"My life"

[color=#000080]Hello there everyone! I have posted many comments to many people’s questions, concerns, and what not.

Although I love answering questions, posting comments… I would like to know if anyone has gone through what I have… or bits of it.

I can’t write much, my daughter will probably want me in a minute or two. But here is some of it:

I got pregnant at 15. I had my daughter on her due date on 1/2/04. She was wonderful and I thought my life was too. My ex was with me the whole time. In October, a few months before I had my daughter there was a baby shower put on for what I thought was for me, and the baby- but turned out for my ex. My ex’s family put it on for "him"… but it was wonderful, I thought. I was 15. There were many gifts. His family was there, my mom, sister, and two sets of grandmothers were there. I didn’t invite anymore. All the gifts were put into my ex’s parent’s house after they were opened and put back into the bags/boxes. It was awful. That night I asked for my grandmothers, mom’s, and sisters gifts. I got those which were about 10 gifts. There was MANY other’s left there. However, after my daughter was born, my ex and I were still together. Infact, were supposed to get married, he purposed to me on Oct. 25th, 2003. It was great, but in March, after my daughter was born… I had to have my gall bladder removed, I found this out prior to this because I had gall bladder ruptions. It was awful, and had to go to the ER 3 times before having it removed. My 16th birthday was on March 11th- I had my gall bladder out on March 8th. March 12th, I was taken back to the ER because I felt like I was dying. My temp. went above 106.7, and many other things were happening. I had bile leakage, it was awful, I’ll never forget it or the pain. I had to make sure my daughter was safe, I didn’t trust his family- I didn’t trust him. But I still wanted to be with him, so he didn’t take my daughter "away from me". I had that awful feeling when we were still together. So, I asked the lady who wore pink this one particular day when I was in the ER almost dying. I asked her "Please watch my daughter… Please make sure she is safe, and with my family- for me." She obviously did, because she was NEVER alone with his crazy family. After I had to have another surgery due to my complications from my gall bladder, I had to stay in the hospital. After I was released a few days laster… On March 21st- was a day I’ll never forget. My ex and his family wanted my daughter and I to come there. So, I agreed- althought I just had to stop breastfeeding because my blood also got posioned and couldn’t no longer do so… so, I was really hurting with the side effects to that- and plus with the surgery alone. I agreed to go there for a few hours. Well, we went there, and all- but a few hours, I wanted to leave. His dad got mad. I wanted to leave, but they didn’t want me too. His family, him, but I wanted too. I tried to leave- I went to the door and told my ex that I’d walk home if needed. So, I went to the front door, and all his family followed me. They locked me in, and finally I got the chance to call my mom. She spoke with his father- she told him to let me go, to have my ex bring me and the baby or else she’ll have the police be invloved. I finally got to go home about 1/2 hour or so after that. I cried the rest of the night with my daughter. It was awful. I promised I’d never go there again, but from March 21st- August 4th, I didn’t and the promise I kept to myself was true. I never went there. I couldn’t. I didn’t trust them and I knew the truth now, and I had a good reason not too. Let me remind you when my daughter was born… My mom, my dad, his mom and dad, his sister and her boyfriend (now married) and my nana, grandma- were all there watching me give birth to my daughter… On August 4th, when I went to his house- being the bigger person, I wanted it to be only his mom and dad… and it was. All went ok. I demanded we be outside, and sure enough we did. The next day, I got an invitation in the mail, It was to go to my ex’s house with ALL his family there. I denied the offer, because I felt that I wasn’t ready- and I knew if my daughter was to leave w/o me then I’d probably never see her again w/o a fight- my ex’s mom, that is the reason! Has anyone experienced something like that? Or know someone? An ex’s mom being crazy like this? Wanting another person’s child? Well, when I told my ex that I denied the invitation, but it was nice of them to invite us. I told him no, and that we could do something as family that day. We never did anything, the 3 of us, as a family. (Never, and still to this day!) He denied. So, he told me on Sat. the 7th he was coming tomorrow whether I liked it or not and was taking my daughter. He might not bring her back. Sure enough he came, and wanted to take my daughter on the 8th, when the party was. I denied, and called the police. He was shocked! I stood up to him! He didn’t like that. He called his lawyer, he ALREADY had a LAWYER!!! I didn’t even know what that was. So, I began to freak. I had my daughter. The police came, and escorted him out. Thankfully. The ordered that I went to Family Court the next day and I did. And that is when I began the awful court proccess. My ex got visitation, and since then we’ve been fighting in court. He just recently took me back to court because 4 days a week and 1 over night wasn’t enough for him. Now he has her every other weekend, and the following Tuesday & Wed. over night… then all holidays, but I thought the 4 days a week was good. Now, his time is mainly cut in half. =/ My ex finally has started to be nice. I want to go get counseling but he denies it. He won’t go, and when I get it court ordered- it’s only 2 sessions, what a waste. This is part of my story.

Take Care,
Nicki

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Post edited by: acas, at: 2006/10/31 14:45