wanting to be pregnant again

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I have been through a season in my life where it seemed like everyone around me was dying. My friend who was engaged to my mom then my sister had an abortion (we were preg at the same time so everytime I look at my daughter I imagine her cousin we never met) then my mom died. All of this was in a months time. I sometimes work for the funeral home my mom was in. I help out with viewings. I have been through so much hurt and pain in my life so when I am at a funeral or a viewing and someone is hurting I can see it and almost feel their pain and I have had many opportunities to just give hugs or words of encouragement. I would not be able to do that if I had not been through it myself. Maybe you will find a way to reach out to those in your situation. It brings so much healing and restoration. I agree with your boyfriend that right now may not be the best timing. Having a baby will not "make up" for the two you have lost. Nor will it take away the hurt of your Bf’s parents loss. The only thing that has helped me deal with my pain hurt and loss (not stuffing it away or hiding it) has been Jesus. You can call me a broken record because I say that alot or you can call me a "little church girl" or anything else you want…it doesnt bother me. All I know is that I have experienced healing from the Lord and I have experienced His deliverance. I have not always been a "little church girl" and I used to be Gods enemy but He loved me first and thats why I love Him. He cared for my wounds that I sometimes inflicted on myself by making poor choices. And yes sometimes He lets me taste the bitterness of the messes I make. But this I know for sure and swear on it with my whole heart. God loves you and me and everyone else He has created. He wants the best for us all. And if you seek Him with your whole heart He will be found by you. If you call out to Him in this time of greif and confusion He will pull you out of the sinking mud and set your feet upon a rock. I hope and pray that you will let Him touch your life and that when He does you will know it and embrace it. I hope and pray that you will bask in His blessings and that one day you will have a family of your own. Life is hard whether you believe in God or not but it sure is nicer to have Him to carry you through times like this. I am praying for you…Take care…Meg

Hi.

At this point, it wouldn’t really be a good idea to be pregnant. Both you and your boyfriend are emotionally exhausted and the baby shouldn’t need to feel that. I think the best thing you can do right now is to be with each other and solidify the relationship that you have.

Your boyfriend is down and it would be good for you to devote more time to him. You also are down yourself and he needs to concentrate on you. Strengthen yourselves for and with each other. Once you two have gone through your depressions, then you can grow together again and start building your lives together. Only then can you really be ready to handle another baby.

Please understand, a baby’s arrival isn’t just for you, to lift up your lives. You have to do that on your own and you have to welcome your baby with as healthy a family as you can manage — financially and emotionally.

Please take care of yourself and each other.

Erick

what u are experiencing is to an extent postpartum depression, and also oyu are going through the stages of grief and loss…talk to ur doctor about a medication that could help the depression….