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New Mommy
my abortion is scheduled for next week. i am so scared, this is not what i want, but i no this is what is right for me and my family, i just wish there was an easy way around this. has anyone went through a 2nd trimester abortion??
breathless
Oh god please don’t go through with this! You said it is right for you AND your family?? How can it be right for your family when the baby (not fetus, baby) you are about to kill is your FAMILY! I am sorry, I was faced with the EXACT SAME SITUTATION. I am fifteen and I found out I was pregnant when I was five months and two days. I had a week to decide abortion. The abortion was a three day long process, the put a different sized tube thing into you (to maunally dialate you) each day (very painful) and on the third day they cut the baby out piece by piece. My mom said when she looked at the Ultra Sound ( I couldn’t look) the baby was sucking his thumb. That means he was feeling pleasure. If your child can feel pleasure he can also feel pain. Do not do this. I said no, I chose to keep him and now my son is four days late and I went and got a 3D ultrasound awhile ago and it was so unbelievable, it was the most beautiful thing I have ever seen. How come you think abortion is the only way? if you simply CANNOT take care of this baby and a life with you is not what you need than AT LEAST put him up for adoption. You’ve done the research on abortion now do the research on adoption, call an adoption agency and talk to them. Give your child a chance, it is too late now to turn back anyways, you baby feels. He feels. Pain and pleasure……..Please, please, please don’t do it! He is your family, he is your child!! Right now you have a little person inside you, not an unrecognizable shape, you have a baby with little fingers, legs, arms, a head, ears, nose…everything. This baby is alive and no longer looks like an alien but a baby. I am here to offer support to you if you need it, I am only fifteen and I am scared too, but I am doing what is right for my child, whether or not you choose to keep him life is the right choice, not death. If you were 2-5 weeks along I would still say not to abortion, I stil think it’s wrong but this is so much different, this is a child now, a living child. This is not the beginning of one, this is one. It’s too late for that, just because they do the procedure does not mean it is right or humane or not painful, it is painful for you AND the baby. Walk away from this, please. I know it’s hard, I know it’s scary I did the SAME thing as you. I was so afraid, I cried so much and sometimes it was just too much and I would scream "I DON’T WANT THIS BABY" I was so SO afraid but you know what? It’s all worth it. Please do the right thing. I am here for you every step of the way if you choose to keep him, I can help you through all the stuff you are feeling because I have been there…but it gets better. Believe me, it gets better. Please reply after you think about it, do some more research hun, please don’t do this…
Lots and lots of love,
Annahttp://lifedynamics.com/DeathCamps/Methods2.cfm
Check out this website as well, I looked it up for you. This is really what they are going to do if you don’t already know…
Ambular07
well i found out i was pregnant last week.. i’m about 6 weeks and i’m going in for my first ultrasound in 3 days. i am so scared. after i find out when and how far along i am i am going to be sceduled for an abortion. this is my first pregnancy. when my boifriend found out he left me and went back to his ex. it was then i realized he wasn’t ready to be a parent. in my heart i want to have this baby but i know i can’t do this on my own. so i can realate to how you feel about being afraid to get the abortion. i am still unsure if i am going to get it done i guess i will see after my ultrasound. and if m doctor believes me when i say it is what i want. i don’t want to get it done and the only doctor in town will not do it if she thinks i don’t want to do it. like i said i will know after my ultrasound! i am so nervous as to how i will feel
alexanders_mama
Honey, what are you doing?
How can this be right for you and your family? If they are pressuring you into abortion, it is wrong so wrong!
Oh just have a breath, and think about the consequences. Think about what it is you are actually goign to do.
In or out of the womb, babies are playful creatures. Yours may already have discovered his first toy — the umbilical cord — which he’ll enjoy pulling and grabbing. Sometimes he may even clutch it so tight that less oxygen gets through, but don’t worry — he doesn’t hold onto it long enough to harm himself. The circulatory system and urinary tract are in full working order, and he’s inhaling and exhaling amniotic fluid through his lungs. ‘ that was just a quick thing i found on a pregnancy site. Just google 2nd trimester+pregnancy and see what you get! Your baby is PLAYING with its umbilical cord. Ummm…how could you possibly kill it now?
Honey, please think about what you’re doing. If you ever need any help or support, I am here, you can write to me anytime, but please think about what you’re planning to do, planning to kill your own baby. Will you ever be able to sleep after it?
I know women who have had those abortions: and they are 50 now, and it’s finally hit them hard, and they can’t sleep at night, they feel so guilty, they go to church so often now because they can barely stand what they did, and one of them couldn’t have children after having one.
As for at 6 weeks, the baby’s heart is beating. It’s alive. Please think twice about this.
