Hi, Well to start I’m currently 15 years old soon to be 16 this month and i’m 5 months pregnant. I am still with the father of my child and we are both very happy. We have decided to call her Valerie and are still thinking of a middle name. (It may be Juliette) I have bought many baby clothes for Valerie and still need a whole lot more things. I am getting check ups and I have a lot of support from my family, my friends, and my boyfriend. I write to girls that are in the same situation and are confused on what to do. I want to let every girl out there know: Be strong. I haven’t thought of this but many girls who are in this situation don’t think they can do it. Last week my boyfriend said,”I’m scared, what if i can’t do it?” I looked at him straight in the eyes and said,”I know we can.” Girls, we have to realize that our babies are already here. They can listen to all the things we listen to, they can move, they can blink there eyes, they can even yawn. You can’t be thinking that you can’t do it, you have to stay strong for your baby because once he/she with you, you can’t be thinking,”can i do this?” because now you are going to have to regardless. I’m very happy that i am pregnant but many of you may not feel the same way. You may not know it but a lot of people are here for you. So my message is stay strong and don’t give up because you are going to be giving up on that precious baby inside of you too.
-eli
Found out that I was pregnant.
When my dad found out, he said that I should keep it. But I was afraid because the dad didn’t want to be involved. But things have now changed cos I now live with my aunt and uncle. They know and are so supportive so is my mum in Australia.
Luckily, she might be coming before I go into labour.
I’m too young for this. I have to grow up and take responsibility. If I did that in the first place, I wouldn’t be here now…
My life: I am 13 years old. I have a sister who is two years younger than me. We don’t get along but I love her. I’m not the most innocent. I have a 17-year-old boyfriend. I smoke weed (cannabis), I drink, and stupidly, I have had unprotected sex several times… I am not proud of what I’ve done, who I am. I don’t think I’m pretty. I do care what people think of me, but I don’t seem that way. My parents don’t think that much of me. They know all this about me. I wish my parents could be proud of me. I wish they could love me. I wish I could think more of myself and I wish I didn’t socialize with some of the people I do, but I guess that’s part of who I am. All my life, I have been with the “wrong kind of people”.
My life now: My sister has some kind of anger issue and it changes everything. There are always fights in the house. I cry myself to sleep at night with the sound of screaming, yelling, crying and fighting. I love my parents so much, but most the time, I don’t get along with them very well… I have thought I have been pregnant twice before, but I’m stupid and have gone back and had unprotected sex. It hasn’t been long enough to know if I’m pregnant or not. I don’t want it to be. I’ve been told you don’t really see symptoms until about a month after. For me, it has only been a week since I had sex. But I need to go to the toilet every half hour, but when I pee, hardly anything comes out. Then I get that feeling that I need to go again just as I finish and it even hurts quite a lot.
I’m not really sure what to do?
I was still having so much pain and cramping and unable to eat. And the baby was getting bigger. Still thinking about what I was gonna do.
I still haven’t told my parents. And I wasn’t planning to. Still, I haven’t gone back to work. I was at appointment after appointment because doctors kept telling me that I had an ectopic pregnancy (fetus outside of the uterus) so there was absolutely no way I could keep it. But they weren’t completely sure. But I just wanted to know already and know why I was having so much pain. I began getting upset. It was appointment after appointment, and needles and more needles. I couldn’t take anymore. My arms were all bruised and my veins were beginning to collapse, and looked like a heroin addict with blue veins and bruises, and I just stopped all the doctor visits. But my boyfriend continued to push me to get answers if it was an ectopic. He had accompanied me to almost every single visit, even missing work. But he was just as worried.
Finally at my last emergency room visit, a doctor was looking at my information and ultrasound and was telling me, that he was no completely sure it was ectopic because it wasn’t confirmed. I took more test and had another ultrasound. Me and my boyfriend were there forever!!! We were transferred to ultrasound and my boyfriend kept watch at the screen. Since the lady who was doing the ultrasound wasn’t allowed to give us answers until it was examined by another doctor, while she left. I dressed. She stepped out and we observed it. And there was my baby. A small circle that looked like a ring. It was so small. I looked at boyfriend wondering if that was it. And if that was my uterus. But all we could do was wait.
