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July 25, 2010 at 8:17 am #27396emma_jane
Im 22 and just the other day i found out i was pregnant, i have not told anyone yet as i face a few problems.
i have been with my current partner for 8 months and he is 24 and a full time dad to his 3 year old daughter which im proud of and he is a brilliant dad but he is not working at the moment but i have a well paid job and its secure… but im scared to tell him as i dont know what he reaction will be… and also back in 2007 i was made to have an abortion by my ex and my family as they said i was to young which i agrred with but it was the worst thing i have ever done and have regreted it ever since and i really dont want to abort this baby
the other problem is my family… they still think im too young and here is the bigger part of it.. my partner is black and even tho they like him alot.. they wouldnt approve of me having a mixed race child in the family which i feel ashamed to call them my family but i need there support at this time and i know if i told them they would try make me abort it like last time.. im worried they will diss-own me and im scared
please help on what i should doJuly 25, 2010 at 7:12 pm #27398babiemama
First. Congrates on being pregnant.. You do have to feel scared bout telling ur family bout it. ur 22 years old n ur family should stick on by ur desion and what you want to do with ur little one. I was much younger when i had my kids. and my family still to this day didn’t like me having kids that young, but it was choose to. and you have a great partner and loving you. Shouldn’t matter what color he is or the color of ur baby. if you love him then nothing should stop you. Tell ur family that ur pregnant and ur not having an adportion. its ur body and ur old enough to make ur own desion on what you want to do. I’m here if u need any thing else. I now how u feel with ur family. They still havn’t forgave me on having kids at 16 years old.. There ur family and they shouldn’t diss-own you for wanting to have kids at ur age, u have a great job to pay n amazing partner that be a great daddy again. Wish you luck, so b scared, b happyJuly 27, 2010 at 12:45 am #27399Dino
I can tell you that being pregnant can be a scary thing specially when you don’t know how people will react. I was 26 when I got pregnant with my first child and my husband (boyfriend at the time) was 6 years younger than me. So you can imagine i was terrified. He had a job as a delivery man at a restaurant but the pay was not enough for us to raise a family. Not to mention that my father was 81 at that time and he is very old fashioned (married first then kids). I was scared and I even thought of leaving him since for me abortion was not an option. One thing led to another that he found out I was pregnant and did not let me leave. I think the hardest part was telling my dad and seeing the disappointed look on his face. I knew he was angry and felt betrayed by me but he never said a word. We decided to stay together and now we have 3 wonderful girls and have been married for 6 years. What I am trying to say with all of this is that you NEVER know what the future has for you. You have been blessed with a child, a second opportunity to get it right. Eventually your family and your boyfriend will come around. Once they see that gorgeous baby and look into his or her eyes their hearts will melt just like your will when you see your BABY and hold him or her for the first time. There is no greater feeling that hearing your baby cry for the first time and feeling like you had something to do with the creation of a miracle. Many people will judge but at the end of the day you have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and be proud of the woman that you are and have become.
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