Every girl, every woman, makes mistakes. It’s inevitable. Unfortunately, we put the spotlight on our mistake allowing ourselves to feel shame or to feel inferior to others. But we should turn off the spotlight and only be concerned with whether or not we started making right decisions after our mistakes. No one can change the past. Not possible. Can’t happen. We live in the now, and can make the future different than the past. It’s never too late to turn a mistake into an opportunity.
Everyone needs to accept that they are not perfect; therefore, in their past there are going to be blunders. Everyone has these blunders – even the best of us. When you make a mistake the first thing you have to do is accept it, but after that, you have to make the decision to not let the mistake define you. If you make a mistake that you regret you are in good company. There is nothing new under the sun and there is no mistake that you have made that someone else has not already made.
Don’t allow yourself to believe the lies that pop up in your head. “You should never have been so careless”, “You were stupid for having done that”, “She’ll never be my friend if she finds out what I did”. If you have these thoughts you can counteract them with the truth. “I am smart enough”, “Why wouldn’t she want to be friends with me?”, “I made a mistake, but I made the right decision after that.”
Once you have identified the negative thoughts and started to try to replace them with the truth. It’s time to pick up the pieces. It’s never too late to start making right decisions even if you have made a thousand wrong decisions.
Getting pregnant before marriage is a mistake, but that is in the past and it cannot be changed. The present is the only thing that you can control. Ending the life of the person inside of you only adds a mistake to the one you already made. Choosing to parent or choosing adoption are good choices. Even if you made the mistake of having an abortion, it is never too late to start over and decide to wait to have sex until you are married. No matter what you have done there is always an opportunity to do right.
It is never too late to decide that you will remain faithful to your future husband even though you have messed up. So many people, after losing their virginity or having it taken from them feel that there is no longer any point in saving themselves for marriage. This is just a lie. There is always time to save yourself (even if you are engaged). You can make the decision to wait no matter how many people you have had sex with.
Take the spotlight off your past mistakes. Focus on what you can do right now to begin to make positive choices. You can’t live in the past, you must live in the now, but the future has yet to be lived.
My advice to all women who said they made mistakes is that now you must learn from it. I made a mistake too by falling pregnant twice and the second time had an abortion, but by God's grace I through the confession of sins I was forgiven and learnt from my mistake. The best way ladies is to ABSTAIN. You can't play with fire and expect not to be burnt; or play with a dangerous snake, hoping it won't bite you. Meaning you can't have sex, if you don't want to fall pregnant. If your goal is to have children when you are married, then wait for the right man in purity. It is possible with the Lord, He can keep you. Lives of innocent babies are taken because of our mistakes, and we are one day going to stand before the Judgment Throne if we don't repent from it. So let's us be “Stand up Girls” by saying “NO” to sex and not to abortion.
my mother told me before that through my mistake or failure it makes me a better person,I told her why? she just smiled at me and said, you will understand it someday. She's correct there's a lot of mistakes and failures that came in to my life it make me strong and a better person. Why? Because from all those mistakes i committed i learned from it,so every failures that i had in my life i askes my why it happened to me until i found the answers and i always make it sure that if i encountered again the same situation i already what to do to avoid commit mistakes that i did before..
I feel like a monster! I have cheated on my boyfriend! I don't know what happened to me that made me do such a thing. I was the kind of person that would never stand cheating. I feel like I was possesed by something when I did it, but I feel terrible and all I want is to die crying my eyes out. The worst part is that I think I am pregnant. I took the plan B pill almost 2 hours after this guy came inside of me. I am so desperate to know whether I am pregnant or not. I have asked Jesus for forgiveness from the very bottom of my heart. I cannot have a baby with this man. I love my boyfriend to pieces and I hate myself for what I did to him. I need advice or somethign that can help me with this emotional wreck. :cry::cry:
Thank you so much for writing such a wonderful story,i can't stop the fact of forwarding this story to my family nad friends.:-)
thanks for this article. ..i just made a big mistake in my whole life recently…. and this article made an impact on me since i lost my confidence to trust another guy who would be my future husband that someone who can trully love and accept me who i am…
im so thankful for what u wrote. it continues 2 b a blessing 2 many b/c its so true. none of us are perfect. i tried so hard 2 b perfect feel perfect and have the perfect life but it continues 2 b more of a road block than a help. im learning non judgment & humility @ present. im learning b conent as long as i feel that my heart is n the right place. thanks again girl!
i dont believe in making mistakes.i rather say we get carried away or maybe we get too tempted to try something new.we get ourselves into practises that we know exactly,that we know of their consequencesbut we get to be too high to think of tommorrow.i believe that we can say it is a mistake on the first time but not on the second time.we olso need to think of issues like pregnancy and hiv before we engage into eating an unwrapped sweet.or else we must eat it with its wrapping paper;-)
That was awesome. I know God has forgiving me and I am saving myself for my husband..I may have a made a mistake but I aint making no more. Thank God for His saving grace