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      Hi, Here is my story.. Well I am 20 and currently in 3rd year of University doing Primary Teaching, my boyfriend who I have known for years but only been in a relationship with for a few months is also in his 3rd year of University. My boyfriend and I both moved away from a small Island to go to University on the mainland and both of us share a flat with our friends from home who also go to Uni.

      Basically like quite alot of students I enjoy nights out, love the freedom of moving away from home and enjoy my course however 2 weeks ago I went to get the implant in my arm (as I didn’t like the pill) and I found out I was pregnant. Initally I was gobsmacked and could not believe it, I booked an appointment for an abortion straight away without thinking twice about it. When I told my boyfriend he was in total shock and didn’t really say much apart from he would be there to support me no matter what.

      After i got over the shock of what the nurse had said i realised that i really should think more about it and not rush into anything but then 2days later i found out my Grandad died and i had to go home to his funeral. I told my mum and my gran who were both so supportive and said they would stick by me no matter what which was so nice to hear.

      I went back to the mainland after the funeral and had went for the first appointment of the abortion with my boyfriend, this was bascially a scan. I looked at the screen and i felt really strange, it didnt feel real to me. I began thinking is this really happening to me!? Why!? I felt angry, upset and so confused.

      My abortion was booked this week and after my mum gave me and my boyfriend a good talking to and told us she would be there we cancelled it to think about it more but we are both still so confused. I worry about money, don’t know what to do about university, how will i cope with a baby, if me and him will last and various other things. Part of me would love to have a baby but i feel it is just not the right time and other times i get so upset, i just wish i could make a decision. I don’t want to move back home and leave my life as know it all behind, i’ll miss my freedom and the way i am now. However i don’t know if i will be able to go through with an abortion. I do feel like i have a connection with the baby and i know i will love it no matter what and that we can get by but another part of me is terrified that this is all too much too soon. I still want to do so much with my life…

      I just need some advise and support because although my boyfriend is great i hide alot of my feelings as i am very private person. Please help.


        …hi dear,,i hope this one is not too pray and you should know that abortion is not is a sin.
        you think about it..a million times.


          Maybe you do not want to hear about my opinion but just hear me out ok? Go check out how do they perform abortions. If you are not ready for the baby why not find a nice family. Yes your body is your choice and do whatever you want with it but the body you will be tearing up and destroying is not “yours” its the baby’s. Face what you did. You put your self in a situation that you have gotten preg and now why not face the consequences or at least give the baby a voice. I sure know I would not want to be torn apart by my own mother.


            You sound like where I was about 3 years ago. I was a student at a Christian college, just broke up with my boyfriend, and then found out I was pregnant. I was judged by everyone at the college and felt no choice but to drop out. So I did. I gave birth to my son and stayed home with him for 2 years. But as far as dropping out of school, I can honestly say, that is my biggest regret. Now, 3 years later I am going back to school at a community college, but feels as though I am starting all over. I am taking online and night classes so I can be with him during the day. That boyfriend I broke up with is now my husband. Life is going great but if I would have stayed in, I would be graduated and have a career by now.

            When you say “there is so much more you want to do with your life” that is totally me! And that is why I wont be having any more kids any time soon! I have so much more I want to do too!

            You are 3 years in…you are almost done! Don’t let this baby stop you from finishing! Your child will be so proud of you one day. Let this baby be your inspiration!

            hang in there! You can do it! I will be thinking about you. Merry Christmas friend


              If you have an abortion you will have to suffer from it the rest of your life. No kind hearted woman can live with killing her baby and be okay with it. I sure hope you make the right choice.

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