My Story, I need some Hope

First of all, I would like to tell you congratulations on the baby and that you made the decision to choose life. I am 46 years old so I am not going to tell you I know how you feel. I do know that it is hard. Once you see your child for the first time and you know that little life is depending on you, some how you fing the strength to go on. My ex-husband walked away when my daughter was 2 1/2 months old. I was 27 at the time. I thought there was no way I could ever raise this child on my own and give her everything that she needed. I am not going to tell you that it was easy. It was’nt. I had little help from my family and no help from his family. I struggled day to day just to give her what she needed. I ate a lot of bologna sandwiches and gave up a lot of things that I was used to like getting my hair fixed, going to movies, eating out, etc. I also thought that no one would want me because I have a child. When she was three years old I met the love of my life. He had two children of his own. He raised my daughter as his own. That was sixteen years ago. We are still together and recently welcomed our first granddaughter. The moral of the story is never give up. Just know that you are SOMEBODY and YOU matter. Don’t give up on that. I wish you well. I know this is a very difficult time in your life.
Happy Grandma

[size=3][size=4][color=#0000FF]Hey girlie! Well honestly i dont have a success story cuz i myself am going thru the same thing you are! I am 17 and 7 1/2 months prego. All i can tell u is hang in there! I know EXACTLY how you feel, honestly. I am still with the babys father, BUT our relationship is not too good.We fight a lot and he really makes me feel that he doesnt care. Every time i cry to him and tell him how i feel he yells and says why are you crying this time! I honestly dont feel loved by him! I had to quit cheerleading, something i was very good at, and that has really had a toll on my emotions. i miss it so much its not funny. I take it day by day,ya know? Sometimes i just feel like dieing too and just giving up! Then when i think about how i let my dad down, that really hurts me…A LOT! but you will make it, u and i both. Of course it will be much more difficult but your child will only give you motivation! I do cry a lot in the night to myself but then i come to think of who will be here in just 10 more weeks..MY Son! This is a quote that i just love"if God brought you to it, he’ll bring you through it." But trust me you are not the only one going thru the sadness and difficulty. But if u wanna talk or whatever, my e mail is vlo2007@yahoo.com. But yeah girl, you will get through all the rough times!
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Well done girls, these are awesome advice. I completly agree with all of you. I am a strong believer that nothing happens for no reason and that every bad experience eventually turns into something positive. It might take a while (months, years) but in the end, it’s always for the best. You may have a difficult beginning but hang in there and it will clear up. You may have to postpone some dreams but don’t let them go; there will be time later to take on things you have always wanted to do.Thinking of suicide is not a solution. It may feel like no one cares about you right now and that you would not be missed but you could not be anymore wrong. You are unique and there are people out there who love you unconditionally. These people will be there for you no matter what. You can and should rely on them. They may be parents, aunts, uncles, friends or even neighbors. Open your eyes and look around yourself. You are not alone.Life is a series of obstacles. Some of these obstacles may look like they are impossible to jump over. Remember: if you can’t jump over them, wait a little until you find enough strength to jump over. Never stay behind. Always go forward at your own pace. You can do it. You will come out of this a better and stronger person. Look at all these anwers your email has generated: we all have faith in you.

A friend of mine got pregnant at 18 and the father denied everything. She had the same fears you are having right now. She is now a proud mother of 4 children and the proud wife of a good husband who took her first daughter under his wing (they married when she was 25). She finished her school in time to become a nurse and is now working full time and enjoying a gratifying married life.

Feel free to email me anytime you wish, even if it is just to chat about nothing when you feel lonely. I have a lot of funny stories and pictures to share!
Big hugs.
Steph.

hey there,
I kind of stubbled onto this website, and i went over your letter. My situation is a little differant than yours but hopefully it will help you. I grew up in Salt Lake City, Utah and now My husband and I live in Price, Utah. and am 22 years old.
We have one son, and another baby on the way. Im not going to pretend that I know exactly what you are going through because I dont. But I feel that I can give you some uplifting advise. When I was pregnant the first time it was very unexpected and we werent in the best financial state. I was very scared that we werent going to be able to afford everything he would need. But on the other hand I was in love with this baby already. You have no idea how much you will love your baby the minute you see her. You feel things that you have never felt before. You arent living for just yourself now your baby needs you and you have to be there for your baby. My son is the most precious thing to me. When you have your baby I promise you will be so happy and no matter how upset your family is they will love your baby to. I hope this email helped a little, please write back.

I just want to let you know that you are going to make it through this. I am a mother of a 2 year old little girl at the age of 21, and I am honestly very happy. I won’t say that all of the times with your new baby are going to be sunshine and easy, but the moment that you hold your baby for the first time, you will see that everything is going to be o.k. and you will love your baby unimaginably. It is a shame that the father does not want to be in your child’s life, but just leave it at that. Don’t let him bring you down and stress you out, because with being pregnant, stress is the last thing you need. Don’t think that just because you have a child that no one is going to want you either. There is someone out there for everyone, you just have to wait for him. Just in the meantime, take care of you and your baby, and enjoy the life that you created, because I promise, there is nothing like it in the whole world. You will be o.k. just know that. I will pray for you.