Having read over many of the letters written by young beautiful girls, I hope that my letter will help. When I found out I was pregnant in 1972, I was 14 years old (I am now 53), abortions were illegal in Michigan. A friend of the family took me to a place where they were being performed anyway, at that time I just wanted this to be over, to be able to go back home and continue “my life” as it had never happened. After being examined I was told to get dressed and return to the waiting room, I would soon find out I was almost 6 months pregnant.
I had always been irregular, and hadn’t even had a period for very long, so a few months without one seemed like no big deal. 6 months??? needless to say I did not have an abortion, I was terrified, I believed my family would be so ashamed, I was so ashamed, I asked spirit to help me, to guide me, to stand with me…. I attended a school for unwed mothers, continued my education, met some very beautiful other girls and had my son in 1973. With much help and support from my family, we lived a happy life. There are many emotional changes however, that I was not prepared for. He became my whole world, the pride I had for him helped mask the shame I still (unconsciously) carried for myself. I buried myself in him, and as he got older and didn’t need me as much, I was lost emotionally. The reason I want to share this is so that others may take this journey day by day, keeping their independence and teaching the same to their child. I have learned that our job as a parent is to teach our children to be a self sufficient, educated, loving, giving, growing individual. To always be there for them and yet to be ready and willing to push them out of the nest when the time is right. And to the girls who have gotten abortions, don’t continue to beat yourselves up, you did what you had to do at that time. Let that time go with love. In your heart and mind, send it off to the heavens with a loving heart and don’t look back. I would hate to see you get to be my age and still carry the guilt and pain with you, we only have one time around here and everything has a lesson in it, yours may have been forgiveness, forgiveness for yourself. Take a deep breath, hold your head high and continue to grow and learn. Help others that may be in need….Love is the common element that we all need.
i am 23 years old and i aborted my baby in 2009 april 7 and i was so ashamed of my self. every time when i see other women with their children i i felt guilty en i would estimate he/her age. i always felt guilty and i decided to fall preg again in 2010 just to fill the gap en emptyness i was felling, i knew i can replace a child with the other but i had to have a baby. now i have an adorable baby and i am thankful to god for giving another chance.:D:D
dear readera i have had 3 abortions can you believe it i am ashamed of my decisions but sometimes i didn't seem to see the easy way out:sad: sometimes i wish i could have done things differently i wish i could have waited till i was older before having sexual intercourse pity its late i have already meseed up my lie
on 07 March 2009 i did a n abortion and i was 7 weeks pregnant then 2010 june i became pregnant again and i kept the pregnancy but on 07th december 2010 i gave birth at 6 months to a premature baby boy dat survived for only one week and died on the 14th decemcer 2010. so i wanna know did the abortion do anything to me that i cant carry the baby for 9 months?
I think the best and safe way is to abstain until marriage. In that way one won't have to worry about whether she's pregnant or not, and also to avoid the pain of having to go through abortion. I learnt the hard way, I wish I could turn back the clock to before I had my first child, because when I fell pregnant for the second time, I killed my baby through abortion and it was not worth it. I suffered a lot, but I received help and got victory through Christ. But I wouldn't advice any young woman to engage in sex and let alone have an abortion. Besides, I personally think that “True love waits. So if your boyfriend loves you enough, he can wait for you, until you both ready to get married. So, Stand Up Girl.
Thank you for your story (: ! I loved reading it. And I look up to you.
As I am 14, and my baby is due in November. At first we were going to get an abortion and now my boyfriend regrets it so much. (I never wanted one) And now we decided to keep pour little one and we can't wait to meet it!
I will be finding out what the sex is on the 31st of this month. And I will be going back to school in September until the baby comes, and then going back as soon as I am ready.
It is defffinetly going to be difficult but with all the help and support I am getting I know I can manage.
There are deffinetly going to be a lot of emotions as well, as I am already expirencing many being almost 28 weeks pregnant.
ps. I just recently told my mom I was pregnant about a week ago.
i like your advice its really encouraging
was your baby aborted?? as of now i am 20 days delayed. is there any change that my menstruation will come?? im not ready to get pregnant at the moment.
