My baby has no dad

Just because your baby’s father didn’t take the responsibility of being a father doesn’t mean your baby’s life won’t be perfect. My daughters father told me “It’s not mine, I have a girlfriend now so stop trying to ruin my life.” when I told him I was pregnant… Now my daughter is 4 months old and NOW he wants to be there. Now he says he’s sorry and he was scared and he wants to be a family. I thought he would never turn around but he completely changed. I’m not saying every guy will be like that and life isn’t perfectin any way, but you can do your best to give our baby the best life you can… and you can do it.

I’m 19 & I have two beautiful kids. A little boy who’s two years old & a little girl who’s two months. My little guys’ daddy hasn’t ever had anything to do with him. He’s starting to ask where his daddy is & I keep telling him sometimes you have to wait a little longer then other kids to get a good daddy, but it’ll happen. My little girls’ daddy is still in the picture, but it’s hard. We have been fighting all the time & we don’t agree on things & he doesn’t see her very much. He says things will be okay eventually & we’ll get married. But I can’t wait forever, because eventually it’ll be hurting her to hear us argue & us not get along.

Sometimes guys can’t step up to the plate. It’s hard for some guys to grow up. My boyfriend & her daddy is 20 & he just doesn’t wanna grow up. He doesn’t want to realize that things aren’t going to be like they were before. Sometimes it’s hard, but sometimes the best thing you can do for your child is not push the father to be a daddy. It’s better to wait for someone who wants to be a daddy to be a daddy then for the father who doesn’t want to be a daddy to be a daddy. The best thing I did for my little boy was just leave it alone. I know he has a better life with just me then he would’ve with both of us.. You are more then capable of giving your little one the best life possible, your baby doesn’t need a daddy to make a perfect life. You can do it!

Well I’m glad I helped. Sometimes I am unsure weather I sound mean or not when really I’m not. I really do hope he turns around… but sometimes it’s best that the dads aren’t in the picture. My friend has a baby and that baby’s dad wasn’t there either (he actually had her jumoed when she told him she was pregnant) but she still loves him… and just like me NOW he wants to be there for her and the baby but he is in jail and was a drug dealer… and I personaly think that she shouldn’t do that to her baby (my dad was in jail and it completely ruined my life when my mom got back together with him) so i’m speaking from experience but that is her choice. Just remember to make that right choice for your baby. And I know sometimes it can be hard. If you want to talk I am here.

Give it time. If he doesn’t, then I promise you that he will pay for it for the rest of his life. Your daughter is never going to have a perfect life. We all have to face that our children are going to grow up and have some complications and imperfections, but hey- that’s just life. Just remember always to put your baby FIRST.

im in the same situation now, once i told the father i was pregnant he automatically denied being the father even though he knows its his. but i think once ur babys father starts to see how much ur child is growing, hes gonna see that he needs to step up, keep reminding him that hes the father and u just want him there for her and thats all u ask.

i hope things work out!