Fatherless babies

Both of my children are fatherless babies…but….the do have a daddy…I got married in November and now my kids have the daddy they have longed for….it was not an easy road to be a single mom for 4 1/2 years and to know that my kids had two different dads and that neither one of them was man enough to step up and support their kids….I had fears at times that I wasnt enough for my kids and that I would end up exposing them to a dangerous person…but I also didnt date guys….I remained abstinent for 3 1/2 years untill my wedding night in November of 06….I spent time loving on my kids and I put a relationship far out of my mind until I met my husband….I met him at church and I watched how he interacted with my kids (as like they were his own) he had everyones respect and he was very well loved by everyone I knew….He respected me at all times and he even stepped in and helped me out financially when I needed diapers and stuff…we didnt even kiss untill we had been together for 8 months and we had sex for the first time on our wedding night…..forget about guys for now….it is better for your son to not have a father right now then it is for you to bring the wrong guy into his life….My encouragement to you would be to get plugged into a Non-denominational church where they teach right out of the bible….get him involved in a sunday school class and your self into teachings and bible studies…your chances of finding a good wholesome man (and daddy for your son) are very high at church….not everyone at church is a good person and not everyone in church is safe….remember satan could not defeat the church so he joined it…Seek first the kingdom of God and His righeousness and all other things shall be added…..that is the verse that gave me perserverance when it came to wanting a husband and a father for my kids….and you know what???when I quit seeking a man in my life and I started developing my relationship with my Savior and spending time just being a mommy that is when it happened…Pray over your son and ask God to protect him from harm….Perfect love casts out all fear…God loves us perfectly..unconditionally..and eternally…when you are afraid pray and commit yourself and your son to the Lord….your son will thank you when he is older for bringing him to the Lord..He is our Heavenly Father and when He feels it is the right time He will bring your son a father here on earth….I hope this helps..it sure did for me…..Meg

when u say ur scared a guy youre with might molest or hurt him are you talking about a current partner or a partner u may have in the future? if you are talking about your current partner then why do you think that? if you have reason to think that he could be molesting your son then you need to get out of there now! if youre just talking about future partners then try not to worry im sure your motherly instinct will tell you when things arent right with your child. and in general just be there for your child, as long as he feels loved and supported by you im sure he will be fine. have you got a brother or someone you trust who could play the "older male role model in his life". This doesnt have to be the biological father, just an older male who your son can turn to when he needs to (and of course someone you both trust).