Hi,
My girlfriend and I are both 16. We both attend high school and I am in football. I have a 3.9 GPA and was planning on attending college and becoming a pharmacist. Today, July 31st, she had a positive result on a pregnancy test. I’ve gone through and told my mom. I couldn’t hold back the tears, knowing that I have let down so many of my family members that have been so supportive of my success and achievements. My mom asked what I was going to do with my options, being abortion, adoption, or parenthood, and I told her that abortion was out of the question. As for adoption, I could live with that, but I don’t know if my girlfriend could after 9 months of pregnancy and having to let it go. I couldn’t live with myself if I hurt her that way. I will talk with her more about what SHE wants to do and than plan from there. I just wanted to get some advice and some feedback. Realistic advice is necessary. I can’t be in denial or anything.
Some questions:
– If we chose Parenthood, could I still finish school and move on to college?
– Is there anyone with success story after being a teen parent?
– What do I do if I don’t have that nice of a father and he would flip if I told him?
– My girlfriend wanted to know if it’s selfish to hope that its a boy? Because my mother just gave birth to my little brother and if our child was a boy, we would have baby equipment already for him. I told her that its not selfish or wrong to hope for a certain gender, but whatever you do get you have to love and treat like it should be treated.
– How should I cope with my family being disappointed?
– Should I quit this football season (its just starting but my girlfriend might only be a month pregnant.) and just get a job or should I play it out and than get a job in late November?
– And if anyone has any other advice, tips, information, or anything, will you please tell it to me?
Thanks,
