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OneLove97
Hello, I am 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant and I decided that I want an abortion. I’ve thought a lot about the choice to have one and I’ve been feeling a little down about it. I hear a lot of people say how abortion is wrong and so on. Being pregnant enough is hard but to have to hear people tell me how horrible I am hurts. People dont realize how much I would be giving up if I have this baby. I have no job I live way home with my mother no car nothing to give a child. No one thinks about the mother. I just need advice on how to cope after the procedure. What should I expect ? Thank you
queenB
Hello!
Thanks for posting. It sounds like you have some friends who really care about you. I’m sorry if they have not been constructive with their words, though. At the end of the day, at least your friends have been honest with you and not just told you what you wanted to hear.Having an abortion is not easy emotionally or physically. The physical recovery varies depending upon how far along you are and what type of procedure you have. The emotional recovery is what can really be the most difficult part in some instances.
Since you have asked for advice on how to cope, I am happy to share with you. The emotional effects after an abortion can range from mild to severe. Many women say they experience regret, anxiety, depression, guilt, and more. I have spoken with women who regret their abortion 30 years afterward. One time I spoke with a man who regretted his girlfriends abortion decades ago. A friend of my had her abortion in February and every year she goes through a cycle of depression and not being able to get out of bed because the date of her abortion and the lost of her child upsets her.
However, there are post abortion recovery groups that you can join. They are free and confidential support groups in which women meet in a safe environment and work through the emotional effects of their abortion. I have spoken with women who have had great success in these groups. To find a free support group in your area, just go to http://www.optionline.org.
Though many have had success in post abortion support groups, most would agree that if you have the choice whether or not to have your abortion, you should not do it. If you have the chance to save the life of your child now, you should take that step out of love. No one says that being a mother is an easy thing to do, but it is one of the most rewarding.
It sounds like you are thinking of an abortion because you have financial concerns (no job, no car, etc.). Pregnancy resource centers are located across the United States and they help with all of their pregnancy needs for free. They offer clothing for your baby, diapers, bottles, formula, and more. You are not alone and if you want to choose life for your baby you can! The resources are available to you for free. To find the pregnancy resource center that is closest to you, just go to http://www.optionline.org.
Let us know if you have more questions or need more help.
MB
Hi there :),
How are you going? Thanks for posting your concerns about your pregnancy. First off, I would like to offer some words of encouragement and support during this time: I understand it must be difficult at the moment, but we are to love, support and encourage you during your pregnancy. Here is a great website if you would like to take a look: https://www.heartbeatinternational.org/. It’s got some great information and also helps you to find your nearest pregnancy resource centre. Pleas consider yours and your child’s life! You are both so precious!!
Love,
Maria xxMolly
Hi OneLove-
Have you made any decisions about your pregnancy yet? I just wanted you to know I am here if you need to talk and just vent!
Hugs to you!
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