I am 22 years old and about 8-9 weeks pregnant. I haven’t decided what I am going to do yet because its a very weird situation. I have an abortion october of 2009 and although it was rough it was the easiest decision for me and my boyfriend at the time. After that I had some issues my prolactin wouldn’t regulate and I wasn’t sure if I would even be able to have kids. Since then, we have tried different types of birth control only to find out that I am allergic to the lactose and hormone used to create birth control so we have been using the rhythm method ever since. I first discovered I was pregnant about 4 weeks ago when I missed my period but I started bleeding very heavily soon after and my doctor told me that I was having a miscarriage and that if I was bleeding terribly the chances of survival were slim to none. Still, when I went in for my check up that week my HCG level was at a 2 . The next tuesday I went in for another follow up because I chose to miscarry naturally without a D&C and my HCG level was at a 4. On Saturday I found out it was at a 11. So it turned out that I was pregnant with twins but I lost one. After dealing with all of this my boyfriend has been right there for me. He has been very supportive and helped me with all of this but when I mentioned to him that I wanted to keep this baby he freaked out. Which I guess is to be expected and he reasoning was just that we aren’t ready. Which is true to some degree but we know that we are going to get married and be together so thats no really an issue he just wants our lives to be stable before adding kids to the mix. And its complicated because my parents are super religious and his mother got pregnant fairly early so I get where he’s coming from but is it wrong for me to want this baby so bad. As far as practicality goes, I have one maybe two more semesters of college left but I work and make more than enough money to support a child and he has already graduated. And sure my finances are a bit more flexible than his but should that stop me from having a baby. I just would like to hear some feedback because he is a great guy and he will stand by me regardless but is what he’s saying true. There is no doubt in my mind that we will get married and have children later on so because of that should I just let this one go? Please let me know what you think.
Im having a litte boy and im so excited!!!
Not much longer and he will be here in my arms!!!!
This all happened unexpting and at first i didnt want it to happen but now i couldnt give him up for nothing:)
It’s hard to tell when it is right to burst out of all this pain in my heart… I don’t know where to start. I felt like I was dumb…..
I think it’s hard for me to think about myself…
I lived a hard life through physical abuse, molestation, and rape. I was always told by my mom that if anyone ever touched your swimsuit parts, it wasn’t okay and you needed to tell someone… Well, it started with the one person who you are supposed to trust, your dad. My dad molested me when I was younger, followed by an uncle on his side who touched me, and my grandpa. When I did say something, I was called a liar.
When I was about 7 or 8, a boy I played with growing up, who was much older than me, took me into the closet, touched my private parts, and said it was okay cause we were playing house and I was his wife.
right, when i was 13 all my friends had lost their virginity already so when i reached 15 and still hadent i thought i was weird and different. but i met a boy he was amazing, kind and really fit and i feel for him and eventually it happened but then a few weeks later i felt abit weird and didnt think nothing of it but then a few more weeks past and i decided to go and find out and they told me i was 6 weeks pregnant i was so shocked this couldnt of been happening to me of all people.
so i told the boy and he shouted and said he would have nothing to do with it and that he never even loved me and told me he only used me for one thing. i felt so alone my mum and dad disowned me i had no-one, nothing. it was so hard comeing to the decision of abortion but i finally had the medical abortion when i was 8 weeks pregnant this was the hardest time of my life, i cried and cried.
but that wasnt the end of it the abortion was horrible i mean horrible, and now i do think to myself could i have done it and kept the baby but i think i done what was best for the baby i had nothing to offer the baby. its 2 months on and i still cry and i have still never heard from the boy till this day :'( but these things are for the best . i was 15 and pregnant and i didnt take the easy way i took the best way.
i wanted to know if there was a possibility in my boyfriend getting in any type of trouble with the law if our baby is born after he turns 18 and he already enpregnated me before ? and im also 16 years old
