I am going through a hard time at the moment so I wanted to share my story. Just over a month ago I found out that I was about 5 weeks pregnant, I was so surprised because I had unprotected sex so many times and nothing had happened so I guess I considered myself “broken” in that department.
My partner of almost 7 years found out about the pregnancy and was extremely unhappy- in fact he told me that if I had this baby then he would leave me. We are both only 22 and he told me that we weren’t ready and had to have a house, make more money etc before we even think about having kids. I tried to tell him that maybe having a baby would be a good thing and make us grow up but every time I tried to mention it he wouldn’t want to listen.
I went to see my GP and told her that I was thinking about an abortion, she had to give me blood tests and send me off to have an ultrasound before she could refer me to the clinic so I did that. I had my ultrasound when I was 7 weeks pregnant and to be honest I couldn’t see much except the little formation of a baby, it really did touch my heart. I spent the next couple of weeks thinking about what to do, I knew if I kept this baby then i’d have to give up my life with my partner, I also knew that I had a lot of growing up to do and that I wasn’t ready to look after a baby. I saw a counselor who pretty much told me to do what I want to do. I tried to get advice from my parents, friends, colleagues and they all said something similar- “do what your heart tells you to do” “what ever decision you make is the right one”.
Week 8 of my pregnancy I went to the abortion clinic where I was there for 3 hours. First I had to see a counselor who asked me about 20 times if I was sure this is what I wanted to do, then I had to see a doctor who went through the procedure with me, then finally I had to see a nurse who booked an appointment for the abortion.
My abortion was all booked in. For the week waiting for it I had so many emotions going through my head, when you are pregnant your whole body changes and you do have a connection with the baby. There were times when I wanted to back out and keep the baby and times when I knew I was doing the right thing because of the situation I’m in now.
Less than 24 hours ago I was just over 9 weeks pregnant and thought I was making the right decision and got to the hospital ready to have the abortion. They called my name and bought me into a waiting room with about 9-10 other girls who were having an abortion that same day. The doctors and nurses were very friendly and comforting. We got shown to our beds where we were given pills and sedatives to make us relax. There was a certain pill that had to be taken to make your muscles relax so it was easier for the doctor to do the procedure- the nurse told me that after that pill is taken then there is no changing my mind as the pill can cause a miscarriage. She handed me the pill and I looked at it for a second, I swallowed it and at that moment I did feel a sense of loss- I knew there was no going back.
The doctor called me in to the room and I lay on the operating table, I got given a local anesthetic in my cervix and within literally 3 minutes the procedure was all done- my baby had been taken out 🙁 At the time because I had so much medication I didn’t really have much emotion about it because I was so “drugged up” but when I got home that’s when things started to sink in.
I started feeling guilty and upset, I felt a real sense of loss and emptiness. My world just didn’t feel the same anymore. I know I made a mistake and now there is no going back. I just can’t help wondering what my baby would have been like, it is that strangest feeling knowing that it was growing inside of you and then it suddenly being taken away. I know now that if I could go back then I would.
I know that what I did was immature and down right stupid and now I have to live the rest of my life thinking “what if?” and living with the hurt and guilt of what I did. In my opinion giving life to a beautiful baby- YOUR baby- will probably be the best thing that could ever happen to you. I really hope that no one has to feel the way that I do.
Hello sorry u had to feel that pain please know bye telling your sorry you have saved my baby’s life and for this god bless you,thank you
oh am sorry 4 that, hope u dont do it again.
hi sorry to hear .. im going thro exactly the same thing but i already have to kids .. i found out i was pregnant a couple of days ago and all i keep getting from my other half is make sure u make an appointment , a couple of years ago i had an abortion for the sake of my partner and it was the biggest mistake of my life i wa soo down and if i go through with it this time its gunna rip me in to peaces but i feel like i should do as he says otherwise he will leave me and ill be stuck at home with 3 kids and i dont want that …. xx
This was me just 2 months ago. I'm 18 and when I found out I was pregnant, my boyfriend of 3 years wanted me to have an abortion and wasn't willing to change his mind for anything, he even said he'd leave me if I kept it. So I made an appointment at a hospital and went for a consultation and they worked out that I was 8 weeks pregnant. At the appointment I cried and it broke my heart to think I was talking about getting rid of my baby. So when me and my boyfriend got home I said to him I'm keeping this baby, and he said he would stick by me whatever my decision. I'm now around 11 weeks pregnant and have my first scan next week which is the dating scan. Now my boyfriend and I are happier than ever and he even says good bye to my stomach and kisses it when he leaves.
