I’m 16yrs old and 5 1/2 months pregnant.
When I told my baby’s father I was pregnant, he said pece out. This has been the hardest experience in the life but I have gotten used to it. I would have never even considered abortion even though my Jayden Glenn was unplanned. I love him more than anything in this world. Jayden is the reason I get up every morning, the reason I’m still in school, trying to graduate. My baby’s father isn’t here for me one bit. He doesn’t even claim Jayden. Nut as days go by, I make things better for myself cuz I have to now for my son ;]
For girls who are pregnant and thinking about abortion, to be honest, my son has been the best thing in my life and I wouldn’t imagine a day anymore without wondering what he is going to look like, and how much he is gonna brighten up my day. You don’t need a man to be there for your child. It is hard but things get better with time <33
Always keep your head up and think of better days.
I am 19 years old. I am currently attending a well-known and respected college under scholarships and grants. I worked really hard in school to get here and my family expects a lot from me. They have always considered me very mature. I was also in a very loving, happy, wonderful relationship with, who I thought was, the man of my dreams. We had spent the last year completely enamored with each other and were connected at the hip. I had a promising, normal, future.
About four months ago, we found out that I was pregnant. My boyfriend, who is one year younger than me, was already dealing with some tough life changes. His parents had recently spilled that after 19 years of a seemingly perfect marriage, their life together was no longer working and would soon be over. He was devastated. Then, not too much longer afterwards, the baby news came. It all is too much to handle. The boy that I once thought was my everything, and me his, has completely isolated himself from me, leaving me heartbroken and alone. Although we are not broken up, I know that we are heading in that direction. My heart hurts. It really, really hurts.
On the other hand, my family is very, very excited for me. We have worked every single detail out for me to keep this little baby. I can still go to school, work, have babysitters, healthcare, and a wonderful place to live. My parents are already picking out nursery colors. My sister, who is my best friend and mother to my two godchildren, has already taken me to do my registry and is allowing me to borrow any and every baby item that she owns, which will help out a lot. My family’s generosity and consistent support is wonderful. I feel so very blessed to have them.
Besides my boyfriend, everything is perfect. The baby, I will find out in a few weeks the sex, if absolutely perfect. Wonderful heartbeat, good ultrasounds. Basically my doctor told me that I am at my prime age to conceive children, physically. I am starting to show, barely, and have had a very easy, painless, morning-sickness-less pregnancy thus far. Overall, I know that I am lucky. However, everything that is happening with my boyfriend is tearing me apart.
I have troubles sleeping and I have to force myself to eat for my baby. I recently went to the hospital for dehydration and a kidney infection because I wasn’t taking care of myself. I really do love my baby and am very, very excited for him/her to come, but I cannot seem to shake myself off of him and onto preparations for baby. I do not want to be this pathetic, but I just feel so very alone, depressed, confused, and sad. I miss him and what we had so much. He wants me to have an adoption. He feels that we are not yet ready to be parents and that another family, who is ready, could provide a wonderful life for our child. Although I admire this decision, I do not think that it is the right one for me. We do not talk about it, although I really wish that we would. I just want my support system back, and he can’t be there for me. I feel as if we have the means to do this, so why not?
My boyfriend thinks that if we give the baby up, then everything can go back to the way that it was. I am not so sure. I know that things have changed and now that I have seen him this way, I don’t know if I could take him back and trust him to be there for me when the going gets tough. I also feel as if this is not who he is, this is not the guy that I dated for a year. He has changed under the pressure, and I know that he is not happy, even though we do not talk about it.
I know that I am mourning him, and I want to stop hating my days and start appreciating this miracle. I love my baby and I know that once he/she comes, nothing else will matter. I also truly believe, although not all of the time, that I do have hopes for happiness. Some day, someone will love me and accept me and my baby together. My dreams for a wonderful marriage and life are not completely shattered. However, there are days when I find myself having a hard time believing this and I would like to know if anyone can help me. I feel as if people try to help, but can’t understand. I need someone else who has experienced this to talk me through it. Give me some pointers on how to make myself better.
Everyone says that they believe that my boyfriend is a good guy and will come around, especially after the baby comes. I am not so convinced. I would also appreciate some guidance on how to legally handle support from him. Everyone tells me that the baby deserves it. Even if I don’t need it for monthly expenses, the child can use it for college, or a rainy day fund.
Any and all advice or comments are welcomed and appreciated. Please help me.
I made love with my Fiancé April 16th. I believe I was ovulating April 15th through April 20th.
I didn’t get my period. I am peeing a lot. I sometimes get lightheaded. I have been feeling really tired more than normal. I am more emotional and sad. My back hurts. I feel like my stomach is full and between my stomach and my lower area it is swollen it looks like. I am asking this question because I am afraid my test will be negative. It’s just me being insecure.
Please help me. Thank You!
So I’m 16 and about one month pregnant…
My family is very strict and I’m scared that they might throw me out if I tell them I’m gonna have a baby… Also, my boyfriend is not happy about the baby and wants me to get rid of it. I can not do that, I would never abort the baby and I want to keep it. But I feel that no one is going to be there for me. I know I can do this because I am strong, but everyone just seems so against it that I don’t know what to do… =(
Help
MY MOTHER MADE AN APPOINTMENT WITHOUT MY PERMISSION
The day I found out I was pregnant, it was like a big explosion when I told my parents. My parents wouldn’t even speak to me. I felt all alone. The next day I came home from school and my mother told me that we were going out, so I went. When we pulled up to an abortion clinic, I cried the whole time we were there. When the doctor came in, I got up and left. My mom came after me and “Either you get this abortion or you get out of my house”. So I made the hardest decision of my life to kill my baby. I cried all night. I didn’t eat, sleep, even go to school. But, when I did get the strength to go back to school, people were calling me all kind of ‘baby killer’ names. Sometimes, I wonder what my life would have been like if I kept the baby. I would have a three-year-old. I thank my mom for saving my life. I realize that people call you names for killing your baby, they’re not going to take of it, and feed, buy pampers, and clothe it.
It’s all on the mother.
Dear Baby,
I thought I would write you a little letter, another one. I was just doing a silly quiz thing which was ‘What Should Your Parents Have Called You’, and mine came back as Lexi.
It made me cry. That’s what Mummy and Daddy were going to call you if you were a girl- Lexie-Mai.
I’ve been thinking about you so much lately baby, wondering who you would look like more- me or Daddy, what you would be doing now, what your smile would be like, things like that. I would do anything to have you back. You would be 19 weeks old tomorrow (2nd May).
I miss you baby. I miss you like crazy. I would do anything to hold you in my arms and know everything will be ok.
Are you with me baby, are you watching me? I wish there was a way of knowing if you’ve been looking after. Can you forgive me baby, will you ever be able to forgive me? I completely understand if you can’t. I can’t forgive myself.
Baby- i love you. Don’t ever forget that! And I will never regret falling pregnant with you, having you in my belly, having you in my life. I only regret losing you, not standing up to Nanny, not being strong enough.
Mummy loves you. Daddy loves you. We hope you love us back.
x
Rest In Peace Baby; 15.03.08-01.07.09