Most women who have an abortion regret it. Most women who carry on with their pregnancies never regret it. Think about that.KylieAUS
Hi, i read your post. I think you left a message on my profile in July saying that you had read elsewhere that i did not regret my abortion. I dont think i can say that is true anymore. I thought it was right for me, and my family like you think, but its not true. I was 14 scared and completely alone. I did not want a baby by those circumstances in which it was concieved. I have been through both abortion and pregnancy+ birth, and pregnancy+ birth is so much better. Its an experience you will never forget in a good way, unlike abortion. I was so distressed after the birth of my daughter that i even investigated adoption. After 2 months of counselling i decided that this was not for me but please remember it is an option. There is alot of support out in the community if you want to parent you child. If you give your baby up for adoption you can arrange it so you can recieve updates on how they are going, or even see them. You would know. If you had an abortion you would constantly think what if. I know i do. I aborted at two months and i wonder it constantly. That baby would have been six years old now. I will never know if it was a girl or a boy, what colour eyes it would have had, what colour hair it would have had. Please rethink this. If you do not want to, dont. I put this on your profile also.
Merla
Hey, i read your previous post, whats made you change your mind? 3 months ago you said you wanted the baby, you had been trying for it, and you hoped it would be healthy, and now your saying that you want an abortion. Just wondering whats changed in thoes months?
I know parents can put a lot of pressure on you to do something, but you said that you refused last time, do the same thing this time. Do the right thing for your child, afterall, your the one who created them, and are ment to protect them.
Goodluck.
ericklirios
Please don’t do this. Do it for your baby and do it for yourself. Yes, the pain of abortion may just fade but, honestly, that wouldn’t be necessary if you keep the baby. Please stand your ground and realize that it is not up to you to end the life of this child. You’re already so far into the pregnancy. That baby is already living inside you and is as much a human being as you are. If your family doesn’t realize this, please make them see it.
Do not turn your back on this blessing to you. It is your real chance to save yourself by having this baby. God would not have allowed you to get pregnant if He had no plan for you, for your baby, for your good future together.
Keep the baby. You will never regret it. If you go through with the abortion, you will regret it every day for the rest of your life.
Trust me, trust everyone here when they say that you can make it. Do not believe it when someone says an abortion is the best thing for you to do.
I thought once that an abortion would be the best thing for me and the woman who would become my wife. I was so wrong. It still hurts and it was twelve years ago.
Please check this out: http://www.realityworks.com/ArchivedNewsletters/octoberstar.html. The girl there, Nicole Kirby, is one of the girls on SUG. She is doing so well right now and is spreading the word about teenage pregnancy. She lived through it and she and her daughter walk the earth and bless it with every step.
Please, please, don’t go through with it. I will pray for you and your baby and your family.
Erick
washuchan
I cant tell you what to do, pick your poison. I can say this i was pressured so much by my family to get mine "taken care of" that i did. I cracked after almost 5 months in. I regret it to this day. And for what for my boyfriend to save his military career and my parents still think im a child. At least do adoption. You still have a week, i wanted it over after crying for hours while the boyfriend was asleep to realize i didnt want this to happen. It was too late. Adoption you can at least give it to someone who wants a kid and cant have one. Its your choice but i wouldnt do it over again, if i had a chance to prevent it i would have told my parents sooner and told the boyfriend to kiss my butt cause it was his also.
hey everyone. i had my ultrasound today. was hard but i know now i am not ready to be a mother. i am going in for my abortion next friday. i have been thinking about this for 3 weeks and no i was not pressured into anything this was my choice. so when i am ready i will eventually have a child this just is not the time
kez_mummy_2_skye
I just saw that site and what they do…Look at that picture nxt to the procedure… Thats what ur killing. I couldnt even read the rest of the procedure coz it makes me ill to think they can still do that.
Ambular07,
"This is not the time" isnt really a good excuse for murdering your own child… If you cant handle a baby, give them to one of the thousands of couples wanting a baby. Your boyfriend left because of it, but would you really want him back knowing he ran when you needed him most?
Seriously consider what your doing, this isnt just your life anymore, its your childs too, your own flesh and blood. You made that baby, you were mature enough to decide to have sex, means your mature enough to make the right thing. Abortion is murder, and that baby you are carrying, its not a bunch of cells, its a baby, a really baby, it can suck its thumb, and has all its organs. its a little boy or a little girl.
If you have this baby and put it up for adoption, yes it may hurt, but nothing compared to the knowledge that you murdered that perfect little baby.
Make the right choice for your child, dont just think about yourself. Abortion does nothing but hurt you, its not an easy fix, its a lifetime of regret.
Hi.
I’m still praying for you. My main issue here is you. Don’t do this to yourself. You will have to carry so much guilt and depression if you go through the abortion. There will come a time, if you push through with it, when you will keep asking yourself, "I wonder how my baby would be now?" or "How good it would have been if all my children were here with me" or "Maybe this child of mine would feel better if his/her brother/sister were here to take care of him/her."
