Scared

Dearest Shluna, I am so sorry for the fear and confusion you are facing….Teka gave you some GREAT advice and info, I would like to add to that a little….Especially if you are supposed to be 7 weeks and your baby is only measuring 4 weeks it could very well be that your baby has passed away….Did your doctor find a heart beat? MOST ectopic pregnancies end in the medically emergent removal of the baby, some people have referred to this as an abortion and I am here to tell you that when your baby is implanted OUTSIDE of your uterus and there is NO chance for survival that this is NOT an elective abortion, if the word abortion is mentioned through this medical process you need to guard your heart and Stand your ground, IF you end up having to have your baby removed, you are simply experiencing a medical tragedy based on an emergency need…..Very few babies survive outside of the womb and the risk it poses to you is severe, Know that I am praying for a miracle for you and baby, KNOW that IF you loose this baby that it is NOT your fault and you are NOT to blame, Be cautious and attentive to your body right now, if your doctor has not scheduled you in for surgery to remove the baby yet then they might have hope that the baby could move or pass on his/her own….I was 3-4 weeks along when my youngest was hung up between my tube and uterus, technically ectopic and thankfully she moved, it is NOT impossible as long as the implantation process has not occurred….This is my prayer for your situation! If you have abdominal pain, especially dominant on one side, experience bleeding, light headedness, dizziness, violent vomiting, fever, etc you need to be seen IMMEDIATELY, Don’t call your doctor first, just go to the EMERGENCY ROOM….If the baby is in your tube and it ruptures you can potentially bleed out in a short period of time….I do not want to make you more scared than you already are, but please do be overly cautious….You are a strong woman, You have come so far and made it through so many trials already in your life, I am here to support you through this and I hope you will keep us all updated on what happens….Love you lots and you will be fervently in my prayers! Meg meg@standupgirl.com

If you have any of the symptoms I mentioned above or if you feel like something is wrong, GO TO THE HOSPITAL IMMEDIATELY and tell them that you may be experiencing an ectopic pregnancy Or else just go NOW if you are willing to pay an emergency visit, hospitals also offer write offs for UN-insured patients many times)….If you make it through the night without any issues then call the hospital in the morning and ask for the labor and delivery unit, explain what you have been told and ask if they would refer you to a good high risk pregnancy doctor, MAKE AN APPT ASAP, you NEED to be seen by someone who KNOWS what they are talking about, it confuses me why someone would tell you that you are experiencing an ectopic pregnancy and do NOTHING….It is important that you be seen by a professional and have an ultrasound in the next 24 hours, sooner than later is best, I always avoid the emergency room like the plague because they can cost a lot of money but if you are at risk for rupture, no amount of money is worth your health…Did the clinic give you any paperwork? By any chance was it a clinic that performs or refers for abortions? Sometimes they say things to cause pregnant women to panic so that they will consider ending their pregnancy, Anyways, Is your husband with you? You need to make sure he understands what is going on with you incase you faint or black out, you should NOT be alone tonight or until you know for sure what is happening to you, make sure you have someone to take care of your daughter and to check in on you through the night and be seen AS SOON AS YOU CAN tomorrow! I am praying for you! Love Meg

Hi Shluna-

Were you able to go to the doctor or clinic? Your whole situation seems really scary and I am worried about you!