Clueless on what to do

Hello,
You seem to have been putting a lot of thought into taking responsibility for your baby, as a result of having sex. That’s being mature and accountable for your choices and you should be proud that you’ve gotten that far in your thinking. Whether you decide to keep your baby and work through your life with him/her by your side, or find a loving home for your baby, the choice will have to be your own. I have a brother and sister who cannot have children of their own and are working on their second adoption….waiting. The first little one to come into their life is from a young teen who felt she couldn’t provide for her, but also had some selfish desires of her own to go back to her own ways of life after the adoption. It can be very rewarding for a lot of different reasons. The adoptive parents love and desire for a child is fullfilled, and my brother and sister-n-law have left the adoption open so the young girl can be a part of her life still. Most importantly….she was aloud to LIVE!! The young girl had enough maturity and supportive guidance to lead her in that direction to give her baby to another couple. Now she’s my neice!!

If you, however, decide to keep your baby the baby will benefit in that also. You should read some other stories in the forum highlights. (just look above in the top tool bar of the site, under community) There are many stories like yours from other young girls facing graduating in a few years and have plans to go off to college. Some have made the choice to carry the baby and finish school…nothing about carrying the baby will prevent you from finishing high school. (you may just miss a day here or there). Friends also have a way of helping out with school work etc….

I was a new graduate and wanted to go off to be a flight nurse for the military….then my best friend came into my life and swept me off my feet. College would’ve been a major part of that life as well, but God had another plan for me. I had enough brains to get scholarship money to go to Arizona State along with being offered a sports scholarship for track…….well my life needless to say didn’t turn out like I PLANNED, and I certainly didn’t get the CHANCE to be a nurse or a famous athlete, but I have something more valuable than all the fame, titles or credentials in the world. Children!!! Quite a few mind you, and I never regret my choice to accept God calling me to motherhood.

I did go to school eventually though while my oldest was a baby, I’d take night classes and my best friend would babysit or if Dad wasn’t traveling he would be with her. I made it through 2 1/2 yrs of classes before we decided to have another baby, and I figured out by then, I was happier just being with my babies and teaching them all I knew. The rewards of motherhood are endless and will give you more tender, intimate and loving memories of your life with them that it would overflow all the bedtime story books ever written.

Be patient in making your decision, and never mind that your ex is not along side supporting you. God has a way of touching many hearts whether they want it or not. I just would wish that you turn to prayer and quiet contemplation before chosing the life for your child.

Many prayers for God’s will to be done.
myangelsinheaven

Don’t make your decision to give your baby up for adoption based on the fact that your ex may or may not support you or want a part in this. Time and reflection has a way of bringing people together in peace and acceptance, when earlier, in the heat of the situation hearts were closed off to understanding and love. Don’t try and figure out all the ins and outs of this all at once. It’s impossible to anticipate what will happen with this, or with that…..or concerning him, or anyone elses reactions. You will drive yourself crazy. Listen to what your heart is trying to tell you about the baby that is growing right now inside your body, and let the Holy Spirit guide your decision about the future for YOU and YOUR BABY!!

I know….I hear it in your words. I don’t have to hear your voice to feel your sadness. If you could pray for acceptance with regards to Jason and his decision, that whatever God wills to happen, you will accept it. Then, you may find that you can focus on just you and nourishing your body, getting to the doctor for care, taking your vitamins, and getting fresh air. While your baby is growing inside of you, hearing your voice, resting and being nourished inside your warm body, the bond between you and her, (I’m pickin favorites) will begin to strengthen and you will radiate that love to the world. It will be so obvious that God is working in your life and that alone may speak volumns to Jason. Be patient…..and let God work his miracle in your life now that you’ve said “Yes” to giving life to HIS child.

I will pray for you,
myangelsinheaven

Hey,im Kanye & im 19.I was in your situation 4yrs ago.Me & baby dadddy dated from primary school until high school,i got pregnant.And then things changed!!He left me & i never thought i’d be able to cope on my own,but i did.That’s the thing with us women-we are sooo strong!I understand why you want your baby to have his/her daddy around,but this is the time for you to be selfish.Concentrate on yourself & your baby,if he eventually comes around great,but if he doesn’t its not the end only the beginning. Stay blessed,grace-peace-love Kanye 🙂

You’re baby will not look at you and resent his dad not coming around. Your baby will love you with the utmost admiration and respect for not aborting his life. I met a priest once…who told me that for whatever reason, his mother almost aborted him. Isn’t it a wonderful gift to the world that she didn’t, because now he is in our world counseling young people against abortion and discussing with them all the evil that causes one to believe that abortion is ok. You can also help to change the world’s view….your friends’ view of you being selfish for keeping this baby and that you should abort it’s beautiful soul. THAT SEEMS UNSELFISH TO THEM???

KILLING IS NOT AN UNSELFISH ACT!! IT IS THE MOST EXTREME ACT OF SELFISHNESS. (I’m not shouting, just exaggerating my level of tone:angry: )

I know how I felt when my mother abandoned me and my three syblings and our father one day while he was at work. I lived without my mother for a huge portion of my life because of her selfishness to want something better, something less stressful, something more exciting….someone that promised her a better life of happiness. I lost my baby brother that same year to a house fire. He was only 3 mo. old and my father went into the house to save him after getting us all out. My father suffered 3rd degree burns on his face, arms and shoulders trying to show UNSELFISH love. My mother never showed up for the funeral because she was out there being selfish trying to find true love. She never found it…..and I never knew my mother. I lived with a lot of difficulty while just a baby, (2yrs until my teens) until my father remarried. But I never, ever looked at my father, who was heartbroken and alone and felt I had a crap life. I was in awe at his love and determination to give me everything he could along with my older syblings.

I am now a mother of a beautifully large family, that the restaurants cringe at when they see us walk in. I am the mother to my children that I never had while growing up. I never hated my life or felt sadness because of the one parent I had…..I loved him tremendously because he gave us extra love. Now, I look at my babies and think of her, but in sadness for her. I forgive my mother for not giving me her life….she missed out!! Motherhood is Awesome!