Hi there, I can only say " Been the done that>" My ex husband seemed like a dem come true, I was in college, about to transfer, h was 3 years older , military! I had my son no thanks to him. It ended up being a disatster. It stareted s emotional abuse but quickly led to beatings once I moved to a different state. I was married to him for 10 years, he beat me countless times my son witnessed more than he should have, I finally divorced him almost 2 years ago and I am the happiest I have been in years. I did it on my own having left him sevearal tines ect. You can do it on your own, they will only drag you down and I too told myself a child need 2 parents when in reality a child only needs a loving parnt nothing good goo can come from an abusive relationship and if he is serious he will go to counseling, luck yo you.