Girls you just need to remember to stand up for you and your baby because your baby needs its mummy to be strong! Stand up girls!
I got pregnant over 3 years ago and my boyfriend at the time decided he will bully me to have an abortion he went way beyong his limits and landed at my parents home with pics of me on a holiday in a bikini along with a very malicious letter and my pregnancy notes very nasty piece of work. I left home and had the baby he is nearly 4 I ditched the boyfriend and you know what he is 34 now still laying the field no job and wants nothing to do with his son. I have since re-married and my husband is great with my child he treats him like his own. DON'T LET THESE GUYS BULLY YOU. They will never go under the knife for you the guys thats that do that are not a man they are a waste of time therefore ditch them if they treathen to leave you. Having my boy has changed my life for the better and he is still a waste of time jobless and childless what a waste of life!!!!!!! I am currently 12 weeks pregnant and my hubby is so supportive therefore all men are not the same its just some time wasters….. You don't need them do ehat you think is right for you and your baby not the partner that can't even stand beside you….
Hey i know how you feel im 7 weeks pregnant. when i found out me and my boyfriend said the same thing his not ready this isnt the plan.
I got my abortion appointment and to be honest with you it goes totally against all my believes.I knew i had a special person growing inside me a blessing that god has blessed me with. i told my boyfriend im keeeping the baby weither he likes it or not he can leave if he doesnt want to be apart of the wonderful gift we will be having. He looked at me and cried till today we both very happy and love our baby boy Leshaun alot his our pride and joy coming home to him every night makes the decision of walking out of that abortion clinic even more great.
But just remember someday you will see your baby again and for each and every little pain u going through God is preparing and even Greater blessing for u.
be strong and count on him
Hi, when I was 20 I found out I was pregnant. The father was a result of a one night stand and I didnt even have his phone number to contact him. I desperately wanted to contact him to tell him I was pregnant but didnt know how too. I was upset that he didnt even care about me enough to give me his number but I believe he just used me for the night and didnt think about the consequences. The first thing I did was go to a sexual health centre and they confirmed I was about six weeks pregnant, the first thing I thought was I wanted an abortion but the earliest one they could get was two weeks time. During that time I had to carry that baby inside me knowing it was growing, it was the hardest thing I ever had to do, I cryed all the time yet a part of me had a connection with the baby and told me I wanted it. I was too scared to tell my parents so arranged for a friend to go with me. The day of the abortion arrived and I was scared and didnt know what to expect. I went there and had a scan where I saw the embryo by this point I was about seven and a half weeks pregnant, I was asked whether I wanted to change my mind but by that point although I was sad my mind was made up. I was put to sleep and when I woke up the embryo was taken out. I went home and cryed. Now Im 27 and have two children of my own but recently have had recurring thoughts of what would have happened if I had kept my child, it is very hard. I love my children dearly but feel a part of me is missing. This is just to let people know that having an abortion is not an easy option, it has long term consequences. Too me to have your child and bring it up however hard it is is the best option, and if I could turn back the time and keep my baby then I would but it is too late now.
hey i also dont know whether am pregnant or what, i slept with my boyfriend on the 2nd of October without protection and because i have two boyfriends now i dont know if am pregnant who will be the father because slept with both of them but the other one we always use a protection.please help
wow, im literally crying right now.
i just found out i am pregnant today and the first thing i thought of was abortion. my bf supports me in any decision i make. but its really hard for me. after reading your story, im second thinking if i want to abort. /:
I'm 15 and i was in the same situation , but i decided to keep my son . Girl You Shouldn't let that guy influence your decision whether he's the dad or not.Think of it as he might not love you forever but , those babies will have a unconditional love for you forever because your their mom. I kept my son because like you said god is trusting you with this child because he knows you can do it , god never gives you more than he knows you can handle. Anyways Best Of Luck .