Having read over many of the letters written by young beautiful girls, I hope that my letter will help. When I found out I was pregnant in 1972, I was 14 years old (I am now 53), abortions were illegal in Michigan. A friend of the family took me to a place where they were being performed anyway, at that time I just wanted this to be over, to be able to go back home and continue “my life” as it had never happened. After being examined I was told to get dressed and return to the waiting room, I would soon find out I was almost 6 months pregnant.
I had always been irregular, and hadn’t even had a period for very long, so a few months without one seemed like no big deal. 6 months??? needless to say I did not have an abortion, I was terrified, I believed my family would be so ashamed, I was so ashamed, I asked spirit to help me, to guide me, to stand with me…. I attended a school for unwed mothers, continued my education, met some very beautiful other girls and had my son in 1973. With much help and support from my family, we lived a happy life. There are many emotional changes however, that I was not prepared for. He became my whole world, the pride I had for him helped mask the shame I still (unconsciously) carried for myself. I buried myself in him, and as he got older and didn’t need me as much, I was lost emotionally. The reason I want to share this is so that others may take this journey day by day, keeping their independence and teaching the same to their child. I have learned that our job as a parent is to teach our children to be a self sufficient, educated, loving, giving, growing individual. To always be there for them and yet to be ready and willing to push them out of the nest when the time is right. And to the girls who have gotten abortions, don’t continue to beat yourselves up, you did what you had to do at that time. Let that time go with love. In your heart and mind, send it off to the heavens with a loving heart and don’t look back. I would hate to see you get to be my age and still carry the guilt and pain with you, we only have one time around here and everything has a lesson in it, yours may have been forgiveness, forgiveness for yourself. Take a deep breath, hold your head high and continue to grow and learn. Help others that may be in need….Love is the common element that we all need.
i am 23 years old and i aborted my baby in 2009 april 7 and i was so ashamed of my self. every time when i see other women with their children i i felt guilty en i would estimate he/her age. i always felt guilty and i decided to fall preg again in 2010 just to fill the gap en emptyness i was felling, i knew i can replace a child with the other but i had to have a baby. now i have an adorable baby and i am thankful to god for giving another chance.:D:D
dear readera i have had 3 abortions can you believe it i am ashamed of my decisions but sometimes i didn't seem to see the easy way out:sad: sometimes i wish i could have done things differently i wish i could have waited till i was older before having sexual intercourse pity its late i have already meseed up my lie
on 07 March 2009 i did a n abortion and i was 7 weeks pregnant then 2010 june i became pregnant again and i kept the pregnancy but on 07th december 2010 i gave birth at 6 months to a premature baby boy dat survived for only one week and died on the 14th decemcer 2010. so i wanna know did the abortion do anything to me that i cant carry the baby for 9 months?
I think the best and safe way is to abstain until marriage. In that way one won't have to worry about whether she's pregnant or not, and also to avoid the pain of having to go through abortion. I learnt the hard way, I wish I could turn back the clock to before I had my first child, because when I fell pregnant for the second time, I killed my baby through abortion and it was not worth it. I suffered a lot, but I received help and got victory through Christ. But I wouldn't advice any young woman to engage in sex and let alone have an abortion. Besides, I personally think that “True love waits. So if your boyfriend loves you enough, he can wait for you, until you both ready to get married. So, Stand Up Girl.
Thank you for your story (: ! I loved reading it. And I look up to you.
As I am 14, and my baby is due in November. At first we were going to get an abortion and now my boyfriend regrets it so much. (I never wanted one) And now we decided to keep pour little one and we can't wait to meet it!
I will be finding out what the sex is on the 31st of this month. And I will be going back to school in September until the baby comes, and then going back as soon as I am ready.
It is defffinetly going to be difficult but with all the help and support I am getting I know I can manage.
There are deffinetly going to be a lot of emotions as well, as I am already expirencing many being almost 28 weeks pregnant.
ps. I just recently told my mom I was pregnant about a week ago.