My husband and I are starting the process of adopting a baby and wow, what a beautiful thing these women are doing for their child and the adoptive couple(s). The ladies are doing this to give their unborn child a really great chance at life. Their reasons vary, but they all have one thing in common, and that is to give their baby what they can’t. We are looking both at surrogacy, as well as adoption.

I had an abortion many years ago and it was truly the very worst thing I have ever done. I was young, knew I couldn’t take care of a child, and my parents were set on me having an abortion. That was in 1984. I was put in the hospital by an ob/gyn that was a “friend of the family” and went through the process. After it was done, I ended up staying in the hospital for 5 days due to some complications. Not only did I have the abortion, but I ended up going through 2 days of contractions/cramps, blood loss, and the destruction of my reproductive organs. I carry that guilt with me every day of my life, and I wish I had known about the options that were available to me. I know the procedure is much more safe now, but at that time, I wasn’t even admitted to the hospital to have an abortion. Due to legal issues(?), the ob/gyn admitted me under the pretense of having some other ailment.

Now I can’t have children, but can’t even begin to describe the longing for a child to hold and give the best possible life and love he/she could ever want or need. I’m 36 now, am stable in my career, have a home that is paid for, a great husband, but the emptiness of not having a child is like a part of my soul is missing. I know that we will get our bundle of joy one day, and I hope we will also be helping someone that really needs it as well.

To all of you, no matter what your choice, I wish you the very best of luck!