Please. Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of fear.
Don’t be afraid of a baby.
Be afraid of what turning your back on that baby will do to you.
I will continue to pray for you and I encourage everyone here to do the same.
Erick
ericklirios is exactly right, dont be afraid of your baby.
One day you will look back on the abortion as the worst decision of your life, and will regret it with everything you have, and know what? It will be too late.
I know it can be scary, and you may not feel up to it, but give your child life, you owe them that much, what happends once they are born you can decide, perhaps give them to someone, or maybe raise them yourself, but killing them shouldnt ever be an option.
As many young mums here will tell you, its hard, but they wouldnt have it any other way.
loveU
I think if you do this you will regret it. You should give this child life at least, I mean after all you were TRYING to make this baby. I can’t imagine if I had aborted my daughter, she’s everything to me and if the people in my family hadn’t supported me then I would have said the hell with them because she is my family just like your baby is.
kyauch
I recently found out that my sister-in-law had an abortion in April. She’s been dating this one guy for about one year. I often ask myself, how could she do that?? Then I ask myself, how could a doctor let her do that?? Knowing that a heart is already beating within the first few days…
It really hit me hard knowing this. I will never look at her the same way ever again. Especially since my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for the past 4 months. It makes me think- Geeze-our little baby could have had a playmate… Not only that, but my mother-in-law is very angry at her. She has often told her daughter when she was growing up that she would help her out if she ever became pregnant. So comes the next question- why, when she was surrounded by such loving family did she still do it?? Her answer- the boyfriend. The boyfriend did not want the baby. It’s so difficult to grasp. In my mind- if he doesn’t love her enough to keep the baby that they made together, then why is she keeping him around?? The responsibility falls on two people. If you make a baby, be responsible for it, be an adult- even if you are only 15 or whatever. There is so much help out there these days for younger people who need it.
Now, she is being treated for depression. She has a cousin who is the same age as her, and it turns out that they both got pregnant the same month. Only difference is that the cousin decided to keep her baby because she didn’t believe in abortion. (Odd thing is is that the cousin was the irresponsible one…) So now the cousin is due in January, and my sister in law is realizing the impact of her decision already. Now she has to watch her cousins baby grow up knowing that it would be the same exact age as the baby she could have had.(So she will probably sit and watch this child grow wondering what could have been…) I cannot imagine spending the remainder of my life wondering what this child might look like, what they would have become. I have a hard time even speaking to her anymore- and would feel unsafe leaving my child with her as I’d be afraid of her depression causing jealousy (possibility of her mentally "losing it".)
Also, think about this. All of those people out there that try SO hard to get pregnant and they cannot. It must hurt these people so much to see someone who is able to get pregnant and then to see them end that life. Those people would love nothing more than to be able to create that life, and you would be destroying it. Think about how lucky you are that you can create that life, such a miracle. Think about where you would be at today had your parents decided to terminate your life…I recently found out that my sister-in-law had an abortion in April. She’s been dating this one guy for about one year. I often ask myself, how could she do that?? Then I ask myself, how could a doctor let her do that?? Knowing that a heart is already beating within the first few days…
It really hit me hard knowing this. I will never look at her the same way ever again. Especially since my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for the past 4 months. It makes me think- Geeze-our little baby could have had a playmate… Not only that, but my mother-in-law is very angry at her. She has often told her daughter when she was growing up that she would help her out if she ever became pregnant. So comes the next question- why, when she was surrounded by such loving family did she still do it?? Her answer- the boyfriend. The boyfriend did not want the baby. It’s so difficult to grasp. In my mind- if he doesn’t love her enough to keep the baby that they made together, then why is she keeping him around?? The responsibility falls on two people. If you make a baby, be responsible for it, be an adult- even if you are only 15 or whatever. There is so much help out there these days for younger people who need it.
Now, she is being treated for depression. She has a cousin who is the same age as her, and it turns out that they both got pregnant the same month. Only difference is that the cousin decided to keep her baby because she didn’t believe in abortion. (Odd thing is is that the cousin was the irresponsible one…) So now the cousin is due in January, and my sister in law is realizing the impact of her decision already. Now she has to watch her cousins baby grow up knowing that it would be the same exact age as the baby she could have had.(So she will probably sit and watch this child grow wondering what could have been…) I cannot imagine spending the remainder of my life wondering what this child might look like, what they would have become. I have a hard time even speaking to her anymore- and would feel unsafe leaving my child with her as I’d be afraid of her depression causing jealousy (possibility of her mentally "losing it".)
Also, think about this. All of those people out there that try SO hard to get pregnant and they cannot. It must hurt these people so much to see someone who is able to get pregnant and then to see them end that life. Those people would love nothing more than to be able to create that life, and you would be destroying it. Think about how lucky you are that you can create that life, such a miracle. Think about where you would be at today had your parents decided to terminate your life…
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