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Wow,:cheer: that was incredibly strong of you. Even though it will be difficult you have made the right choice for your babies! And that takes incredible strength of character.
All the best with everything.;)
Hey, home births are definitely an option so long as the pregnancy is low risk which they will only be able to tell later on in the pregnancy as further complications can still occur right up to your due date.
Since you are from SA I belong to a wonderful site which you should visit http://www.earthbabies.co.za which is all south african ladies. Most of them have done home births and some have even done unassisted (NO help) which like mentioned is really not a good idea and is even actually not really allowed in this country (SA)!
A home birth consists of a pair of midwives who aid you through the birth and they always have a gynae on call in case anything goes wrong.
The average cost for a homebirth is R3900 including 3 postnatal home visits by the midwife. The cost for a hospital birth can average out at R20 000 (Obviously a natural uncomplicated no pain relief birth being cheaper & a caesarian birth being more expensive)(Just sleeping in their bed and eating their food costs up to R7000 for a 2 night stay!!!)
So it really is advisable to try and afford at least some kind of medical scheme. Cos even with the homebirth, if there are complications during the birth you will still need to be rushed to hospital.
There is also the option of a state hospital but believe me, I’ve watched quite a few births at state hospitals and its really not pretty :S Plus youre only allowed 4 hours recovery time :blink:
My advice would be to look for one of those cheaper schemes or even just get a hospital plan medical aid which pay any hospital stays but not general medical things like GP visits. The premium for these are much lower.
Let me know if you need any more info 🙂
Hey Nadza, Its your fellow JHB girl here 😉
If you’ve done it once you can definitely do it again! You’re stronger than you think! It may seem overwhelming but like mweber said – you have the whole pregnancy to prepare for this. And you know more or less what to expect this time round. There is no doubt that it will be difficult but you will cope! The plus point is that at least your children will be close in age (my brothers were 7 years older than me which really sucked!)
If you need any help or just want some one to cry to I’m right in your town 🙂
And remember – its all right to feel the way you are feeling! But give yourself credit, you are strong!
Hey girl,
I can’t imagine how you are feeling right now but one thing that struck me when I was reading your post was how strong you must be to have gone it alone with your son when everyone was against you. It must have seemed nearly impossible at the time and yet you have managed! The same is true for now. It may seem so overwhelming but picture yourself in 4 years time with a beautiful little family of 3! Now that you have come to know your precious son would you ever imagine having aborted him? The same will be true for this precious life you are carrying. Soon you will grow to know and love him/her. Don’t make a decision you could regret for the rest of your life. Your family have accepted you back once, they will do it again. As for your boyfriend, he is probably just scared and may even, if given time, come to be comfortable with the idea. And if he doesn’t, then you can do better for you and your son and your son’s future little sibling.
Just from reading your post I know you have it in you to fight for the life of this little baby and I know you will be strong enough to come through yet again. We are all here to support you through it!
Stand up girl!
