I JUST DONT KNOW HOW TO GET THROUGH ALL THIS

I’m 27 now with three boys and sometimes I still feel the VERY same way…hang in there, it’s worth it. If you think you’re an "18 year old screwup" imagine what I thought of myself. I was pregnant and alone at 15 had my son and never looked back or regretted it. I had my second son at 19 and my third at 25. It is hard but not impossible…if I can do it anyone can. You have to make your goals and do what you can to reach them. I have been married for nine years (not to my first sons bio. father), am not on welfare, own my own home, have two decent vehicles, both my husband (he is 25) and I have decent steady jobs and we have gotten this far by HANGING IN THERE. Our lives revolve around our boys (school, baseball, football, and everything else) but when you have children…that’s the way it’s got to be anyway (my opinion). There are going to be many "bumps" in your road but that doesn’t mean that the road ends…remember that. Also remember that what you feel is very normal…we are only human…I think about running away sometimes too only to realize once I’m gone what would I do without my kiddos??? I’d only be thinking of them the whole time! 🙂

Robin, You know what you are not the only one out there that feels like running away and taking off. Trust me sweety every single mother, or mother goes threw it. I am 24 years old and I have a 2 year old daughter, and I am 4.5 months pg with another baby. Let me add from 2 different fathers. There are days that I remember putting my baby girl to bed and sitting there crying because I was doing this all on my own and she took up every ounce of time and energy. I couldn’t even have a shower till like 10:00 pm and half the time I was to tired to do it then. But then there are days that you look at your baby smilling at you putting their arms in the air wanting to be held that you melt and wonder what you were before you had them. It is so hard and the only person that can understand is another mother, and it is so true that it does suck a lot of the time. But in the end when you are putting them to bed and you see them snuggling into their warm blanket, it takes all the strength you have no to cry from watching this beautiful child that you love so much, and who also drives you crazy on a daily basis fall asleep.

You will get through this just like we all will get through it, it just takes time and paitence. Have a night out with some friends or family, and have sometime to yourself I know it is easier said then done but you have to have the time to yourself every now and then so you do not have a breakdown. I did and let me tell you it was’t pretty. for six months after my daughter was born I never went or did anything with out her. When my mother came for a visit, for a week I stayed in bed for 4 days crying, because I was so tired and worn out. You just have to ask for help it doesn’t make you a bad mother nor a bad person to say I need sometime to myself. You will be no good to your baby if you get too wron out that you can’t take care of him. Just take care and know that it does get easier. If you want to email me you can.

i know exactly where you are coming from i am 21 years old and 5 months pregnant and it has not been easy. there have been many days and nights that i just break down and cry, because out of all the times i’ve needed someone(especially the baby’s father) it seems like everyone has turned their back on me including him. most people ae lucky to have a mother to comfort them, but my mother died when i was 6. Anyways, i had to find strength within myself to go on and know that this baby gives me even the more reason. i know what i want for her and it is up to me to get it. SO go to school and make a life for you and your child because you are the only one that can do it. don’t let people get you down, don’t even sit there and feel sory for yourself. your baby is a gift and is not a hinder to your life more like a pusher. Although for a minute my whole life turned upside down and i felt like i couldn’t go on but i was soon to realize what was really important. what’s done is done now we have to prepare. don’t get me wrog i still have my downs days and i feel like i’m making a mistake by keeping this baby but i soon realize that this is going to change my life for te best. it will be hard but i’m ready. REMEMBER: What don’t kill us only makes us stronger. and one day you’ll be telling someone your story and how it is important not to give up because you will have by then accomplished so much. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!!!

Thank you all so much for everything you said. It was hard not to cry when I was reading it all. Your comments made me feel better. I know I can do this, its just really hard. It is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I think what gets to me the most is when I go to a store and buy formula or diapers and people look at me like im crazy. And once an old lady saw me with my baby in a store and I heard her say to her friend "what is SHE doing with a baby. How could she take it out in this weather!?" Well, sorry lady, I dont have a man to help me out. Thats hard stuff. But, reading all your responses helps me remember that im not alone- that there are other girls doing just what im doing, going through what im going through, and making it. It helps me have the strength to go on. Thanks so much. You guys are awesome people.