It IS possible to get pregnant without actual intercourse, the chances are very slim but not impossible….May I ask why you and your bf are fooling around the way you are if you are not ready to have sex and don't want a baby? I mean what you are doing is still a type of sex, you are exposing yourselves to one another in a very intimate and vulnerable way and it only takes one split second to go too far….its like standing beside a pool, not wanting to go in but just sticking your toes in the water, all it takes is a slight nudge and you will fall in….if you don't want to fall in, stay away from the edge…anyways, the best thing to do is to avoid ALL sexual contact AT LEAST until you know for sure if you are pregnant or not…wait 2 weeks, take a test, if it is negative then wait another week and retest…sometimes stress can cause you to be late and it sounds like you are worked up over the situation so that could be just the reason you have not started….also sudden and extreme changes in diet can cause a missed period, if you stop all sexual contact and have a negative test and still have not started within 3-4 weeks I would highly recommend going to the doctor to make sure something else is not a problem….If you call this number you can get some help as well, 1-800-395-HELP, they will give you the number and location to the closest Pregnancy Resource Center to you where you can get a FREE and CONFIDENTIAL test…We are all here for you as well, as cliche as it sounds though…if you play with fire you WILL get burnt! Slow things down, there is plenty of time down the road for a physical relationship…take the time to build your relationship in other ways, find common goals and hobbies…Much Love…Meg, meg@standupgirl.com
hey,
im 16 and i've never had sex. but im afraid that i could be pregnant, because my boyfriend and i often fool around (fingering, oral etc), and im scared that maybe he got sperm on his fingers and then he fingered me? my period is late, i got my last one on july 12th and there is usually 30 days or so in between each one. I'm also really confused because 4 days ago my boyfriend fingered me in the shower and i noticed blood came out of my vagina (which i assumed as the start of my period), so i used a tampon as per usual. but when i went to change it i noticed there was only a small amount of blood on it (unusual for my first day), so i thought that maybe i was stressed and that i was just having a lighter one. but when i changed it the second time there was no blood on the tampon at all..and since then i have not had any blood. is it possible that this could have been spotting? or maybe my boyfriend scratched the inside of my vagina? it is not sore or anything? please help im very scared.
reading this really made me cry, i am 16 and had an abortion in november and never told my parents, i feel like ill never get over the pain and shame, i feel disgusted in myself and hate what i have done. I wasnt sure what i wanted to do and have an amazing supportive boyfriend but when i confided in my closest friend she told everyone at college and after a lot of abuse i felt cornered into abortion. I dont ever feel like ill get over this. I found this website today and reading other girls stories has made me realise im not alone
Sounds like me. If I told my family I was pergnant they will mostly kick me out. But its not like we dbt try and be careful I mean I was pm birthcontrol and it still happen. Ya its hard to say u want a abortion because ur killing ur child. I dont want one but really I dont have much of a chice.
hi!
Please get a early detection pregnancy test kit or you can go to a clinic for pregnancy test serum (through blood test)…it will help you determine your present status and will also help you decide what you need and want to do at this moment.
Hello I am new to this site, HOPE YOU ARE WELL? i NEED SOME ADVICE. CAN YOU HELP ?
i really need someone to help me or give me advice, i started dating my boyfriend on the 5th of november 2010, i found out i was 6 weeks pregnant on the 5th of jan,2011.
i had an abortion on the 6th of jan, and also had the implonon put it while i had the abortion, so i didnt think i could fall pregnant again,but my boyfriend and i were sexualy active one week after the abortion. now 5 weeks after the abortion im getting symptoms of pregnantcy again, everyone thinks im being stupid and i shouldnt worrie about it, can anyone pleas tell me what the chances are of falling pregnant after abortion with the implonon?? someone pleas help!!
I believe you are amazing and wonderful to give this kind of support for such girls as myself. We all make bad choices but having your son was never one of them. I hope your strong still!