OK so, this is my story. I’m 14 and so is my boyfriend.
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I have always wanted a baby but my boyfriend didn’t and about 2 months ago, I found out I’m pregnant and I’m not sure how to tell him what should I do.
If you have any idea what I should do, tell me. I would love to hear it,
Hey everybody.
I haven’t been on here in a long time. I lost my password but I’m back and I’m having a little girl in July.
So, how do I write this without making it sound boring or the same old, same old written by hundreds of women. I can start by being honest and straightforward.
I’m single, want to be a mom but can’t. The most logical thing to do is adopt. But since I’m not Angelina Jolie, Rosie O’Donnell, or Sheryl Crow, I’m having a hard time. I don’t have their money and I’m an unknown. I’m not poor by any means, but I don’t have access to the same resources they do. And why would anyone want me to adopt their baby when there are so many couples out there wanting to do the same? So you can see the odds are against me. So I decided to check out sites for pregnant teens, in hopes of finding someone who might give me a chance if they decide to go the adoption route. Of course, I’m all for you keeping the babies because it just seems right, but for those who can’t and abortion is not an option, I hope you’ll let me know. More to come about me and my journey (if anyone is interested.. 😉
Hey girls…So this is my story for all of you who want to know.
Right now, I am a senior in high school and I will be 18 soon :]. I have been dating my wonderful boyfriend for a year and a half! A few months ago, I missed my period (which didn’t even occur to me)… But then I started getting tired, my boobs were sore,…all the symptoms. I ended up taking 9 pregnancy tests and of course, they were all clearly positive. I couldn’t tell my parents because I knew they would freak out. So my boyfriend told his mom. She was worried and wanted to make sure everything was OK with the baby so we went to a clinic together. At the clinic, I found out I was 8 weeks pregnant.
At first, my boyfriend and I were nervous but in the end, he said that he would be by my side no matter what. A few weeks after my visit to the clinic, I was driving to get something to eat and I started getting really sharp, horrible pains down there. I had to pull over it hurt so bad. When I got home, I realized I was bleeding and I had huge clots coming out. So of course, that is the worse sign ever. I finally told my sister and her and her friend took me to the emergency room. Long story short, I ended up having a miscarriage.
It was terrible and it still makes me sad, but I know I would’ve been a good mommy. My boyfriend and I are still together and we hope to have a beautiful baby someday. O and even though I didn’t tell my parents, they still found out because my mom got the emergency room bill in the mail and saw what it was for. They were very upset and even more upset that I told my boyfriend’s mom and not mine.
Well, I’m 17 and right now, I have a boyfriend who is in the army and he’s currently in Iraq right now….
We have talked and we want to spend the rest of our lives together… He’s always wanted a baby and so have I, I’m really good with them… Lately, me and him have been talking and we want to have a baby when he comes back. But I keep getting different opinions like if I have a baby this young, I’m gonna regret it and I can’t do anything with my life, it will completely ruin it and then also I keep getting opinions like you’ll love it, it won’t be that hard and with your boyfriend in the army, you guys will have money to take care of it.
I would just like to know, would it be hard having a baby right now at my age? And also, what would be the best way to tell my parents if I do get pregnant?
I was reading a news article on the internet the other day. An Australian company (not the first) has decided to introduce paid maternity leave. This opened the debate as to if the government should introduce it. The writer of the article thought no, that it wouldn’t be fair for childless couples to ‘fund a lifestyle choice’ of others. However, it is also a lifestyle choice to remain childless, and in doing so, they are forcing the generation after them to pay higher taxes to pay for everything they need as older people. Why should they not help them into the world and just expect them to pay more later?
It re-opened a debate which has been going on in my own head for a while. Am I doing the right thing? I wanted to have an abortion when I was pregnant with my daughter. I had a lot of emotional issues and didn’t want a baby. I hated coming on here in a way because I had to pretend to be happy.
When I found out, I was pregnant again, I had no such thoughts. I instantly wanted to keep my baby. This is until when I was about 12 weeks pregnant and woke up in the middle of the night wondering if I was doing the right thing. If it was fair to my daughter or the baby. I wasn’t going to have as much money or time for my daughter with another baby. I started to think about the kind of world i would be bringing another baby into.
We are always hearing about global warming, economic crisis, and how un-affordable houses are. Why should I want to bring a child into a world like this? After much crying, I went back to sleep with the firm thoughts that as much as I wanted the baby, I would have an abortion, because things were just too hard (mostly personally).
By the morning, I had again changed my mind. I wanted to keep my baby. I feel selfish for it. It’s taking away from my daughter’s quality of life. It’s taking away from what I had planned for my own life. I’m almost 28 weeks pregnant now, and sometimes, I regret not getting the abortion, even though it would have caused me so much pain. It would have perhaps been for the better.
My mind is in turmoil. I like my unborn baby, but I feel guilty and selfish for bringing her into this world. Am I doing the right thing?
