my babies daddy wants nothing to do with me

I am only 18, but I have an idea. Why don’t you just keep the baby, Even though he isn’t with you and doesn’t help you, why don’t you think of all the joy the child will bring to you. I would love, absolutely love, to have a child of my own, whether or not the father is there with me, if they can’t be, or they don’t want to at least I know that there is a child unborn within me who will always love me more than anyone else could have possibly ever loved me. Adoption, sure it works there are a lot of people out there who are unable to have children of their own, but imagine and think about it, you are blessed to be able to carry and give birth to your very own child.

If the father will have nothing to do with you or the baby he has no right to tell you to give the baby up, he may just not want to be liable for child support later. Have you told your family yet, are they supporting you? If you want to keep the child there are many places and assosciations that offer support. All I can say is follow your heart. You’ll be in my prayers

Hi i was 15 when i found out n my baby father sed he would b there 4 me n he was 4 2months n then he went in the army n came out after a fews weeks we got bk 2 gether for my son but it didn’t work he sed he had a new girlfriend n she told him its her or ur son he picked her n when i 1st found out he told me not 2 tell n e one n wait till my son was born n dump him but i told my head of yr n she told my mam i didn’t do wot he sed coz i was stronger then tht n i new i have family who would help me.

Keep ur head up high n dn’t do wot he says its up 2 u but my son is the best thin tht has happen 2 me. I have just found out tht my son’s father has a baby on the way again but he has left her. Us mothers/mothers 2 b need 2 show tht they can’t change r minds. Men or suld i say Boys shuld not have kids all they do is leave us holdin the baby n they get away but we can get on with life n c r kids grow up they can’t

Be strong n do wot u think is best

Jemma

It doesn’t matter what he says or does. This is your beautiful child that is growing inside you. Don’t EVER apologise for that! You are going to be a wonderful mom.
All you can do is thank him for giving you your child and move on with your and your babies lives. Your child will thank you for your bravery and courage to continue without a father when he/she grows up.
A lot of my friends don’t know their biological fathers and told me they were so glad their mothers had the courage to keep them and not abort.
Hold your head up high and enjoy the journey of motherhood!

I am a baby of adoption and the system is great. I was very young so it was very easy for me to get adopted. When a child is older it is harder for that child to be adopted cause most parents want a baby. If you have doubts about adoption don’t but it seems to me that you really love that child and that it would hurt you more thinking about the child when it is gone. But are you in a good situation to have the child? I am sorry about you situation but it will be just fine.

Listen i am only 17 and i have already had my baby he is 8months old. I know that u are alot older than me but my babies father has left me and our baby alone but i keep my head up and continue to go school and work. I know if i can do it u can too. So don’t get mad at him cuz he doesn’t deserve u ne way. And for his girlfirend just think of her as being really stupid cuz she really is more than u think. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP MAMA!

I was 21 when I gave birth to my daughter, she is now six. Same situation, her father and I had just broken up when I found out I was pregnant. 2 months later I had to go to him and let him know. Very embarrassing. I thought he would think I was lying to get him back. We tried to work things out for the sake of the baby, BIG mistake. We broke up when she was 2. I have learned alot since I was 21. Unfortunately boys will come and go. Life is this way whether its death, a new relationship, etc. When everything is all said and done it will always be you and your baby. Do not let him tell you what to do, because you are the one who will have to live with the decision. And please do not base your decisions on his actions. Raising a baby on your own is very hard, I am going to be honest. But you are capable. If you think in your heart that the baby will be better off with 2 loving parents and you cannot financially take care of your baby than it is up to you to decide, not him. GOD will not give you anything you cannot handle. One more thing, dont force him to be in your childs life. I have seen this done, and it seems to just confuse the child, and makes the child feel unwanted. Trust me, the last question you want to answer is: Why doesn’t daddy pick me up anymore? If he has any heart at all when he sees the baby grow up he will want to be a part of thier life, if not its probably best that he stays out. Anyhow, regardless of the situation he will have to pay child support. If you go through the District Attorneys office, its free, and you never even have to see him, they will deduct his paychecks and send you a check in the mail. Oh so lovely the way the US is strict with dead-beat dads!!!! And do not be hard on yourself or stubborn, you are sacrificaing your life to raise another, the LEAST he can do is help you out.

