My name is Brittany and I am 21 years old.  I am a sufferer of Polycistic ovary syndrome (PCOS) and edometrious.  I got told when i was 18 that i would never be able to conceive a child naturally.  I have just found out that i am 9 weeks pregnant, I went to my first scan at 7 weeks and saw the babies little heart beat was a very exciting time for me to see the baby that i never thought i could have.

Lately I have been having some mixed feelings, The father of the baby wants nothing to do with it and says i am making a big mistake and should get rid of it because he doesn’t want to give up the life he has now and take responsibility of a child.  This could be a one of chance of ever conceiving a child and He wants me to get rid of it.  I have seriously been considering not going through with the pregnancy just from what he is saying, i feel so alone and dont know what to do.

I have seen my babies heart beat every day.  He/she is growing inside of me….

Hi Brittany,
Thanks for emailing.  It’s good to talk with you. 

I’m sorry to hear about your situation and I’m sorry that your boyfriend is doing this to you.  I agree with you that every life is precious and a once in a lifetime shot.  When making the decision about whether to choose parenting your child or abortion, I would encourage you to do what you want to do instead of listening to other people.  No matter what you decide and no matter who influences you, you are the one who has to live with the consequences.  Your boyfriend will not have to live with it.  It’s easy for him to tell you what he things you should do, but you are the mother and you are the one with the closest connection with your child.  I think that you already know that you want to parent your child.  Don’t let anyone talk you out of that decision.

Here is a great website that you can go to so you can see exactly where your child is in development: http://www.ehd.org/movies.php?mov_id=210.  Needless, to say, if your child has a heartbeat and you can hear his or her heartbeat through ultrasound, you can be sure that he or she is alive and a human being.  If you were to choose abortion, the worst thing in the world is knowing that you took the life of another human being – not just any human being, but your very own child. 

No matter what your boyfriend may be saying to you, don’t believe it.  Don’t buy into it.  It’s true that you may not be able to give you child all the best in life, but what parent can?  I know I was not given all the best in life and I still made it anyway.  Your child is no different.  All he or she needs is your love and your support, and you are capable to doing that.  I think that you have what it takes.  I think that you can do this!  You can be an excellent mother!  Just give your baby a chance to live.  You don’t know what you are capable of until you try.

Let me know how things turn out.

Much love,

April

Hey Becky,

i emailed you around 7 weeks ago when i had first found out i was pregnant and the father didnt want anything too do with it and i felt confused and alone and not sure weather too go through with the pregnancy,

I listened too my heart and i am now 13.5 weeks pregnant and couldnt be more excited :). the father still wants nothing too do with the baby and that does upset me alot as my abby wont have a father and i have also lost my best friend, but when i saw my babies heart beating on the scan and saw its little body i knew i made the right decision by keeping the baby,

I want too thank you for this website as it has helped me a lot and when i feel down in the dumps i come on here and read peoples stories and it always makes me feel better, just cant wait too meet my little one.

Thank you,

Brittany