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It is true that there does seem to be some younger teens on here that are like that… but then, that does give us an opportunity to encourage them not to make the mistake of trying for a baby at such a young age.
amberbabe
i havent been on this site that long, but your right! i have seen a million posts about all that.. for some reason i cant understand why a 14 or even 13 year old girls are wanting babies!! its not all cracked up as it seams they’re alot of work.. i just dont understand it..:dry:
Mommy2Kylie… I agree with most everything you just said, except one point of yours highly offended me. I was not forced to be a mother, and my son is not burdened. My son has a great family who loves him and he has everything he needs and more. I realize that there are those who aren’t as lucky as I am to have the support that I have, but it is not a burden upon me or my child. I love my son and most of these girls on here do, as well. I may have had sex and had an unplanned pregnancy… but I CHOSE motherhood. I CHOSE to keep my son and take on the responsibility… and my son will learn from my mistakes. I will teach him differently than what I have done, and it may be hard… but I wouldn’t have this life any other way. I’ve learned a lot and now I have some more perspective to teach my own family. I can’t imagine my life without my son.
Do I recommend this life? No. Not many girls can handle it and be happy at the same time. But I am one who can and will do just that.
Evangeline
Hi Ladies 🙂 there have been alot of young girls saying that they want to ttc and for the most part I can understand someone who’s had an abortion or m/c saying something like that … I don’t necessarily agree with it or pretend to understand it, but I can relate to it.
What I really don’t condone is young teens ttc to “play house”.I agree with Miss Kirsty on this one… we just have to help them understand that it’s not all giggles and gurgles when you have a baby.
Mommy2Kylie
Autumn wrote:
Mommy2Kylie… I agree with most everything you just said, except one point of yours highly offended me. I was not forced to be a mother, and my son is not burdened. My son has a great family who loves him and he has everything he needs and more. I realize that there are those who aren’t as lucky as I am to have the support that I have, but it is not a burden upon me or my child. I love my son and most of these girls on here do, as well. I may have had sex and had an unplanned pregnancy… but I CHOSE motherhood. I CHOSE to keep my son and take on the responsibility… and my son will learn from my mistakes. I will teach him differently than what I have done, and it may be hard… but I wouldn’t have this life any other way. I’ve learned a lot and now I have some more perspective to teach my own family. I can’t imagine my life without my son.
Do I recommend this life? No. Not many girls can handle it and be happy at the same time. But I am one who can and will do just that.
First of all I am sorry it offended you. But you took what I said as if it came from someone who was not a teen mother. If you notice I made perfectely sure to put “” around forced. no we all have a choose whether to have the child or not, but we are forced to make that decision b/c of our carelessness. Secondly our children ARE burdened. B/c at such a young age we do not have the education, stability, income, or knowledge that a child should be brought into. therefore they have to suffice with us barely making it being stressed, living off family, welfare, uneducated, and generally not stable. If we struggle so do our children. I for one will admit that my child is burdened with my life. I am trying to finish my education, so I can have a good stable job, and be financially stable. Yes me and her father are still together but she is burdened with our relationship problems that stem simply from the fact that we are young. And I am in no way afraid to admit that. B/c yes she is burdened but I KNOW for myself that it will only be for a short period of time. come this time next year, we will be secure and stable and she will no longer be burdened with our unstability, but for so many girls it is not a short time it is a life time.
breathless
I no longer frequent this site for this very reason. I see girls who talk about having numerous abortions and getting pregnant yet again, “wanting” to have a baby, etc. etc. It’s so sad and wrong. As a teen mom, I’m doing the best I can and sometimes it’s hard, because I question whether or not I’m giving my son everything I can.
It breaks my heart seeing children treated like they’re “not a big deal”, it seems on here girls do not take their children seriously.
Being on here makes me so angry, I think it has become about enabling, not preventing.
DiAZZZ 26 weeks
i agree. but sometimes people take my happiness about my situation as i meant to do it…which is 100% not true. im just trying to make the best of my situation & the challenge God has put in front of me. theres no use in stressing myself out 25/7 and possibly doing harm to my baby when i have the love and support from my fiance like i do. i understand the stress and hardship ahead of me but im ready to do this for my baby. thats just the way i feel:)
I am not going to look at this as a burden. I look at this as a blessing in disguise, a challenge, a chance to live, learn, and grow stronger with our children each day. But that’s just me. God doesn’t make mistakes or give you more than you can handle.
completely agree with you
very well said:)
i do agree with you, all the way.. i support young mothers the ones who didnt ask of it, but where strong enough to do it… but on the other hand the ones that are wanting that, that want to have a baby to “play” with i dont! simply because they are SELFISH! they want what they want, they have no idea what its like raising kids by yourself, i was 14 and my mom left me with my 4 little sisters for weeks at a time, and i was forced to care for them! not a choice.. im angry with these young girls who want something to play with or think its so glamorous when i ts not!
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