Hi Becky, I am pretty new to your site having only joined today, but I just wanted to say something. I have been reading the stories and testimonials of young women and girls on the site, and it struck me that I was not seeing tales from older “young women”. I am one of these older “young women”; I am 33 years old. I am not American, I hail from a little island in the Caribbean called Trinidad.
I met my baby’s father, Maxwell, (who is not from my country) on the 4th April. Within 3 weeks of meeting him, I was pregnant although I NEVER THOUGHT that I could conceive this quickly. At the moment I happen to be 3 and a half months pregnant for Maxwell and he has left without a backward glance (though he is still in my country) as soon as he was told the news. It was and still is a shocking experience, because one would tend to think that a man in his 30’s may tend to be more mature than when he is 16 or 18. How very wrong an assumption!!!!
I think that even at my age I have really been through the wringer on this one. My first thought was…”abort, abort now, before its too late”. I was 5 weeks pregnant when I found out that I was going to have a baby. I am currently in school full-time doing my Bachelor’s Degree, and since my initial separation, I have moved back into my mom’s house.
So here I am, a student at 33, divorced, unemployed, living in my mom’s home, and pregnant. Of course my first thought was “Nikki, do not complicate your life any further, just abort”!! I did not!
I am 3 and one half months pregnant right now and its not been an easy pregnancy so far. I am diabetic which creates greater complications and I have also been spotting for the past 5 weeks and no doctor nor consultant that I visit can seem to give me an explanation. All they say is that spotting and bleeding happen in 20% of all pregnancies. Thats not exactly a comforting thought!! And let us not forget the bills which keep piling up and being added to on a daily basis! I am just thankful that my mom has seen fit to assist me for the while. My best friend of 19 years, Mel, has also been and keeps on being a tremendous support.
I would have aborted instantly upon finding out. But I stopped and took the time to listen and to pray, and the message that I received was crystal clear. No abortion! From every bad situation in life comes something good, and God has a plan for me and for this life that I am bringing into this world.
So I just want to say that these situations happen to all women, notwithstanding age, country nor creed, and it affects us all alike. What’s different is how we each respond to our individual situations…how we take the bitter with the sweet, and when life hands us a bag of lemons….MAKE LEMONADE…LOL!!!!
Nikki
My girl my prayer are with you and your family and friend. I was in your boat 6 years ago. I did thought abortion also my doctor didnt approve of me to do it . I pray about because deep down I know that it was wrong with my Lord .
I remember be told I would not be able to have a child and now that the have bless me with one and I am thinking about killing this child that the Lord have bless me with.
I have my little girl and she is the sweetest child any woman would dream of, she is more than a blessing to me.
You will more find the stenght to bring up the your baby and you are bless that you have your mum to stand by you.
It is your ex loss and your blessing .
I will be pray for you and I know that the Lord is with you always and your baby.
Hey Nikki 🙂 I was reading your letter and couldn't get over how familiar your story sounded. I was a 32 yr old sole parent of 4 children, had just moved to Australia the year before, I was in between houses so was living with my sister in law and then after 6 weeks of dating a guy I found myself pregnant and the guy was gone! I had let him go a few weeks before I found out I was pregi because he stole from me but even when he found out he wanted me to abort…anyways I went through hell during my pregnancy, had all day/every day morning sickness and also had to deal with the emotions of the situation…to cut a long story short I got to the point where I considered abortion too…but like u I couldn't do it. I also prayed a lot and the answer was also crystal clear to not abort and also to not adopt (I knew I could never give her up once I had her)…and you're so right…there is good in every situation. I loved her from the second she was born…she has been a huge blessing to our family…I can't imagine life without her and amazingly…everything has turned out just fine…all my worries were for nothing. What amazed me the most was that even though I got myself in a real bad situation…Heavenly Father had already set in action a way for us all to be blessed from the bad situation. I know u know that you and your baby will be fine…you sound like u have good support which is really important. I wish u all the best and thanks for sharing your experience with us all 🙂
Aroha tino nui
Kate (from New Zealand)