I just found out I’m pregnant on Monday. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years, and we’ve lived together for 2 years. I’m 22 and he’s 27.
I told him immediately when I found out I was pregnant and he took it well, but didn’t say much at first. I’ve been off birth control for about 2 months now (due to insurance messing up) and he’s known. He even told me about a month and a half ago that he wanted to have a baby and even asked me if we had sex that day did I think I could get pregnant. So we did and when we were done he even asked me not to get up right away. Now I’m pregnant and he’s asked me to get an abortion. He says “We’re not ready” and instead is saying he wants to get married and wait 2 years and then have a baby. I don’t want to have an abortion, but I don’t want him to resent me and my child for me going through with my pregnancy. He told me that he would be there for me and support me through the abortion and even now, but he hasn’t. Today, he left me in bed all day, alone, crying, while he was in the living room watching tv with his friends, so I left to go to my mothers house and now he’s ignoring me because I left.
I don’t know what to do. I’m so hurt and so upset. I’ve researched abortions and want no part of it! But my only choices are to keep the baby and face having to do it on my own if he doesn’t step up (and if he does, I’ll face him resenting me and my child forever) or I can get an abortion and live with the pain and regret for the rest of my life. I’m not sure if I could handle raising a child on my own because I feel emotionally unstable after what he’s put me through. Because him and I have been together for so long, it would be hard for me to not be emotional about having his child.
What would you do in my situation? Please, I just need someone’s advice! Thank you.
I loved you before I knew you. I’ve shielded your little soul since day one. People all around await to greet you with open arms and open hearts. Others in an attempt to destroy your happiness. Though they may try, they will not succeed. They come through me first and that’s as far as they will get.
I am your mommy. I am your protector. You are loved more than you will ever know. You have an army of protectors to guide you along your special path. Lay so sweetly in my arms, you’ll always stay. Safe and warm, dreaming lovely dreams. Giggle and coo so gently. Worries you will have none. You are my son. You are my heart. I will protect you always for you keep me going.
I love you, my angel.
I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant.
I was shocked. I kept it to myself 4 27 weeks as I was scared of what my parents would say. Everything turned out fine though and I had a little girl. I was pregnant again at 19, this time with a boy. That pregnancy was fine except for that relationship. I then met someone else but he was older than me, which didn’t go down well with family. I was told not to see him but still did and I ended up pregnant again. I kept this from my parents till 34 weeks.
Now my daughter is three months and beautiful and things weren’t as bad as I thought would be!!
By my user name, anyone can tell that I am full of guilt. I recently met this guy a couple of months ago and he truly is a great guy but…..
We had some problems with him being overbearing and kind of controlling. I tried to drop little hints to him about his actions but he just wasn’t getting the point I was trying to make. We then, one night, got into a heated argument and he tried to confine me in the bedroom (so we could talk, which at that point was not happening for me). He squeezed me so hard he bruised my rib. I’m not a stupid girl but by no means do I think he really meant to hurt me. We talked and worked things out, blah blah blah. The things I told him I was looking for and needed, he said he was and could be.
After about a week with little to no change, I started looking for a way out. Instead of talking to him again, I started looking for a way out. A friend who is my best guy friend asked me to go hang out with him. I didn’t hesitate. This was no different than any other time or was it? We hung out and ended up at his house, talking about our relationships. One thing led to another and we had sex.
I went home as if nothing had happened. (my boyfriend lives with me.) I told myself I wasn’t going to tell him I was looking to get out anyway. Well, that didn’t happen. We ended up talking and things started changing in our relationship for the better. But still, I wasn’t going to tell him I had been unfaithful.
Our relationship has been going a lot better. Until now, I haven’t given the unfaithful night a thought but now I am 2 and a half weeks late on my period. I don’t want to take a test but I know I need to find out.
What’s a girl to do? I do know that cheating was wrong. I do know that I was wrong. But can cheating be justified. The part that scares me is if I am pregnant, how do I explain?????????????
Well, I made my decision today. all of my close friends are being very supportive and that’s one of the reasons why I’m deciding to continue this pregnancy.
I’m very excited and very nervous. This is gonna be VERY hard but I know that it’ll all be worth it in the end. Now the one thing left to do is tell Mother. I’m nervous and have no clue what to saaay . . . 🙁
It’ll break her heart to know her baby is having a baby of her own. I’m really nervous …
Coping with the consequences of my forced abortion 1 and 1/2 years ago has been an awful experience for me and my current boyfriend.
I have been with him ten months now and he has been so supportive, unlike my ex who was more interested in sex with another girl during the whole experience even while he was still with me. I haven’t felt like myself since having the abortion firstly as it wasn’t my choice and I feel maybe it was the wrong decision.
I find myself sat at home for hours on end on the internet looking at cots, prams, clothes, and everything else for babies and I am desperate to be a mum!!
