Last September, I had an ex-boyfriend who died suddenly at 18. His heart had a hole in it and the doctors never knew. He also had a then 2-year-old daughter named Daja, and her mother never wanted her and left her with my ex-boyfriend when she was only a month old. He took sole custody of her with the help of his dad.
My ex cheated on me and that’s how he ended up with a daughter. I cared about him and his child even though he had cheated. I helped take care of Daja. I babysat, I took her shopping, spent time with her. I was the only mother she’s “really” ever known and I love her like she is my flesh and blood, not like a child that was born because her father cheated on me.
When they moved to Washington State because my ex’s father, who is in the military, was given a job out there, I was heartbroken. My son had just been adopted, and I was deeply depressed. Being with them made me feel whole. So when his father was sent to Afghanistan and he came back to where I live, I was ecstatic!
He moved in with his great-aunt, who didn’t want him or Daja, so I had Daja at my house almost everyday, I took her out a lot, my ex and I were kinda co-parenting. It was great. Then I was raped and became pregnant with twins, but my ex was there for me; he was best friend. He was my rock and when he died suddenly about a month after I was raped, the world came crashing down on me.
His dad couldn’t come home for the funeral. His aunt and I argued about where he was gonna be buried. His aunt neglected Daja and she wanted to put her in foster care, because she never wanted her. So I decided to seek custody. I was 16 so they wouldn’t grant it. His aunt agreed to “keep” her as long as I helped out with her. I glady agreed.
Now I’m 18. Daja is at my house at least 2 weekends a month and I’m hoping that once I get a good job, she will be with me for good. I might be sick now and if the tumor in my brain is cancerous, what’s gonna happen to Daja? I hope that it’s just a tumor and that they will grant me custody. Daja deserves so much more than she has now and I want to be there for her.
Her dad would’ve wanted that and I want to do it. I love her as much as I love my son. Does that make me “her” mom; is she “my” daughter?
It’s been over 2 years since I’ve been off “the shot” or the depo shot and my soon-to-be hubby and I really want a baby.
We have everything together in almost every way, from a good job to a nice place to live. We can’t seem to get pregnant. I thought I made the right choice by getting on the shot in high school, but now I’m not so sure.
I have always wanted to be a mommy. I don’t know what I’ll do if it turns out I can’t have kids.
Hey guys, don’t really know what to write here. I’d just like to stress how much abortions are the worst thing ever! I was forced into having an abortion at 22 weeks by my mum and boyfriend in May and I’m still suffering!
My life is a wreck. All my friends that were pregnant at the same time as me are having their babies and I always cry thinking, where is mine? I really feel disgusted that I didn’t stand up to them.
I feel so empty and lonely. My mum kicked me out cos she couldn’t deal with me being so upset. I miss her loads, but not sure if I can forgive her.
Would be great to hear from people that have maybe been through similar or are facing abortion. Please don’t do it!!!!
Hi. OK, so I am a teen mom.
My baby boy is 2 months and his name is Lucas.
I love him to death, I would do anything for him.
But I am only 15.
Everybody has smart comments, especially at school.
I needs some advice about what to say and other stuff too.
So I need an experienced young mom, that knows what I’m going through.
Please and thank you!
So I have good news and that is my cousin decided to keep her baby after all… The babyfather bailed (who’da thought it!?) But she is being a Stand-up Girl and deciding that she is not going to sacrifice the life of her baby for a guy that isn’t there to truly love and care for her. Three cheers!…
Hopefully, she won’t change her mind… I doubt she will… good.
As for me, I have a new-found optimism. And I’m so happy. It feels amazing, and I can’t help but wear a big grin on my face. I am in love with the most wonderful, amazing, loving, caring, affectionate, thoughtful (and the list goes on and on) man in the world. I feel so blessed and so lucky, and I know that God has His hands at work in our lives… 😀
When I first came to this site, I was so down and depressed about the fact I had not conceived yet and my longing for a baby had taken me over in a cloud of sadness, feelings of inadequacy and yearning (with a little added bit of jealousy for those who have conceived/have a baby on top :dry: ). I couldn’t see past what I wanted and how I pictured everything to be and the want to feel it right now at this moment. But God showed me something and now I’m so much more at ease… I still want a baby and I know it will happen very soon but I’m no longer getting upset or depressed at the thought of it happening in a couple months from now. I’ve decided that in each new year, we will embark on something new. This year, our baby. Next year, buying our house together and then the year after, getting married. God has shown me that he will bless us in time and that his way is so much better than the confused picture that held a little bit of dread. So this New Year, I have three resolutions…Love God, Love my Husband, Make our baby. Simple…uncomplicated…prepared for…and Blessed
Step by step by step by step and with God’s blessing and guidance…we’ll get there… :]
Today, my daughter’s father went to jail.
I wish he comes home soon. We need him.
