I just dont know:/

I agree with qeenB. Your feelings are more than normal. I’ve wanted a baby more than anything for as long as I could remember.

Try babysitting, daycares or even going to the play ground and playing with other kids. Who knows, maybe it’ll help assuage that overwhelming urge to be a mommy.

Hiyah
I think You Should Wait Till Your A Bit Older And You have Settled Down Got Ur Own Place And mOney I got pregnant y accident But I decided To keep My Bby I am 17 and tell U She Int He re Yet and it Int Easi Think How Much More You Will Have To Offer Ur Baby If U Wait Till U have More Money and R a bit Older Many Girls Want Bbys Wen Thy R so Young But My Advice Is wait go Out With ur Friends Spend Tymhaving Fun With Ur Bf And When Ur older U can Have A Baby I dnt Regret Gettig pregnant But Du think I shud Ov Bin older As It would B easier As I would Have Done Evrything I wanted To with My Life Hop Tjis Helps GudLuck With Watevah U Choose xxxx

Hey honey,

I know what your feeling, I want a baby too, granted there is a fair difference in our age, thats besides the point. Wanting to have a child is normal, its a maternial feeling that a lot of women get, some get it when they are in there late 30’s, whilst others get it as soon as they hit puberty.

Im not here to tell you what you should and shouldnt do, however, consider the two senarios.

If you have a baby now, then you have to be pregnant for 9 months first, right? It makes you REALLY tired!, not to mention possible morning sickness, this can make even going to school whilst pregnant seem like a huge amount of effort. When your at school, you will have to deal with everyone too, lots of people can lose friends (the really good friends stick around, but quite a few dont), and people like to talk. Whilst this is something that you can deal with, and they should really mind there own buisness, it dosnt always happen. Do you want to deal with this by choice?
You will chose a time to take off school, once you far enough along, then have your bub, and when they are only 6 weeks old, you have to leave them every day for 8 hours (you could get home schooled, but then there loneliness issues, and whether your parents/education system would allow it). Could you leave your new born baby with someone else all day every day? Yes you could, but I wouldnt "want" to. Your alos reliant on your own parents to care/pay for your baby. You cant work, go to school, and raise your child (well you can, but you would be superwoman) are you ok with chosing to force your parents to support your child that you chose to have? When you get home tired from school you have your darling little one back, whos cranky, and hungry. So there goes your evening and your sleep. Then at 7am the next morning, its off to school again. Whilst all this is doable, and there are some amazing young women on here who do it everyday, and make fantastic mothers, would you want to make life harder for yourself?

Senario two: Your 18 years old (yes, still a young mum), you have just finished highschool and moved out of home. Your boyfriend and you are talking about having a baby, and getting married sometime soon. So you both decide to take a couple of years off and start your family young, then go to college when your children start school. You get pregnant, your both so happy (your parents and familys will still have there own oppinions) your going to have the baby you have wanted for so long. So you keep working up until you take your leave so you have lots of money saved up. The girls at work talk a bit, but they are more interested in rubbing your belly and going mooshy over the baby clothes you have brought. You decorate the babys room the way you want. When they finally arrive, everyone is so happy, they are of course your darling baby. You have no pressure about when you want to go to college or start working again. If you want to spend 3 years at home with them you can, and if you want to get straight back into your degree you can to. Its still hard, but your supporting yourself, and you and your boyfriend are raising this child in a loving home that you have created together.

Think about it, its 5 years to wait, but is it worth the wait?

I agree with Devyn, there is so much more to having a baby (which turns into a child, teenager adult) then the physical needs like diaper changes and feedings…I could not imagine going through what Devyn did at my age and I am 26 with a great deal of life under my belt…13 years old is a hard age to have to face such real life issues about another human life that is your 100% responsibility…in the event of a young girl accidentally falling pregnant I think she needs to do her best to either raise the baby or choose a wonderful adoptive family, abortion should never be the option but to purposefully try for a baby when you are not physically and emotionally able to provide is really a selfish thing to do, if your child were to fall ill could you drive to the hospital yourself? Nope you would have to ask for help, take a bus or have cab fare…you still have like 5 years of school left right?? Could you imagine trying to balance your child’s kindergarten class schedule during your senior year, his/her school carnival would happen to fall on prom night, parent teacher conferences for your child could end up being during finals week I mean there are so many things you need to consider, not just briefly think about and say "well my parents would" or "I could get a sitter" or "my kids will never remember that I missed their school play for prom night" A baby doesn’t stay a baby forever, this child you so desperately want will turn into a child, teenager and then adult, there are feelings and emotions and questions and crisis that come up in our lives, can you handle being the one to fix all of that at 13…I have a hard time now at 26 and I am not in school, I am a stay home mom and I am married, no one is ever truly ready for kids but if you want a successful family one day then you should wait longer and prepare yourself further, like I said no one is ever truly ready but you can be much more prepared…enjoy being a teen for now, baby sit, help other teen moms, get a pet or a plant to take care of but spare yourself some complications and spare your future family some turmoil and please just wait…Meg