First off he’s a jerk and you’re better off without him. Pregnancy and fatherhood should make men grow up but it doesn’t always.
Second this is your child. It is your decision. Do not let him talk you into anything. Adoption is a great option but it’s not right for everyone. Are you at a point in your life where you can support but most of all love your child with everything that you have? Can you make this chlid the center of your universe?

I was 21 when i found out i was pregnant, too. I had only been dating my bf a few months when we found out and we were shocked! Luckily he stuck around and my daughter and i live with him now. Being a mother is so rewarding. If you are ready to be an amazing mother then do it. You don’t need to be perfect or even know everything about infants. Read the books and magazines and see if you can do this now. If not, then let your baby go to a mother who can.

i’m so sorry hun! Same thing happened to me and it is such a horrible feeling! The best thing you can do is just let him go….if he wants to be like that then he doesnt deserve you or your child. He’s probably terrified and is looking for an easy way out. DON’T give your baby up just to satisfy him. Even if you do, things will never be the same. I go to a support group and it is so helpful. It gives you some sort of strength and a feeling that you can and will get through this. I’ve got alot of women family members and friends behind me which helps alot. Hopefully you’ve got the same. I really hope everything works out for you and baby. This isnt the end of the world hunny, feels like it but its not. I shed a tear for you.

hey im sorry to hear about your babies father but let me tell you a little story it might make you look different on things maybe not but ill try! when i was 16 i got pregnant with my daughter who is now two years old my babies father went to jail for drugs! i was devestated. when he got out he wanted nothing to do with me or my daughter…. well he came around ( or so i thought) at 18 i got pregnant with my son ( same babies father) but i didnt know that he wasnt handleing my 13 mnonth old daughtr so wqell. well one night i was in the living room recovering from a bit of morning sickness and i heard my daugter scream bloody murder. i thought she was throwing a fit.( she was in the kitchen with her " father") he brought her in and STOOD her by the couch she was crying so hard i picked her up a realized she couldnt move her leg at all. i took her to the hospital and it turned out he had thrown her across the kitchen for being hungry and broke her leg she was only 3 months old. im not saying ONE BIT that your babies dad would do something like that! im just saying maybe your better off without him just you and your kid cause sometimes thats the best way to go. if they cant stay around when your pregnant then they deff. cant handle a baby!! hang in there! i no have a son and i will be gettng my daughter back from the state soon.
he only got 4 mons can you believe it?? keep me updated if your not too busy!!!!!
keep your head up things will get better,
rachel

I know where your coming from. I was 16 when I had my son. His father left shortly after he was born and has made it quite clear he wants nothing to do with us. I am not 24 and my son is 7. I know it seems hard and at first it will be, but think about how happy you will make your child just being there for them. I basically raised my son alone with a little help from family until 4 years ago when I met the love of my life. Together as now husband and wife we share the responsibility of raising him. Believe me it is a hard road but you will push through the hard times and things will be brighter in the near future. You have to remember to keep your head up and remember you CAN overcome any obstacles that stand in the way!

hey girl i’m so sry to hear about that i am 13 and pregnant but i have the blessing of my babies daddy support and him being w/ me but still remember even though your ex isn’t in love w/ you and changed his mind on every thing he said and has moved on w/ his life just remember that baby will always love you!!! it may be hard raising it yourself but you always have us to turn to and your friends should help but w/e you do plez do not get an abortion that just isn’t the way out and it could kill you in the future it has before just plez remember that baby loves you!! hope you make the right decision and good luck lots of love to you
~lauren :silly: