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amy.g.111
Hey, im Amy aged 17 from England.
I have just found out I am pregnant 5 days ago. Im only about five weeks. The day I told my boyfriend of two months, he finished me. I was so shocked it hardly even hit me till I got home. He told me he didnt want the baby and I should get rid of it for the sake of my future.
I am still unsure but after seeing some abortion pictures Im almost certain ill be keeping my baby no matter what. My ex Mark has not been intouch since the day I told him. My family luckily are shocked but will support me no matter what. Im currently looking into all my options before I tell people Im keeping my baby.
I go to sixthform and am studying for my a levels so tomorrow im going to try and arrange for them to be took after the baby is born. I feel strong in myself but scared for peoples reactions espically im friends who i love to pieces. The whole baby thing doesnt seem real I have to keep reminding myself its happening to me.
Right now Im so confused about how my life is going to turn out. Im going from a care free teenager heading to uni to a single mother at 18. I would love any comments or advice from people. Thanks x
wishfulthinker18
how soon did you start having symptoms and what were they. And how long after you missed period did you wait to take a test?
kafina18
hey well my story is something like yours, just i didnt tell my parents, they found out and well they have high expectations and i now joined a college, but i’m not sure if i’m pregnant but i took a test but it said negative. but after the doctor gave me a tablet to take because of my headaches and my sleepless nights, i’m not getting any of my symptoms but i just feel heavier, so i’m waiting to see if i miss or not. laterz
hey well my story is something like yours, just i didnt tell my parents, they found out and well they have high expectations and i now joined a college, but i’m not sure if i’m pregnant but i took a test but it said negative. but after the doctor gave me a tablet to take because of my headaches and my sleepless nights, i’m not getting any of my symptoms but i just feel heavier, so i’m waiting to see if i miss or not. laterz
littlemomma17
as long as you have support from your family that is all you need.. and you dont need a guy that is going to treat you and not be a man and admit what he did..you can do this. im seventeen to and im 6 1/2 months and i got through it with the support of my family. just believe in yourself and you can do this.
best wishes
breanna-p.s. i would love to keep talking so get back to me.
I only realise I had sypmtons now. I kept overheating in my bed. Back ache. Headaches and feeling dizzy. I did an early response pregnancy test because like most people I worry and it was playing on my mind. I did the test on my lunch hour because i honestly didnt think it should happen to be. An early respnse is good because you can take it 4 days before your period is due. It measures low amounts of the pregnancy hormone which others do not.
Im glad to here im not alone with my story. Sounds like you should do another test to make sure. Its harder when your parents wanted you to do so well in life and then you have to tell them maybe its not the right path at this point in your life.
littlemomma17 wrote:
as long as you have support from your family that is all you need.. and you dont need a guy that is going to treat you and not be a man and admit what he did..you can do this. im seventeen to and im 6 1/2 months and i got through it with the support of my family. just believe in yourself and you can do this.
best wishes
breanna-p.s. i would love to keep talking so get back to me.
Thank you for your positive response thats what I need right now. People telling me I can do this. I’ll be more than happy to talk to you. Im feeling quite alone right now.
KylieAUS
hey…if you want to keep your baby do. I have experienced both abortion and pregnancy + birth. I would not trade the experience of being pregnant for anything. I broke up with my baby’s father when i was pregnant and even though it was a very emotional time for me i got there. My daughter is now 4 1/2 months old and i just learnt i have another on the way. We are probably due very close to each other!
kez_mummy_2_skye
dnt let other ppl tell you that you cant do this etc etc. When i had my kids most of my friends dumped me and only see them once every so often but at least i know sort of where i stood and if they are ur REAL friends they will stick by you no matter what. I’m glad you didnt let ur boyfriend take control and do what he said.
KylieAUS wrote:
hey…if you want to keep your baby do. I have experienced both abortion and pregnancy + birth. I would not trade the experience of being pregnant for anything. I broke up with my baby’s father when i was pregnant and even though it was a very emotional time for me i got there. My daughter is now 4 1/2 months old and i just learnt i have another on the way. We are probably due very close to each other!