The next day, the doctor that had attended me gave me a call. He told us they observed it and confirmed that the pregnancy was in the uterus. It was relief to know I wasn’t in any danger. But that still didn’t explain the pain. They just told me its my uterus expanding but I didn’t think it would hurt this bad. But I toughened it out.
I am 22 years old and about 8-9 weeks pregnant. I haven’t decided what I am going to do yet because its a very weird situation. I have an abortion october of 2009 and although it was rough it was the easiest decision for me and my boyfriend at the time. After that I had some issues my prolactin wouldn’t regulate and I wasn’t sure if I would even be able to have kids. Since then, we have tried different types of birth control only to find out that I am allergic to the lactose and hormone used to create birth control so we have been using the rhythm method ever since. I first discovered I was pregnant about 4 weeks ago when I missed my period but I started bleeding very heavily soon after and my doctor told me that I was having a miscarriage and that if I was bleeding terribly the chances of survival were slim to none. Still, when I went in for my check up that week my HCG level was at a 2 . The next tuesday I went in for another follow up because I chose to miscarry naturally without a D&C and my HCG level was at a 4. On Saturday I found out it was at a 11. So it turned out that I was pregnant with twins but I lost one. After dealing with all of this my boyfriend has been right there for me. He has been very supportive and helped me with all of this but when I mentioned to him that I wanted to keep this baby he freaked out. Which I guess is to be expected and he reasoning was just that we aren’t ready. Which is true to some degree but we know that we are going to get married and be together so thats no really an issue he just wants our lives to be stable before adding kids to the mix. And its complicated because my parents are super religious and his mother got pregnant fairly early so I get where he’s coming from but is it wrong for me to want this baby so bad. As far as practicality goes, I have one maybe two more semesters of college left but I work and make more than enough money to support a child and he has already graduated. And sure my finances are a bit more flexible than his but should that stop me from having a baby. I just would like to hear some feedback because he is a great guy and he will stand by me regardless but is what he’s saying true. There is no doubt in my mind that we will get married and have children later on so because of that should I just let this one go? Please let me know what you think.
I am 22 years old and about 8-9 weeks pregnant. I haven’t decided what I am going to do yet because it’s a very weird situation.
I had an abortion in October of last year. And although it was rough, it was the easiest decision for me and my boyfriend at the time. After that, I had some issues. My prolactin wouldn’t regulate and I wasn’t sure if I would even be able to have kids. Since then, we have tried different types of birth control only to find out that I am allergic to the lactose and hormones used to create birth control. So we have been using the rhythm method ever since. I first discovered I was pregnant about 4 weeks ago when I missed my period, but I started bleeding very heavily soon after and my doctor told me that I was having a miscarriage and that if I was bleeding terribly, the chances of survival were slim to none. Still, when I went in for my check-up that week my HCG level was at a 2.
The next Tuesday, I went in for another follow-up because I chose to miscarry naturally without a D&C and my HCG level was at a 4. On Saturday, I found out it was at a 11. So it turned out that I was pregnant with twins, but I lost one. After dealing with all of this, my boyfriend has been right there for me. He has been very supportive and helped me with all of this, but when I mentioned to him that I wanted to keep this baby, he freaked out. Which I guess is to be expected and his reasoning was just that we aren’t ready. Which is true to some degree, but we know that we are going to get married and be together so that’s not really an issue. He just wants our lives to be stable before adding kids to the mix. And its complicated because my parents are super religious and his mother got pregnant fairly early so I get where he’s coming from, but is it wrong for me to want this baby so bad? As far as practicality goes, I have one, maybe two more semesters of college left, but I work and make more than enough money to support a child and he has already graduated. And sure, my finances are a bit more flexible than his, but should that stop me from having a baby?
I just would like to hear some feedback because he is a great guy and he will stand by me regardless, but is what he’s saying true? There is no doubt in my mind that we will get married and have children later on so because of that should I just let this one go? Please let me know what you think.
