kyauch

I recently found out that my sister-in-law had an abortion in April. She’s been dating this one guy for about one year. I often ask myself, how could she do that?? Then I ask myself, how could a doctor let her do that?? Knowing that a heart is already beating within the first few days…
It really hit me hard knowing this. I will never look at her the same way ever again. Especially since my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for the past 4 months. It makes me think- Geeze-our little baby could have had a playmate… Not only that, but my mother-in-law is very angry at her. She has often told her daughter when she was growing up that she would help her out if she ever became pregnant. So comes the next question- why, when she was surrounded by such loving family did she still do it?? Her answer- the boyfriend. The boyfriend did not want the baby. It’s so difficult to grasp. In my mind- if he doesn’t love her enough to keep the baby that they made together, then why is she keeping him around?? The responsibility falls on two people. If you make a baby, be responsible for it, be an adult- even if you are only 15 or whatever. There is so much help out there these days for younger people who need it.
Now, she is being treated for depression. She has a cousin who is the same age as her, and it turns out that they both got pregnant the same month. Only difference is that the cousin decided to keep her baby because she didn’t believe in abortion. (Odd thing is is that the cousin was the irresponsible one…) So now the cousin is due in January, and my sister in law is realizing the impact of her decision already. Now she has to watch her cousins baby grow up knowing that it would be the same exact age as the baby she could have had.(So she will probably sit and watch this child grow wondering what could have been…) I cannot imagine spending the remainder of my life wondering what this child might look like, what they would have become. I have a hard time even speaking to her anymore- and would feel unsafe leaving my child with her as I’d be afraid of her depression causing jealousy (possibility of her mentally "losing it".)
Also, think about this. All of those people out there that try SO hard to get pregnant and they cannot. It must hurt these people so much to see someone who is able to get pregnant and then to see them end that life. Those people would love nothing more than to be able to create that life, and you would be destroying it. Think about how lucky you are that you can create that life, such a miracle. Think about where you would be at today had your parents decided to terminate your life…