He says he loves you? What's to stop him from taking your special gift and dumping you? What's to prove to you that he loves you and not just your body? Nothing. Guys have honey soaked tongues, they'll swear on the stars and heavens that they worship you and tomorrow you'll find them worshiping the girl next door!
She couldn't believe it! It wasn't fair and didn't make sense! She'd done everything she could- she'd done her part and now it was just over? She'd tried hard to make things work, she'd given him everything. But obviously everything, wasn't enough. And looking into his face she saw he wasn't tearing on the inside. He'd gotten what he'd wanted. She'd gotten nothing.
Men want sex. Women want intimacy. Men give intimacy for sex. Women give sex for intimacy. Women come out of that "exchange" with nothing. He's given something already and doesn't see why he has to give anymore. We're still left with that hole in us that cries for intimacy and security, to know that someone loves and wants us.
Women hate being alone, because when we are, we don't feel important. We wonder what's wrong with us and why no one wants us.
What we really want is to be wanted as a person, as an individual. When we can't find that, we settle for being wanted just as a body, even if it's less than what we want for ourselves- it's better than nothing, right? Wrong. At the back of our minds, we know that it's not good enough and it eats away at our self-respect. We might not say it to ourselves, but in our hearts we think- "What's wrong with me? Why am I selling myself short?" …Because it feels better to be wanted for something, than not wanted at all.
It's certainly not what rap artists make it out to be. Sex is your special gift. It's not just about physical enjoyment, it's about communicating with someone on a very intimate level- giving yourself. When you give someone your body, it should be an act of love and trust, not about raging hormones. That's why it hurts when you trust someone enough to give them your body and they ditch and replace you so fast your head spins. It hurts because they've betrayed your heart.
He says he loves you? What's to stop him from taking your special gift and dumping you? What's to prove to you that he loves you and not just your body? Nothing. Guys have honey soaked tongues, they'll swear on the stars and heavens that they worship you and tomorrow you'll find them worshiping the girl next door!
God and Sex. What’s the big deal with God and sex? What's his problem, why is he so uncool! Waiting for marriage??? HELLO!!! What about our raging hormones?
Your raging hormones won't cure a broken heart or bring back your self-esteem and self-pride when you realize that all he was after, was your body.
God's sole purpose in the universe isn't cramping your style… you're not that important. If he was totally uncool and whack, he wouldn't have created sex. He knows you and sees things in your heart that no one else sees. He knows before you do that someone using you for sex kills you inside even though you act like it's nothing. God wants to protect you, from the heartache that comes with sharing you special gift and having it thrown back in your face. To him, it's not about being legalistic and bossy and uncool, it's about protecting his little girl from someone taking your gift and walking out of you.
God knows that if you wait until your wedding ring is blinding people as you walk past… That after giving that gift to you'll be able to look at that guy and smile. You'll put your head on his shoulder and say to him, "It's just you and me forever. That's a good feeling because we love each other. I feel safe this way and truly loved. I'm not afraid that you'll leave me if I don't give you what you want. I'm glad, I'm with someone who wants all of me, not just my body. I'm glad that you want me for being me."
And that's the best place you can be with sex, where it's not a game and not an act. But the real thing… Forever.
