I lost my virginity with a guy. Then about three months later, I got pregnant.

He did it on purpose, I suppose. But also, we weren’t using any means of protection besides the pulling out method, which is not a smart method to use by the way. We knew I was pregnant from the moment we had sex. My boyfriend went and got in trouble with the law and got arrested and got sent to juvenile hall. Meanwhile, I waited a whole 4 weeks, just to make sure I gave it a long enough time so there wouldn’t be any mistakes. I went to a drug store and stole my pregnancy test, because I had no money. And after two tests, sure enough, I was pregnant and 14. I was teased for being a virgin because I was the last one to have sex out of my friends, and now I was the first to get pregnant. Funny how things work.

I told my mother about a month later. She cried, and eventually made me move in with my sister because she couldn’t handle it. I wasn’t allowed to go to regular school because my mother wouldn’t allow it. So I went to a school full of pregnant girls. I hated it there, and I hated it at my sister’s because I didn’t know anyone and she moved me away from all my friends. The father got out when I was two months pregnant. I ended up staying with him most of the time, basically living with him, goin back to my sister occasionally. My mother had no knowledge of this. The day I went to find out the sex of my baby, I was ecstatic. I found out i was having a girl, and then the same day, I found out she had a heart defect. My boyfriend was there for me, but we did start to argue a lot, becuz he started drinkin and partyin which he never use to do, the whole time I was pregnant. But I had no doubt in my mind that he would be a good father, and I thought I knew that we would make it and be a happy family. Then I finally told my father I was pregnant when I was 6 months. It broke his heart. I thought he would never talk to me again. But he ended up loving her like everyone else.

I gave birth to her a month early when i was 15, and she was beautiful. There’s no word to describe it. 6 pounds, 2 oz. Looked just like me lol. I brought her back to my boyfriend’s. He was around all day everyday, until she was about 4 months old and wasn’t new anymore. He started leavin me alone, goin out with is friends. And I couldn’t really go anywhere because I breast fed her till she was 19 months. And he didn’t like the fact that i wanted to stay home with her and I wouldn’t take her out because the doctor said she couldn’t till she was 8 months old because she was diagnosed with genetic heart disease, and polysplenia. I stopped goin over to his house all together because him and his twin brother held parties down in their basement almost every night, so I had to leave.

To shorten this story, my boyfriend ended up bein the exact opposite person than i thought he was. After datin him for a year and a half, he started layin his hands on me. And it got to the point where he did it everytime he got mad or we fought. He ended up bein possessive. After our two year anniversary, I found out he had cheated on me with 6 different females. And two of them while I was pregnant. I found out about that last February, and I finally left him almost 2 months ago. Because he just wouldn’t stop hitting me. And each time he said he was goin to change, he only did for a day or two and went right back.

It was the hardest thing I had to do, and I still love him and miss him. But I’m so much happier now without him. And I focused on my daughter and school in which I made straight A’s last year. And I’m workin on a scholarship. Just because you’ve had baby duznt mean, you give up and have to stick with the father. I’m still doin it, I haven’t dropped out and I’m 17 now and my daughter will be two. Just because you’ve had a baby by someone, don’t let him treat you bad. No one should ever put up with, what I put up with. You’re a mother, so be a good role model to your child. He’s the only guy I’ve had sex with, the father of my child and I was with him for three years, and I finally left him. I’m datin other people, keepin my options opened. Just havin friends, without anyone breathin down my neck. I’m a better mother, hell, imma better everything.

I’m sorry to say, but It’s very rare that guys change so don’t waste your time waitin for them to.