Dear Becky — I just recently came across your website and a lot of the stories on here from mothers have really touched me.My name is Nikkiand I am 19 years old.In January of this year I found out I was pregnant.It seemed to turn my life upside down and at that moment I knew my life was going to change.I realized I was going to have to give up on the person I wanted to be at the time and focus on the future with a child.
The day I took my pregnancy test I showed my mom and dad and they were really upset. We sat down and talked about it and they decided to be there for me and help me with verything possibley they could.At first i was so scared to tell my dad because I thought he was going to disown me, but i was so wrong. The next day I went to the doctor and I took another pregnancy test and it showed positive, at first Ithought maybe it was all a dream, but when they told me it was positive I realized I was going to be a mom.Something I am not ready for. That day I called my boyfriend( we hadn’t talked in two weeks because I had a feeling I was pregnant and I didn’t want to have to face him at the time)and at first it started off as a regular conversation between us then I just came out and told him,”I’m pregnant and it’s your baby”.He didn’t have much to say and told me he’d call back later to talk to me. After his last phone call he decided that he would deal with it when I was farther along. He also told me I wasn’t self motivated and I needed to get my life on track. He didn’t seem to care how I was feeling at the time and told me,”This is nothing new woman go through this everyday”. I was so upset and was crying knowing that he basically didn’t want to be here for me when I needed him the most. I felt so alone All I wanted is for him to talk to me and comfort me , but I knew it wasn’t possible.
It has been over a month since I have heard from him and I am now almost 11 weeks pregnant. I have realized that I am going to be a good mother to this baby whether or not he is in this baby’s life. I have my mother, my father, and my granparents here for me. I may not have everything the way I wanted it to be , but I realize to i’m more fortunate then some girls who have nobody there for them I feel lucky in a lot of ways.I am looking so foward to the new beginning of my life and I know there is only more to follow. It’s not easy being a single mom, but I would never take back God’s gift to me.
Nikki | nrsugarbear@yahoo.com
Dearest Nikki – my name is Lisa and I am from the Stand-Up Girl. When I read your e-mail my heart hurt for you – but at the same time I was so proud of you and how you have taken a stand. You are a true Stand-Up Girl!
But also – I just wanted to share with you that … did you know that your baby already has a heartbeat? He/she can already hear your voice, and they also react to loud sounds (like – they jump). You can’t feel it yet because your baby is too small. You will begin to feel something that feels like gassy bubbles very soon. Then you know you are feeling your baby move. I’m excited for you.
Please let us know what you have. Thank you for your e-mail. I am so proud of you. Keep holding your head high! You are a true Stand-Up Girl.
Luv Lisa | Contact Becky
