My name is Candice and I’m 20 years old. I like to share my story with others because it really shows that no matter what, you can do this and no matter what, you’re not alone. I’m currently 19 weeks pregnant and very excited for this baby to come! However, my boyfriend, not so much. We’ve been together for 5 years and definitely had our ups and downs but one thing we always shared was truly loving each other. He joined the service and I couldn’t have been prouder of him. He was following his dreams.
When he got back, we went away to separate schools and survived that. Then a year ago we moved in together. Things were good for a while, but as usual something was getting in the way of us being truly happy. Well, we tried to work things out for several months and it seemed that everything was finally going to work out.
Well, the second week of June came around and I found out I was pregnant. I’ve been on birth control for 3 years and knew how to take it properly. However, I forgot to take it 3 days in a row and bam, I became pregnant. I was really nervous to tell my significant other, but finally got up the courage to do so. His first reaction wasn’t really a reaction at all. He was just kinda like, “Ummm, really? Okay.” So the next day I made him sit down with me and tell me how he really felt about it. He was terrified as most men are when they first hear the news. He said that he’d be there for me and the baby and I was over the moon. For once, things were going to be good. Well, 2 weeks later I came home from work and all of his things were gone. He called me a few days later to tell me that he wasn’t ready for a baby and if I wasn’t going to have an abortion then he couldn’t be with me anymore. I thought about this for a while. I really wanted him in my life, but I also already loved this baby so much. After no contact with him for about a week, I made the decision to keep my baby. I told him that I was keeping it and I really haven’t heard from him since.
Ladies, when it comes to pregnancy you need to do what’s right for you! Not your parents, or boyfriend, or even friends. This decision is ultimately yours and you can do whatever you feel is right in your heart. You don’t need a man to help you through it and remember this, anyone can be a father. But it takes a special man to be a Dad. Also, support lies all around you. My family and friends have been great support for me throughout this entire pregnancy so far and whenever I do feel alone, I look at my growing belly and remind myself that I made the best decision for me and I have more love for this baby than I ever thought possible.