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      I gave birth to my son on August 31, 2008 and signed the papers for adoption on Sept.2, 2008. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I have been trying to move on but I haven’t been able to. I have looked for support groups in my area but there are none. I know this pain will be with me forever…. what I do not know is how to live with it. Does anyone have any advice?


        Are you able to see your baby at all? Perhaps being able to visit him once a month would help you.
        Adoption is so hard, but at least you know that you gave your baby life!

        I know that this might sound cliche or whatever, but Jesus is the only One who can help you move one while still loving your baby like you should.
        I really hope that everything works out for you!


          You dear, sweet girl. I know exactly what you are going thru and my heart is just aching for you. You see, 17 years ago I made the same decision you did, which was to place my daughter for adoption when she was born. You are grieving for your child right now. That is perfectly normal. Grief is something that we can’t get around, we just have to go thru it one day at a time. Take comfort in knowing that you did what was best for your child, which is what God made us mothers to do. You can be proud of the fact that you gave your child life, something we all deserve. Support groups are great, and if you ever find one then, by all means, take advantage of it. Have you checked with your local crisis pregnancy center? Also, take comfort in the Lord. He loves you and He wants to bring you thru this painful time in your life, if only you will allow Him to. It is very important that you to talk about your feelings with someone you are close to….a parent, counselor, pastor, etc…. Please believe me, it will get better. I can tell you from experience, the pain will lessen with time. Here I am, 17 years later, and I can honestly tell you that when I think of my daughter I feel only happiness and contentment with my decision to place her with a good family. You will get there too one day. I will be praying for you.

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