well for our children and prove to ourselves, we can make it in the world. And we can do a good job like any other adult in the world who has a child and is a single mum. Then there isn’t a big difference really apart from the ages.
Every young mum has a role model.
But I found every young mum’s role model is their mum. We disappoint our parents when we have unplanned pregnancies and they know what it’s like and that’s what our parents try to protect us from. But parents have to just learn to deal with it, be supporting, and just trust our decisions and not judge us as we all ready receive it from other people.
To be continued…
In January, I had my first normal period after my miscarriage that happened in December. I spoke to my doctor about it all and she informed me that after having a miscarriage, when I got my first normal period, my hormones were back to normal and I would be able to conceive again and stuff. With that said, here’s the story.
On December 26th, I moved to Calgary, AB, Canada. Shortly after, my boyfriend followed on February 10th. We didn’t plan on sleeping together until the 14th, but we did happen to get carried away. We were partially protected -meaning, we started unprotected and then he put the condom on after- the one thing we were unaware of though, was that pre-ejaculation can get a girl pregnant too. So it really didn’t matter in the end.
I was supposed to be getting my next period on February 24th and I am always regular. No less and no more. I ended up getting my period on the 18th of Feb and it was lighter than normal. Virtually painless and ended on the 21st! Never in the 9 years that I’ve had my period have I had one that was less then 8-9 day -except my VERY first period, when I was 10. When it had stopped, it was as if I had never bled!
I know it’s only Monday today, but when I first got pregnant, I was noticing changes within the first week and the second week the most, then it calmed down and got worse and it was just all over the place. Any ways, with that said this week, I have been feeling quite weird.
Here is a list of the things I’ve been feeling!
1. Headaches
2. Dizzy Spills
3. Never feeling full – always eating something!
4. Slight cramping in my lower abdomen on the right side mostly
5. Trouble getting to sleep at night
6. I get depressed easier with random bursts of energy and happiness
7. My nipples get sensitive and then are fine randomly through out the day
8. The veins in my nipples are more prominent at times and not as prominent at others
9. I have days where I am constipated and then others where I can’t stop going #2
10. I am feeling bloated – which has NEVER happened before, except my last pregnancy
11. I feel pregnant
12. My lower back is beginning to hurt
13. Fatigue – I can sleep 6hrs., 8hrs, or even 10+hrs and I’m still always exhausted
14. At time I feel boiling hot and start sweating and at others I’m just at a normal temperature
15. At times I feel nauseated, without throwing up 16. And last night I had a weird taste in my mouth
17. As gross as this sounds, I can usually handle the smell of poop or farts, but lately they make me want
to throw up and I start to gag
18. My gag reflexes are more sensitive then normal
The weird thing is that I sometimes don’t feel ANYTHING for like, half the day and then it just it just hits me like a brick wall! I don’t know what’s wrong with me and I don’t have time to go to the doctor just yet, because I work 5 days a week and the days I have off, I relax because I have bad legs, but there sure is something going on inside my body!
Well, that’s all for now, I’ll keep this blog updated as much as I can!!
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I feel like everything is happening soo fast.
I still have a lot to do for my wedding. My finals for my school are this week and I haven’t even had the time to study cause there is no quiet room in my house. I work all the time, which is why I’m writing this because I’m on my lunch and then I go back to screaming people on the phone because I do work at a call center, lucky me… Well anywho, I have to get back my lunch is over…
(I never get to finish anything )
