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      Everyone tells me to forgive myself, but honestly how am i meant to do that?
      No matter how you look at it or if you can forgive yourself or not, i killed my baby. and it was me. my decision MY choice. No one elses, and it hurts it hurts a hell of a lot.


        I know it seems like a far away place… but you can forgive yourself. Let God heal you. I’ll pray for you. <3


          Ok, here is the truth. You did kill your baby. And you cannot forgive yourself for that. The ONLY way you will ever be free from that is if you accept Jesus’s forgiveness, because He is only one that can truly set you free from your guilt and hurt.


            Forgiving takes time what you need to do is except that this has been done. I know it seems like forever now but the pain will decrease as time goes on. I know first hand because 8 years ago I was in your shoes and I thought I would never accept or forgive myself. To be honest even today I don’t know that I would say I have forgiven myself but accepted that I made that choice. My parents did influence my decision but in the end it was my call. As time goes on your life will take it’s paths and it will be hard to think what your life would be like if you had the baby. For example I had my abortion 8 years ago and two years after the abortion I got pregnant again, so now I have an almost 6 year old. She is my life and if I had that first baby I would not have my daughter. So although this is a really hard time for you it will mold you into the person you will ultimately become. I wish you the best of luck in accepting and I am here anytime to talk. Jessica


              I know exactly how you feel I had my abortion a little over a month ago.My boyfriend tells me to forgive myself and that it wasnt my fault because I caved under pressure and pretty much let everyone else decide for me. I regret it so much and not a day goes by that I don’t I say the same things it was my choice I made the choice to give up my baby and to end its life and it hurts me so bad and its the worst feeling in the world. I may not be able to give myself a break from rubbing it in but I hope you do its hard for me to let go of what i’ve done but the abortion is enough punishment as it is trust me making yourself feel worse won’t help you get over it and even though im to scared to talk to someone about it I sure hope you do I don’t want you to feel like I do and I don’t want you to take it out on yourself like me. Hope you feel better soon and i wish you the best of luck.


                Don’t give up, it will take time. You must be patient.

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