I know its the right thing. My parents are finding it hard to come to terms with my finale choice. Im not bothered about anyone else right now. Im doing whats best for me and my child. If people are going to be negative maybe I dont want these people in my life anymore.
kez_mummy_2_skye wrote:
dnt let other ppl tell you that you cant do this etc etc. When i had my kids most of my friends dumped me and only see them once every so often but at least i know sort of where i stood and if they are ur REAL friends they will stick by you no matter what. I’m glad you didnt let ur boyfriend take control and do what he said.
People keep asking me why am I keeping it and recking my life when it was looking so promising. Truth is I dont really have a real answer I just know its the right choice. I agree about the friends thing.
breathless
It’s so very true, when you choose to have a baby your life will NEVER be the same again, I am fifteen and my baby is due tomorrow, I had the choice of abortion (I found out at five months) and I said no, I’ve seen the ultrasounds, I’ve seen him kick and I couldn’t imagine having ended his life. You know, you don’t have to become the single mother that you are so dreading, there is adoption that you can do, it would be so very hard to give up your child but always keep in mind that you are giving him life and not giving up on him. Maybe you are not ready for a child and you need to finish your education and wait till you are stabilized enough to provide for him but don’t choose abortion just because it seems like the easy way out or that you are pressured into it, just ask any of the girls on here that have gone through with it and they will tell you how much they regret it each and everyday. Adoption is always as much as an option as keeping him, remember that. You can even try and keep him for awhile and if it doesn’t work out you can put him up for adoption..Don’t kill an innocent child though just because you’re pressured into it or because you’re scared, you need to be brave for your self dignity and your unborn child. Good luck and I wish you the very best!!
breathless wrote:
It’s so very true, when you choose to have a baby your life will NEVER be the same again, I am fifteen and my baby is due tomorrow, I had the choice of abortion (I found out at five months) and I said no, I’ve seen the ultrasounds, I’ve seen him kick and I couldn’t imagine having ended his life. You know, you don’t have to become the single mother that you are so dreading, there is adoption that you can do, it would be so very hard to give up your child but always keep in mind that you are giving him life and not giving up on him. Maybe you are not ready for a child and you need to finish your education and wait till you are stabilized enough to provide for him but don’t choose abortion just because it seems like the easy way out or that you are pressured into it, just ask any of the girls on here that have gone through with it and they will tell you how much they regret it each and everyday. Adoption is always as much as an option as keeping him, remember that. You can even try and keep him for awhile and if it doesn’t work out you can put him up for adoption..Don’t kill an innocent child though just because you’re pressured into it or because you’re scared, you need to be brave for your self dignity and your unborn child. Good luck and I wish you the very best!!
Thanks for the that. Good luck with the birth of your baby. I am keeping my baby its finale. Im happy but of course scared at what my life is going to be like. I have no idea. So im taking each day at a time and trying to prepare myself this baby. xx
mommy6
well i think as long as you a have your family to back you up thats one thing in the right direction. i hope you decide to give your child life n good luck.
Amber18
Im in the same boat as you, my boyfriend left me when i was pregnant and i havent heard from him once and my baby is now 4 months old! Atm my baby is foster care because i wanted her adopted i went and saw her yesterday and i cant let her go. Yeah im scared about being a single mum and carrying on with college and working its gonna be hard but like my mum says there only babies for a short time and when she’s older i will still only be young and will still be able to do the things i wanna and so will you even if you have the baby!
Emzi_07
Hey,
Im emma and im 16 and from eng,
i only found out a few days ago that im pregnent,
i was so shocked and still am and also scared.
the father of the baby doesnt want it and i havent heard from him since i told him,i feel so alone.
if anyone wants to chat,id appreciate it thanks
xxxxxGlad what you chose! If you feel its right then it is right for YOU! I bet that when you have this little baby everyone that had the craps about the pregnancy wont leave you alone and ur parents will love their grandchild to bits.
Its true that ur life will never be the same BUT most ppl tell you that it will be for the worse which isnt the case most of the time, a baby brings joy to ur life and matures you, makes you realise what life is all about and in the end you can help others with ur story.
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