love,sex and god

I wish that I had waited until I was married for sex. Before I lost my virginity I always said I wanted to wait until marriage for sex. I had been dating a guy that I had been good friends with for a long time. We were both virgins at the time. In the heat of the moment we ended up having sex. From that point our relationship changed. The relationship seemed to be only about sex. We lost something special that we had had before. I had a pregnancy scare, but wasn’t pregnant. However when I thought I might be he said he didn’t know if he could be there for me and for the baby since he was still young. I knew that I’d made a big mistake and that I needed someone who could be there for me emotionally. I broke up with him. I felt really bad about myself for losing my virginity. I wasn’t supposed to be one of "those types of girls". I’d hear sermons about saving virginity until marriage and I’d feel so ashamed and depressed.

I’ve known other girls who felt that once they lost their virginity they were worthless and would have sex frequently because they’d already lost their virginity so the’d never be pure again. Don’t fall into this trap! I understand how it feels to think you are in love, to be curious about sex, to feel overwhelmed by passion and hormones. Its easy to give in – people make mistakes. Don’t let the past dictate your future or how you feel about yourself as a person. God’s forgiviness is infinite. Live your life one day at a time, make better decisions in the future.

As for yor boyfriend, it may be hard to stop sex once it has entered the relationship, but if you can both stop and focus on the emotional and spiritual aspects of your relationship your relationship will be stronger for it. However if he can’t respect your morals and your body then he doesn’t truly love you. I know that breaking up can be very hard, but if he keeps trying to pressure you into sex then you deserve better. Best wishes.

Kate