Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
Sweetie,
The only way to know whether or not you are pregnant is to have a pregnancy test. Go to the doctor’s or buy the home pregnancy test kits.
Anyway, i have learnt to move on and I am going to do right by this child. He told me that he did not want anything to do with this child and that he would deny paternity if anyone asks him about it because he wants me to have an abortion and because I am refusing the baby is mine and mine alone and therefore my responsibility. I am however not worried about this all, cause I am working and I think that with proper budgeting I can look after my child well. Howerver, i am just glad that he showed me his true colours now, and I know where I stand.
Hey love
I am not going to tell you what you are supposed to do, but am going to tell you what I think. I was in the same situation that you are in and I had an abortion, actually 2 of them. I remember the first time very vividly, and that is what I want to recount. I went to the Dr’s and was out of there around 7p.m and then went home with the bf. I started getting cramps around 8.30 and soaked myself in hot water to ease the cramps. I satrted feeling so much pain as I started bleeding, and I will tell you that that was the longest night of my life. I was not able to sleep and the only time that I did manage to sleep was at 5am but I slept for an hour at most. I had on and off pains for the next 2 days, and that wasn’t the worst of it.
After that, i tried to convince myself that I had done the best thing, but you know what, the worst thing is that you realise that you made a grave mistake, and the pain that you cannot take away isn’t the physical pain, but the grief, the heartache and the guilt. I was not able to live with myself, and was continually scared that I would not be able to have another baby in my life, ever. You will never be able to live with the what if’s.
The long and short of it all is that, no matter how much the odds are stacked against you, abortion is never an option. I would rather you put the child up for adoption. Or maybe, you can just have your baby and then work on finishing your college at some stage in your life.
At the end of the day, what we can do is only offer pointers put the real decision lies with you. I would just want to say that choose life for your baby, I am pregnant at the moment, (thankfully), and am going to choose life for my baby, even though I am single with an unsupportive bf, and am going to be eaten alive by the family when they eventually find out. But then, at least you can hold your head up high and know that you did the right thing.
Choose life.
Best wishes
Pharry
